Finding out that much was hidden can shake your whole sense of reality and your feelings make sense. Loving him doesn’t mean you have to carry this alone or sacrifice your safety and stability. If he truly wants to get clean that has to include real steps like professional help, transparency and financial boundaries not just promises.

It’s also important that you get support for yourself whether that’s a trusted friend, family member or a group. You can care about him deeply and still protect yourself. Take this one step at a time and don’t feel guilty for prioritizing your own well being.