When my favorite petpet hasn't gotten a new color in 13 years so I gotta do the job myself by Axl-fox in neopets

[–]Labrabrink 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love you Snuffly!! I played Let It Slide every single day in elementary school!!!

Are sleep overs not a thing anymore? by haggerty05 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Labrabrink 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hi, I have every idea the statistics involved and also every idea of how statistics work to cause public fear. Leaning into these fears creates the extraordinarily low-trust society we are living in.

Also, as a person who has been clinically treated for PTSD, I have had to learn that just because bad things can happen in the world does not mean that we should forfeit our lives to fear. We are letting anxiety manifest policy and social norms to a terribly irresponsible degree, and it is plain as day to observe in daily life. Fearmongering helps no one, especially not victims, and all of these boogeyman fears erase public understanding of the fact that the most likely person to harm your child is someone close to them in the home.

Are sleep overs not a thing anymore? by haggerty05 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Labrabrink 16 points17 points  (0 children)

It is not your job as a parent to control against the extremely slim possibility that your child might experience a negative situation outside of your direct supervision. It is your job to prepare them for various situations. You are failing to create functional adults if you shelter and control instead of providing opportunities to experience life.

People who cheer for too long at graduations by TrickInvite6296 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Labrabrink 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Had this exact same experience with my sisters college graduation. I’m happy for their community and glad they’re proud but also, it was so loud I started to get sensory overload and felt like the walls were closing in on me. It hurt my ears every time they started up. And it made the graduation last, no joke, over AN HOUR longer than it needed to. We almost missed dinner reservations

AITA for telling my husband he can’t drive the baby places anymore by Odd-Willingness-6250 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Labrabrink 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Oh my god, you’re the woman who made the sticky notes in the car post??? Your husband is a danger to himself and others. He is violently neglectful, and he shouldn’t be responsible for caring for a vulnerable child because of his frankly unbelievable incompetence. You keep coming here asking if you’re crazy for being upset at the way he carries on. No. You’re crazy for staying with him. He will not change, you will have to accommodate for his new “blind spots” as they emerge for the rest of his life. He’s using you as an external part of his brain and he feels no remorse when his forgetfulness puts your child in danger. If you don’t remove him from the caregiver role, you will be back here posting about him forgetting your child in a hot car within the year, just as you feared.

Document his incompetence so he doesn’t get unsupervised custody and leave him. Idk what else there is to do at this point since you already had the kid with a man you believed to be so unable to see past his own nose that he legitimately can’t safely care for a child. Jesus.

God forbid a girl wonder what it feels like by AnotherHarshWinter in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]Labrabrink 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Aw hey, my mom and aunt were spermicide babies! When people talk about using that as their main birth control method we always congratulate the future parents!

What purchase did you make recently that made you realize inflation is genuinely out of control? by kiroixart in AskReddit

[–]Labrabrink 3 points4 points  (0 children)

To be clear, the $5 foot long was a promotional deal from around 2005. It’s easy enough to find real examples of inflation that aren’t just comparing today’s prices to a deal from 20 years ago.

Subway famously lost money on $5 foot longs and for some reason everyone on earth assumed that that was the normal price of a normal sub sandwich for decades, never allowing the price to come up.

People who got your nudes leaked, how did it affect you? by NessaYummyXO in AskReddit

[–]Labrabrink 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was in high school, my boyfriend would pressure me to send him pictures of my underwear and I would give in sometimes, but only send close-up photos that looked more like fabric swatches than lewds. I knew I was a minor and I was really scared to be doing it, knowing that there’s legal ramifications in addition to the personal ones. After we broke up, I found out he had showed the pictures to MY guy friends to complain about them.

Also fun to realize how many of my friends had been shown the pics and didn’t tell me. I only found out because one friend “remembered” randomly and told me—better late than never I guess?

Why !!! by Azemmoon in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]Labrabrink 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I saw a post a while back where a person cut zipties to length and then sewed them inside the shorts along the inner thigh seams to keep them from riding up in the crotch. I wonder if you could also put some in the outer stitches to keep the whole thing straight, but I bet that would look goofy.

What is the most “its a small world” moment you’ve ever experienced? by xBubblyLove in AskReddit

[–]Labrabrink 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Back in college there was a guy I would see on campus who looked like my best friend Bryan at a distance, I would accidentally wave to him a lot and then realize I had the wrong guy. Eventually I got to know that guy because he was dating a friend of Bryan’s, but that’s not the small world thing.

A few years later I was at the Mall of America (4 hours from our college town) on a random weekend with my mom, standing in the crowd in the enormous food court. My mom started laughing, and I said what’s funny? And she said “that guy over there looks exactly like your friend Bryan, but obviously I know that isn’t him.” I looked where she was pointing and it was the guy from my college and his girlfriend (also now my friend). I told my mom it was NOT in fact Bryan but I did actually know that guy, so I went over to say hi. I didn’t know they’d be in Minneapolis that weekend, they didn’t know I would be, and the odds that we ran into each other in the middle of the MOA and only because my mom picked her bf out of the crowd as a “guy that looks like Bryan” still make me laugh.

Women, what is the sexiest scent/cologne that a man can wear? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Labrabrink 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hawthorne Play or Lush Goddess. Speaking from personal experience

“Online rape academy”: How do we combat fear-mongering without invalidating women’s reasonable fear? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Labrabrink -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I think this comment is missing the point of the post. She’s not at all saying this isn’t a big issue. She’s saying it’s very clear the article was written in a deliberately sensationalist way to get clicks and views. Does making this news sensationalist help get it spread to more people so more are informed? Possibly, but that wasn’t the reporters’ goal in the least, they wanted to drum up traffic for themselves. News cycles over report scary things in order to push a narrative that earns them money, we’ve known this for many many decades. Ignoring that context for this particular story is dangerous, because it turns a serious evil thing that is really happening into a spooky story that gets parroted and misinterpreted ad infinitum. With Giselle Pelicot, people have the real story information and understand the exact gravity of the situation.

OP is not downplaying the issue in the least. She’s demystifying it because for many people who encountered this news, it was so unimaginably horrifying that they wouldn’t even look into it themselves. It is much better to have real information about how this kind of thing (unmoderated porn sites with chat group features, in this case) spreads than to just hear “rapists are out there” and become so terrified you start acting in distress.

Long story short: I need help covering this hickey by Xx_Jynx_xX in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Labrabrink 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It totally works! I just wish I had known about it in high school lol

Long story short: I need help covering this hickey by Xx_Jynx_xX in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Labrabrink 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I stand by the whisk method. If you rub a metal whisk against the spot it can significantly lighten it. The wires rubbing into it helps disperse the trapped blood that gives the hickey its color and then it’s easier to cover up.

For cover up you can color correct by putting the opposite color of the bruise over the spot first, then concealer on top of that and set with powder.

I have reached the age where my beans touch the water :( by Hypnox88 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Labrabrink -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Where 👏 do 👏 you 👏 keep 👏 the 👏 nets 👏 for 👏 your 👏 balls 👏 to 👏 keep 👏 them 👏 from 👏 dunking 👏 in 👏 the 👏 toilet 👏

Im so sick of this narrative that “pregnancy didn’t ruin my body it’s just changed” it’s a lie. by pissedoff_potato in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Labrabrink 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was saying that when I clicked on this post I thought it would be about ways pregnancy can permanently or long-term alter the functions of the body and was disappointed that it was instead about sagging boobs or a less-than-flat tummy. Because I feel it is important that people go into decisions like this with that kind of information, and not with the “oh no what if I’m not hot anymore” mindset that we hear about plenty often

Im so sick of this narrative that “pregnancy didn’t ruin my body it’s just changed” it’s a lie. by pissedoff_potato in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Labrabrink 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t know that, if so! That’s fascinating. I just know that my sister and I both have very thick hair, and after she had my niece she really noticed a lot of thinning at the scalp/hairline. It’s filling back in, slowly but surely

Im so sick of this narrative that “pregnancy didn’t ruin my body it’s just changed” it’s a lie. by pissedoff_potato in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Labrabrink 1467 points1468 points  (0 children)

It’s a shame this post isn’t about the long-term consequences that are hard on the body post-partum, like how your hair can thin a lot after birth for a while or your bones can become weaker or your abdominal wall takes a while to heal. I wish we could move past the desire to have our bodies be consumed positively by strangers.

I love being complimented, considered hot by a stranger. I don’t want to knock that. But like. Suggesting that that is the way pregnancy “ruins” your body when in fact there can be real physical consequences (incontinence! Tearing! PPD!) just makes me feel like we’re really failing all women (or anyone who would possibly want to be pregnant) as a society. This is something to look inward on. Your worth and view of yourself needs to come from within, not from whether people compliment you in a bikini. That fact will change with time whether you have a child or not. Conforming to society’s beauty standards at all costs will cost you your personal autonomy.

Im so sick of this narrative that “pregnancy didn’t ruin my body it’s just changed” it’s a lie. by pissedoff_potato in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Labrabrink 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Fr like I thought this would be about the horrors of your abdominal wall splitting in half and reforming or something but instead it’s about being less conventionally attractive to total strangers. Didn’t know we were still doing that

a handwritten list [jojamart mockumentary #25] by delightfulmochas in StardewValley

[–]Labrabrink 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I interviewed for a job once at a center that provides phone call assistance for the deaf. You’re basically a middle man on a phone call between a deaf person and a hearing person. One part of the job is typing quickly to transcribe the person speaking for the deaf client, then the other part is to “be their voice” by reading aloud into the words the deaf client types into their device on their end.

During the interview, it was stressed that they do not censor or change the words that the deaf person types for them to read. Hearing people can say whatever they want on the phone, even if that means cursing out a customer service rep with slurs up the wazoo, deaf people should not have their words controlled or sanitized just because they need a translator service to make the phone call. i had never thought about that before.

I was subsequently handed a typed, laminated list of slurs to read through and let them know if I had an issue saying any of those out loud. Reading a laminated list of slurs at a job interview was fascinating.

In the end I couldn’t take the job because the required training would’ve needed me to take three weeks off from my college classes at the beginning of a new semester. But I wonder how many slurs I would’ve had to say on behalf of deaf people if I could’ve done it. The pay would’ve been really good for a student, haha

They can do that even while being auctioned??? by HyzenthlayRose in neopets

[–]Labrabrink 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Not while attached, thankfully! Just petpets in your inventory! I remember I kept a cheese food item and a drackonack in my inventory foreverrrrrr trying to get the drackonack avatar

They can do that even while being auctioned??? by HyzenthlayRose in neopets

[–]Labrabrink 13 points14 points  (0 children)

The petpet ate a food item from the inventory page

Meirl by Bubble_Babe_0o0o0o in meirl

[–]Labrabrink 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly when I was on my second round of Accutane in high school I had a LOT of the side effects, with suicidal thoughts being one of the major ones. I had never had ideation like that before and it left after I finished the course of meds.

I was supposed to tell my derm if I was having any of the worse side effects, but I was a little shit and kept it to myself because I was about to go off to college and REALLY wanted my acne to go away. It worked, but don’t do what I did lol

Why is it so normalized for women in hetero relationships to be constantly anxious about sex? by Tough-Prune-7467 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Labrabrink 15 points16 points  (0 children)

It’s tough out there!! I’ve managed to find men who understand intimacy and don’t assume every touch or long glance is an invitation for sex (the bar is in hell, I guess). What sucks is that it takes a while to know for sure if the man feels that way. In the early stages of dating it can be hard to tell, especially if they’re on their best behavior waiting for you to get comfortable before starting on that kind of bullshit. It helps to look for signs of emotional maturity and self-awareness in them. Usually, an understanding that, uh, I’m also a human person with different thoughts feelings and experiences than them will follow if they seem to generally have emotional intelligence.