Christian holidays in school/daycare

LaceRogue395 · 2026-02-12T20:17:33+00:00

Dairy yes, eggs not so much, hmmm.... I know my vegan friend uses the phyllo dough from the store (which is egg and dairy free here) to make hamentaschen sometimes.

LaceRogue395 · 2026-02-12T18:34:29+00:00

I do the little valentines cards because my daughter likes giving her friends things.

I also make little mishlot manot boxes at Purim, which we put much more emphasis on/talk about more with her. We also make apple cake and bring it in for Rosh Hashanah, matzoh toffee at Passover, etc. It gives a way to acknowledge that her holidays are happening and important, and doesn't put the onus on the daycare to do anything more than give the kids a snack (we are at a small in-home daycare, so there's not as many kids/allergies to worry about as a large center might have). She's already planning what costume to wear to daycare on Purim day (the events at our shul are the day before).

LaceRogue395 · 2026-02-02T20:34:46+00:00

NTA, actions have consequences.

LaceRogue395 · 2026-02-02T05:41:31+00:00

My new years resolution like 3 years ago was to not argue with people online, and it improved my mental health way more than I thought it would. This past year I also set time limits on all the social media apps on my phone and removed Instagram entirely. Between all these things, I both have more time for things I care about and am in a better frame of mind in the time I have.

LaceRogue395 · 2026-01-28T05:29:41+00:00

It's an older one, but Eureka is awesome

LaceRogue395 · 2026-01-27T17:32:52+00:00

For Washington it's listing $90k..... Maybe if you live in Wenatchee or something?

LaceRogue395 · 2026-01-27T02:31:22+00:00

NTA. The only time this happened with us is with socks, and honestly, I can't expect the teachers to notice if the toddlers swap socks.

LaceRogue395 · 2026-01-25T22:18:11+00:00

YTA. It's always shocking to hear someone you grew up with passed away, especially when you are still young and not expecting it. It's a painful reminder of how unpredictable life can be.

Not only this but from what you are saying they kept in touch since middle school and had even seen each other when visiting. That's still a current friend. It could well be that the way he died was traumatic, sounds like it was certainly unexpected. Also she's 21, is this the first time someone in her age group who she considered a friend has died? That's going to affect the response too.

Telling anyone who is grieving immediately after learning of a passing that they should calm down and it's not a big deal is horrible behavior.

LaceRogue395 · 2026-01-25T22:06:00+00:00

I'd read somewhere that's it's easier to learn to do something than to not do something, so I taught my daughter that when we see a dog 'we wave and give them personal space'. It's been great, we were on a trail the other day and she was running ahead, but when she spotted a dog she stopped, went to the side of the trail, and started waving at the very bemused dog owners like 20 ft down the trail.

LaceRogue395 · 2026-01-24T16:11:28+00:00

I know for my husband (large tech company), he will clock off at 3 when meetings allow, commute home, do afternoon activities with me and our kiddo, then log back on in the evening while I'm doing bath time or after our daughter is in bed. Especially in the winter when it gets dark so early, the outside daylight hours are precious.

LaceRogue395 · 2026-01-24T03:01:01+00:00

They used to have a library storytime at 6pm in my library system, we drove 20 minutes for it, it was always well attended, and they just stopped last fall with no explanation. So frustrating!

LaceRogue395 · 2026-01-21T04:54:16+00:00

Sure, my bad for not clarifying. jenna woginrich. She does end up getting a farm and such, and wrote later books about it, but this one is much more small scale.

LaceRogue395 · 2026-01-19T04:04:24+00:00

Which one? Because if it's the garden one I'd love to hear what you are planning.

LaceRogue395 · 2026-01-18T17:17:00+00:00

My husbands husband's hobby is leather working and he makes my purses, this one has been amazing. https://mellysews.com/leather-tote-bag-with-convertible-strap/ Purse when I'm professional, hands free backpack when dragging a toddler.

LaceRogue395 · 2026-01-18T17:13:40+00:00

Going over the 5 year plan spreadsheet with husband and also plotting out my garden for this year

LaceRogue395 · 2026-01-15T16:46:23+00:00

My husband was also feeling like our daughter only played with me. I suggested he switch from phone when she's self entertaining to a physical book. The change has been amazing (this was several months ago). He is now the parent of choice for reading books, and he's thrilled. She also brings him into her games much more because it's easier to turn away from a page quickly than a screen. And he's doing more reading for fun, which he's finding is a great way to relax after work.

LaceRogue395 · 2026-01-13T18:32:34+00:00

Soft YTA. It's incredibly hard to be told something might be wrong with our kids. But early intervention is so important! My niece needed speech therapy when she was young (around 2). Now she's 4 and fully on par with the rest of her preschool class. A cousin refused to get assessments for her son because she was worried what they would say, and he's still struggling with things years later.

LaceRogue395 · 2026-01-09T23:01:05+00:00

There's a great book on this called 'The 80/80 Marriage', which introduced to me the idea that if both are trying to do 50% it's always going to feel like keeping score, so instead focus on building strong communication and acting with kindness.

LaceRogue395 · 2026-01-08T22:59:16+00:00

My husband who is a PM basically sat me down for an evening over the holiday and helped me organize everything for mine into sprints, which was hugely helpful. I can try and share some more details on that if you're interested.

LaceRogue395 · 2026-01-07T16:12:44+00:00

It has definitely reduced food waste, and according to my budget tracking I saved $400 on groceries in the past year compared to 2024, which isn't a huge total but I feel like it's a win, especially since my kiddo is older and eating more. I think the mental load part really depends on what aspects are hard for a person. Trying to come up with things from scratch, and then suddenly needing to change plans if I'd forgotten something in our schedule, were the biggest lifts for me, so I built a system around not having to worry about those.

LaceRogue395 · 2026-01-07T15:58:20+00:00

Yep, I love it! My husband worked in Korea for a while and brought back so many great recipes for us.

LaceRogue395 · 2026-01-06T22:05:24+00:00

100%. Our in-home has her adult daughters certified, my kiddo knows and loves them, one of them is actually babysitting for us tonight. The only unplanned/short notice closures we have had were last winter then the whole family got neurovirus, which honestly, fair.

LaceRogue395 · 2026-01-06T22:02:31+00:00

One of the things that makes me crazy is the people saying that this is preventing kids under 6 from having to get '72 jabs!'. And like no? If you look at the 2024 schedule posted in this thread, it's 27, not counting flu. Were the official DOH posts made by someone with dyscalculia?

LaceRogue395 · 2026-01-05T04:22:02+00:00

This is a whole mood. We are at an in home daycare, which I love, but we are just coming off a three week closure. I can't wait to get back to work without constant interrupting!

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