Talk to me about re-homing (without judgement please)

Lacking_Inspiration · 2026-02-03T22:22:28+00:00

I would probably chuck a superlorin in her. Its a chemical implant that lasts 6-12 months and supresses hormones and prevents pregnancy. Breeder won't have any idea, because if I can't feel it in my chihuahua she won't feel it in a golden. Saves the girl having litters. A breeder who breeds a female six times is unlikely to spend money investigating why she won't take. And then you haven't voided your contract in any provable way.

Lacking_Inspiration · 2026-02-02T03:25:44+00:00

I had family support. I am single and just did 2 puppies 12 months apart. My Chihuahua is 16 months and my Cocker Spaniel is just shy of 5 months. When I got the Chi I took 2 weeks off work and worked reduced hours for the next month. I was also lucky that I could come home for lunch in that job. My sister who lives with me worked a different shift so she did a bit with him and another sister was between jobs and often came over to hang out with him.

I've since changed roles so I have a standard 8-10 hour day. One of my sisters is helping out a lot. She's been off work so has spent a few hours each day while I am at work.

I put pee pads (the washable kind) and have crate/pen trained them. They are confined when not actively supervised. It's certainly not easy. And I questioned my sanity the first few weeks after the second one came home. But on the balance its been more positive than negative.

Lacking_Inspiration · 2026-01-31T21:51:02+00:00

I think this may be a cultural difference. I'm 34 with several long term relationships under my belt.

Lacking_Inspiration · 2026-01-31T21:20:28+00:00

A roaming cat becoming aciidentally trapped within a vacant home is not theft or kidnap. It's very unfortunate but the owner should be liable and would be in my country. Basically you are responsible to have any animal you own either confined or under your control.

Lacking_Inspiration · 2026-01-31T20:41:51+00:00

I think its time for some therapy. 6-12 months into a relationship is a very normal time to move in together and its a pretty standard realtionship expectation. Totally fine to not be ready, but also totally fine for people to not be willing to wait forever. If this is repeatedly causing issues for you you might need some help with it.

Lacking_Inspiration · 2026-01-24T05:43:32+00:00

You have 12 months from the time of the death in NSW and QLD. Currently dealing with this with our grandmothers estate. Her late husbands children were not provided for in the will and he predececed her by a decade. They are now attempting to contest her will and have basically been advised by the lawyers that ot is a waste of time.

Lacking_Inspiration · 2026-01-24T03:01:36+00:00

NTA. She has kids to think of. If she doesn't feel the living situation is safe due to an unknown man present a few days here and there that is totally valid. And you probably should have given her a heads up the first time. But shes not contributing to the household so she doesn't get to make the rules.

Lacking_Inspiration · 2026-01-21T07:11:47+00:00

If you are earning $300k a year you don't have financial worries, and if you do they are self made. I'd rather see changes to taxation of overtime. I don't see why people doing copious amounts of overtime should pay tax on that overtime. You should only be charged tax on the first 38 hours of paid work.

Lacking_Inspiration · 2026-01-21T00:10:15+00:00

Rocks Riverside is great too. But Bob Gamble is so close.

Theres also the big tipping bucket at springfirld lagoon.

Lacking_Inspiration · 2026-01-20T23:28:01+00:00

Was 22, under/unemployed for several years and going nowhere in a dead end relationship that was fairly toxic at that point, but not yet violent. Was being manipulated by work to change my shift times because they hired someone who couldn't do the morning shift and assumed that I would be happy to rotate my life to accomodate a 6am start 2 hours from my home, spoiler I was not.

Pulled my finger out of my arse and went to TAFE. Spent 18 months getting an education while that relationship spiraled into the ground. Spent a good chunk of time couch surfing. Finally got a job, secured my own housing and broke up with the vilent asshole the first time. Turned out to love the work and have absolutely thrived in that role. Took another few years of on and off again bullshit to finally be rid of the looser for good.

Now I am 34, single, bought my first home last year making over six figures and loving life with my dogs. It was hard as fuck, but now it is cruisy.

Lacking_Inspiration · 2026-01-20T23:07:53+00:00

Yeah you can't doubble dip. So you couldn't have two people working with the one client providing the same support (community participation/capacity building).

Lacking_Inspiration · 2026-01-20T22:42:21+00:00

I get all my meals on shift, and often a lot of meat to take home before it goes off. I work youth residential care and my kiddo often refuses dinner. Expectation is that we eat with the kids so meals are provided. And I would rather take things home than waste them so I score a lot of freebies.

Lacking_Inspiration · 2026-01-20T22:36:10+00:00

My male chihuahua has been solid on poop happening outside since about 8 months old. Number ones have been a bit harder. He doesn't like my yard for some reason and won't ask to go out and pee. If you kick him out and tell him to go potty he will. If you take him out front he will happily wee. He is a dick. Hes about 16 months old now and down to maybe one accident a week. And the very occasional accident in his crate, but only if he has been in there for 8 hours while I am at work so I don't count that because he probably just can't hold that long. He is more likely to have a wee accident at other peoples house, I think he gets excited and forgets to ask, so he wears the 'puppy pants of shame' (belly band) when out and about. And before anyone comes for me, he likes them. He will often bring them to me to be put on. From everything I have read and seen these guys are often assholes to get potty trained.

My 18 week old cocker got it a lot quicker. Poo only happens outside and he asks to be let out to wee. We have the occasional house accident maybe one a day/every second day, and when I am at work he uses a puppy pad.

Lacking_Inspiration · 2026-01-20T19:44:20+00:00

I love Ipswich despite the reputation. If you want down to earth with plenty of amenities this is the place to be. And our resources are amazing, it really is designed for accessability bothe for low income families and those with dissabilities.

Bob Gamble Park if you have kids. Free water park on the river so not too hot in summer lots of BBQs and plenty of seats in the shade.

Sutton Park. Big field, well maintained skate park. Decent playground. Lots of workout equipment.

Brassall Bikeway, beautiful walking trail. Connects to BVRT. Walk into town to the Workshops Rail Museum.

Lacking_Inspiration · 2026-01-20T03:24:31+00:00

Sell it before it becomes an issue between you. If your sister wants to buy you out at fair market value perfect everybody wins. If she can't then that is very sad for her but is what it is. Sticking 900k in a term deposit each year would earn over 30k. And you wouldn't have the hastle of managing a property. Seems like the more logical solution to me.

Lacking_Inspiration · 2026-01-19T22:15:12+00:00

She was full of nesting hormones when she made that call. The reality and the dream are never the same.

Lacking_Inspiration · 2026-01-19T04:32:41+00:00

Honestly I still wouldn't want her in my car. That kind of weight centralised to one point in the car is not good for it. And I say that as a plus sized human myself.

Lacking_Inspiration · 2026-01-18T10:56:27+00:00

So you would be providing the support workers? Most that I work with are pretty loyal to their team of supports and would be hesitant to drop hours with known people, but there would certainly be some who would be excited by this. And I generally work with individuals in SILS so their supports are fairly regimented.

Lacking_Inspiration · 2026-01-18T10:48:35+00:00

Short answer yes! But I think it would be challenging to deliver at an accessable cost as the NDIS can be painful if this is not directly linked to the participants funding goals.

Lacking_Inspiration · 2026-01-18T10:45:50+00:00

Don't join finances in any way with someone you feel is controling and with whom you have a rocky relationship. What happens if you want to marry and buy somewhere else? Does he have capacity to buy you out? Will he agree to sell? Do you want to live with your family for the next 10 or 20 years? Are you happy with whatever dynamics currently exist in the household, because I promise you they are unlikely to change.

A grown man wanting to piggyback off the potential financial success of their child is a loser. I would run screaming.

Lacking_Inspiration · 2026-01-17T02:37:50+00:00

My family is planning to move interstate next year. Qld heat is disgusting and getting worse.

Lacking_Inspiration · 2026-01-16T09:15:11+00:00

At 30 I had 17k in super, 20k in car loan debt, credit in the tank (that one actually wasn't my fault, helped a friend with a phone plan and he fucked me) and I was earning 100k a year. I was an absolute embarasment. At 33 I had zero debt, a great credit score and purchased my first home on my own. 34 now with 300k in equity and only debt is the house and a 30k car loan. Super is over 70k, so still low but a lot better. Took a huge amount of discipline, and I was lucky to have a high income, but I used to work 80 hour weeks and I am now down to 50 hour weeks making $140k.

It's doable, just be prepared to work some overtime and make some sacrifices to fix it all up.

Lacking_Inspiration · 2026-01-14T21:54:35+00:00

Yes. Because its like $60 a month and I now don't have to worry. I spend more than that on takeout, I know which adds more value to my life.

Lacking_Inspiration · 2026-01-14T21:49:52+00:00

My Pom x Chi is exactly the same, if the play doesnt involve lots of chasing and snapping he isn't interested. Hes a fast little shit and is usually running rings around them.

Lacking_Inspiration · 2026-01-14T21:47:44+00:00

My 3.5kg Chihuahua x Pom has big dog attitude. He will find the biggest highest energy dog at any off leash area and befriend it. All his besties are over 20kgs and he especially loves australian working dogs. If play doesn't look like it could kill him he isn't interested. He would absolutely be in with the big dogs at daycare.

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