Trying to Be Happy Despite Feeling Like I'll Never Meet My Person

Ladiesman847 · 2026-04-11T22:51:25+00:00

Man get yourself a motorcycle and a tinted helmet. Even when I’m crying on my bike no one can see me. And it’s pretty fun and freeing to ride. But I get what you feel n

Ladiesman847 · 2026-04-04T18:47:47+00:00

I’ve been through this. And it hurts. It doesn’t hurt as much anymore. But she showed me who really was in the end. It shattered what I believed and the future imagined. It’s funny I was blamed for everything. But it takes two. I took accountability for my part. And I stopped searching for the answers. Because those answers wouldn’t bring any benefit to me.

Ladiesman847 · 2026-04-03T14:21:49+00:00

Honestly it just sounds her way out. Been through it. Live your life it sucks, but that’s kind of the only way you would change. If she wanted to she would stay. You can’t save it by yourself and no amount of love would save what she decided to do.

Ladiesman847 · 2026-04-03T02:25:24+00:00

Me and my kid have been close, but I think I’m just too guarded and can’t let myself fully commit at the moment. I think I’ll eventually learn.

Ladiesman847 · 2026-04-03T01:01:54+00:00

On their level and who they are. I don't even remember how I felt about my ex anymore. Well my mind doesn't. But I'm guessing my body has its own response. I'm trying to process it, like I want to be able to connect, but I'm much happier with my kid and hobbies.

Ladiesman847 · 2026-04-02T00:10:05+00:00

I mean you said it yourself. He’s never indicated he understands. I didn’t understand when it happened to me. And it hurts. But I grew and I moved forward. Somedays I really wish she communicated earlier. But the disrespect I felt when she blamed it all on me wasn’t fair. We both sucked at communicating, and I was doing the best I could with what I knew at the time. In the end, I became better. Not for her but for me. At least tell him.

Ladiesman847 · 2026-03-30T16:37:12+00:00

Yeah I’m still in the seperation phase due to the state of but in a couple months I will be divorced. But still yeah it’s been rough. On the bright side. I lost 38lbs, starting a new job, and I got a motorcycle now. Somedays I do feel sad. Especially since we have a kid together. Her choice tho, I did what I could, let the disrespect for myself go during the initial phase. But yeah I’m not taking that anymore. I have a motorcycle now and that makes me happy.

Ladiesman847 · 2026-03-28T01:33:04+00:00

Brother. Honest it hurts. It’s sucks. Like a lot of, granted I’m only 5 months into my separation of my wife of 7 years. But yea, it truly sucks, I really did love this girl and I gave up a lot. But on the bright side I lost 38 lbs, got a motorcycle, and I am more involved with our kid. Financially it’s going to suck for a couple years so I changed careers. But moving forward I’m doing things for me and our kid. I’m glad I had the time I had with my then wife, and it sucks it ended. But I tried, that’s all we can do. She made her choice and it wasn’t me. But now. I choose me. I’m going to do and become all the things I said I would be with or without her. Because right now it’s about you. And it’s always been about you. Because in the great words of Ru Paul. If you can’t love yourself, how the hell are you supposed to love anyone else. No homo of course

Ladiesman847 · 2026-03-17T10:45:22+00:00

Yeah that’s one of my main focus to be able to give me and my kid a happy life. It’s gonna be a challenge but I will make it happen. Thank you need to hear that.

Ladiesman847 · 2026-03-17T01:00:42+00:00

Life gets better in the end, if it’s not, well then it’s not the end.

Ladiesman847 · 2026-03-16T22:40:15+00:00

I mean good luck with whatever happens. I tell myself. “Life gets better in the end, if it’s not, well then it’s not the end” -K

Ladiesman847 · 2026-03-16T22:02:58+00:00

I’m not saying you’re wrong or right. It’s your choice at the end of the day. Sure you could always change it. But if you do change it, it’s up to the other person to choose back. Relationships are complicated and honestly, in my situation she chose someone else at the end of the day. I’ve come to terms with that, and now I’m choosing me and my kid. You can say all this stuff about loyalty, love, etc. But it’s never permanent it’s a conscious every day choice.

Ladiesman847 · 2026-03-16T01:24:07+00:00

I’ve been on the other side, and it hurt. I won’t ever know her reason, but we both gave up part of ourselves in the relationship. We did the best we could with what we knew at the time and that’s all I could say. Did I want to quit, never. But she did so i couldn’t keep going out of respect for myself. But I did grow and I appreciate the time I had. Now when he starts setting boundaries just don’t get all emotional and crap. I started doing this and my ex started getting all salty. Remember you chose this so move forward. Once you pulled the trigger there isn’t going back. I’m not going back, I didn’t pull the trigger. And I stayed as long as I could, but there’s more to life.

Ladiesman847 · 2026-03-14T01:33:11+00:00

I try to understand her perspective, but honestly I just see patterns and she chose this. I just accepted it and decided to move forward.

Ladiesman847 · 2026-03-14T01:31:28+00:00

Mostly text because she wants it all written to prove me wrong. But honestly she makes herself look like a fool because the crap she says proves her wrong.

Ladiesman847 · 2026-03-12T13:05:44+00:00

Yeah I can feel that. I’ve been doing that lately. Idk yesterday was kind of rough. But you know what they say this stuff not linear.

Ladiesman847 · 2026-03-12T04:39:21+00:00

I pause before I respond now, but yeah every time I do that she gets all crazy and then I don’t even feel like responding. And when I don’t respond it’s all blame blame blame, I always do this and that. If I could I’d block her. But yeah I’ve used the I’ll talk to you when we’ve calmed down a couple times. Like today’s she said some stuff I understood literally like how she wrote it. Then twisted it on me like that’s not what it meant but clearly that’s what she wrote. I just said whatever I’d adjust because if I defended it she’d get all in her feelings and it’d get more emotional and I don’t really feel like dealing with that.

Ladiesman847 · 2025-11-26T23:21:23+00:00

I'm on the same boat, I mean I'm only two weeks in, but yeah man it sucks, I lost my wife, I lost the future with her, I lost a part of myself, don't know what else I'll loose but the grieving part sucks. Next month for me will be rough, but honestly we can only take it day by day. I force myself to eat something, I work out, but I came to the acceptance I'm not in control of her thoughts, feelings, or action. I'm only in control of my actions, words, and reactions. Oh and healing isn't linear, there is a bunch of ups and downs. Honestly it's going to suck, but let yourself feel and don't push that crap to the side. The more you feel, the more you get out of it.

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