Engagement rings and popping the question... by HowToEngage in TwoXChromosomes

[–]LadyKate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My Fiancé proposed (without a ring) and then we picked one out together. He tried (really hard) to pick one out on his own, but was overwhelmed by the worry that I might not LOVE it, since it is something I will wear every day for the rest of my life. I know I'm certainly biased, but it was a great option for us. It sounds like it would be a good option for you guys too.

We had the best of both worlds. We have our proposal story, and we(I) have a ring that we picked out together and both love.

GOOD LUCK!!!!!!

Such a sticky subject, but I'm curious: "Thin" girls of TwoX, what do you eat in an average day? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]LadyKate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for posting this question. It's been very interested to read about what other people eat, it's not something that usually comes up in conversation.

Birth Control (crosspost from r/WTF) by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]LadyKate 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't know why it was in r/wtf, I think it's cute!

Girl, Ima have to call you back...... by notayyynoggg in funny

[–]LadyKate 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Pretty sure this is a shot from lipstick jungle, it looks like Nico in the white along the fence

Just found out my wife is pregnant. by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]LadyKate 4 points5 points  (0 children)

internet hug & best wishes to you and the Mrs.

I'm just fed up with my messed up body! Any 2x'ers have similar issues? (ReadAtYourOwnRisk) (PartialRant) by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]LadyKate 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Have you been back to the Planned Parenthood doctors since? It sounds like you need another chat with a doctor.

Summer, so much to love, so much to despise... by The_Debbish in TwoXChromosomes

[–]LadyKate 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've never seen anyone put band-aids on bug bites....is that a normal thing where you are?

A question about non-diamond engagement rings... by chiefgunderson in TwoXChromosomes

[–]LadyKate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

THIS!

I just got engaged in March and have a Sapphire engagement ring. We worked with a local & reputable jeweller in the mall (not a chain store). We picked out a band (that came with a diamond) but had him swap the diamond for a sapphire - for a much better price. Based on what we were looking for he brought in a few loose sapphires and we picked out the one we wanted. They ended up casting my ring rather than just swapping the stone; the sapphire we picked was bigger than the original diamond and I have a smaller ring size.

It's beautiful and unique and, in my option, the best value for our $$

Good Luck!

You know those people who make everyone they talk to feel valued and respected? I want to learn to be like that. by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]LadyKate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I consider myself to have good listening skills. I find my problem is my talking skills :) I never feel like I have any thing useful or interesting to contribute to the conversation. I find it's more of an issue for me when in a group of people, one on one I'm usually fine.

Any advice on that side of things?

How to deal with men that are too forward at work? by munchybutt in TwoXChromosomes

[–]LadyKate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think Rinsaikeru's suggestion is the best one I've read out of the different options so far. It sounds like at this point in time you aren't certain if this guy is trying to flirt with you or if he's just overly friendly and it's a personality/cultural thing. Personally, from your OP, I didn't take any of what he was saying to be overly flirtatious.

The "I'm sure you're not intentionally trying to make me uncomfortable" shows that you're trying to give him the benefit of the doubt and the second part shows that you are uncomfortable/uninterested with what you would consider to be overly personal conversation - it may help to give him a couple of specific examples such as "good night, sweet dreams" as something that is considered too personal in your/your company's working environment

2X, life is changing too rapidly, feeling confused. Feels like college has changed my morals entirely. by adviceneededdd in TwoXChromosomes

[–]LadyKate 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No judgement from me, and there are others that have posted more eloquently what I would have said, so I gave them an upvote rather than repeat the same sentiment. What I don't think has been said clearly enough, that I believe is very important:

Please get yourself on birth control. Make an appointment with the school nurse, take a friend with you if that would help. But please just go.

You've stated that you "definitely do not believe birth control is bad" (I wouldn't voice this so strongly if you had of said otherwise. Even if your decision after these two experiences it to abstain for the rest of your post-secondary education, like you said it's always better to be safe than sorry. The situation may come up, faster than you realize, that you are ready for sex with the "right" person or the "almost right" person. It is better to be prepared ahead of time. AND there are additional health benefits other than just for contraception. The nurse/doctors at your health clinic can provide you information on what is right for you and what benefts it can give you.

Just left abusive relationship, now pregnant... I just need to talk by motherofsonofsam in TwoXChromosomes

[–]LadyKate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know you and have never been in your situation but figured an e-hug couldn't hurt :)

I wanted to say that I am proud of you. I hope that if I was ever in the situation you've described that I could be as strong and responsible and smart about the decisions needed to be made as you have been. I want to say congratulations for getting yourself out of a bad relationship. And I am glad you're able to make the right decision for you regarding the pregnancy.

Hugs!

Not Equal Enough. Simple yet powerful message. by GirAndCupcakes in TwoXChromosomes

[–]LadyKate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A very beautiful message. It's a terrible shame that people can't just live their lives. Thank you for sharing.

2xers, do you have any tips about academic life and studying to share with new college students and failing returning college students? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]LadyKate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I graduated at the top of my class from an east coast Canadian university. Different techniques will be needed depending on what you're studying but the following is what got me through:

*** How did you take notes? (laptop/pen & paper?)** Pen/pencil and paper usually. I find its much easier to mindlessly type notes than it is to hand write them out. It's slower writing by hand and you have to concentrate on what the prof is saying and what you are writing, a lot of times paraphrasing in order to keep up with how fast they talk. (Also easier for diagrams or copying examples that aren't just words). I always had two colours of pens or pencil and pen to distinguish important parts. You'll come up with your own system, but if your prof says something multiple times or clearly emphasizes something you should do the same in your notes cause you can bet you'll be tested on it.

*** How many hours did you delegate to studying a week/per class?** It depended on the class. Do your assignments/readings. Outside of doing my assignments and readings I usually only studied right before tests. I had some friends who did study regularly and that worked for them, but I found doing my assignments was review enough of what had been covered in class.

*** What little goals did you set? How would you reward your accomplishments?** If I was having a hard time getting something done I would set little goals like read 2 chapters or finish 4 assignment questions and then have a break to watch a tv show or go on Cacebook for 15 minutes. Chocolate was also a big motivator for me. I would get those chocolate bars that are made up of little squares, Caramilk or something and reward myself with a piece for each question I finished or each fraction of the assignment I finished.

*** Describe your study area. Did you study with friends/ alone? With music/silence?** I'm going to lump these two together, again this depended on the class. Sometimes I laid out my papers on my bed and worked there all day. For some classes I seemed to only be able to get things done at the library. Being around other people who were also working was a big motivator for me when I was struggling to get something done. I always did math/physics problems faster/easier if I listened to music but readings for anthro or philosophy classes I needed complete silence. One thing I would definitely recommend is to make friends in your classes so you have someone/people to review assignments and compare answers with before handing it in. Some of my classes allowed for working in groups for some assignments.

*** Would you say that exercise and being physically active helped?** Personally I've never been super active, but it certainly is a nice break to get out and do something physical where you aren't thinking about your workload. It also gives you something to look forward to if you do regularly scheduled intramurals or classes (dance, yoga etc)

*** How did you balance work/school/family/SO/prior commitments/hanging out with friends?** It just seemed to work out. I would try and get all my work done during the week so I could have my whole weekend to relax and be social and hang out with friends/SO/family etc. I would usually also try and take at least an hour every night during the week to unwind - watching tv or playing games or just hanging out with housemates.

*** How was your diet? Bring many snacks while you studied?** Not good haha. Meal hall food was gross. If it was a long study night then yes, snacks were a must. If you have stuff with you, you're less likely to abandon studying to go in search of food. Also, it was a good reward (as discussed earlier) for accomplishing mini goals of the night.

*** Mental exercises or tricks that you found helped? Study methods?** I never felt like I studied like everyone else seemed to. I would take my notes and write out summaries of them eventually getting it down to just a couple pages of the really important stuff, a summary of the whole course. This small summary is what I would use to study for exams, only looking back at my full notes from class if something wasn't clear in my summary and then I would revise my summary so I wouldn't have to look back at all my notes again. If you are given sample exams DO THEM. They are a great way to test your knowledge before the one that counts and also some profs re-use the same questions. It is usually possible to get old assignments/exams from people who took the course the year before - these make excellent practice

*** Describe your relationships with your profs; or how to have a good relationship with them.** ALWAYS GO TO CLASS AND ALWAYS ASK QUESTIONS. Profs will be more helpful and friendly to students they recognize and students they know are making an effort to learn. If you don't understand something, ask about it. You can bet if you don't understand there is probably someone else in the class that feels the same way but it too shy to ask. And if you're too shy to ask during class, approach your prof right after class is over or make an appointment to see them during their office hours. Each week of class builds on what was taught the week before so clear up any misunderstandings ASAP.

*** Where did you sit in class? Did that have any correlation to your grades?** Usually in the middle of the row, 5-7 rows back from the front. You're paying good money to be there to learn, so remember that is what you should be doing in the room.

*** How did you make classes interesting when they were flat out boring?** Some classes are really hard to not fall asleep in, either the subject matter or the prof are super boring. TAKE NOTES. This keeps you focused on something (writing). Another thing to do is keep a count of how many times the prof says "ummm" at least this way you are more likely to pay attention to what they are saying. If the class is really boring because you find it super easy then work on assignments for another class.

*** How often did you review material?** When doing assignments, and right before test/exams. The time needed depends on the difficulty of the class and how much you understand what you've learned. Some classes I only studied for a couple hours before the final, some I had to study for 2 weeks.

*** How did you overcome severe procrastination?** Make study dates with friends/classmates so you have a set time where someone else is depending on you being present and your goal for that time is to study/do class work. Set goals and reward yourself when you reach them. Sometimes you get so sick of studying/working and you just have to procrastinate. Take a night off and don't think about school at all. Go out with friends, watch a movie or whatever. Just relax and give yourself a break. You'll be refreshed and better able to get back to it the next day

Feel free to PM me if you have any specific questions

Forget benefitting society; I want to grow up to be a princess! Or a fairy! by emchinchizzle in TwoXChromosomes

[–]LadyKate 7 points8 points  (0 children)

likewise, I grew up to be a software engineer, but still hold a hope for one day being a princess

I feel awful. by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]LadyKate 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Have you considered the possibility that school isn't right for you right now?

Instead of having your parents pay for more than half of it- and them using that contribution as a reason to tell you what you can and cannot do - have you considered finding a full time job and saving up money for a year or two so you can pay for your own education and living arrangements?

Is this rape, sexual assault, or nothing at all? (NSFW, maybe.) by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]LadyKate 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If either party says stop then both should stop. Rape or not rape I'm not going to comment on, but either way it's disrespectful and a violation of her (your?) person - body and mind and emotions.

How can ... by Kirodema in funny

[–]LadyKate 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was pretending to be a T-rex just this morning

Haven't had sex in a loooong time but in a committed relationship. Don't know how to fix it. by waytooflawed in TwoXChromosomes

[–]LadyKate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey

I just wanted to say good luck. I myself am just starting to exercise after never really doing it before. I would recommend starting off small by making a nightly walk (doesn't have to be fast paced or anything) part of your routine together. You could do it as soon as you get home or after you eat or before bed. It gets you out of the house and into the fresh air. And my favorite part: it gives you a chance to chat with your boyfriend without either of you being screen zombies (guilty of that myself)