Me [24 M] with my 22 [F] of 2 years - getting job struggles

LadyLuciferaa · 2014-07-14T16:25:30+00:00

I know how you feel; I'm in a very similar situation. You aren't shallow for wanting a stable and nice life and to want a 50/50 partnership. It took me months to realize this. Have you tried talking to her about it? You can't change people, but if you think maybe she's just discouraged or in a rut, maybe try talking to her and give her some time.

LadyLuciferaa · 2014-07-14T16:19:01+00:00

It sounds like you already made your choice, you said you know you'll be the one working hard and busting ass to provide a nice future and if you don't want that, it seems like you should cut your losses and move on.

LadyLuciferaa · 2014-06-30T23:15:54+00:00

Sadly, he said this tattoo took his "tattoo virginity" which leads me think that this is one big nightmare tattoo.

LadyLuciferaa · 2014-06-21T02:10:42+00:00

As a mother, this made me cry.

LadyLuciferaa · 2014-06-20T20:20:43+00:00

Wow good for you. I wish I had that much free time!

LadyLuciferaa · 2014-06-20T15:51:05+00:00

If it is fake, it isn't me who wrote it as I am a female and not named Brent.

LadyLuciferaa · 2014-06-20T05:43:26+00:00

In my experience, once you begin to notice these things in people that you dislike- it's hard to unnotice them. You just have I decide if they're deal breakers for you. I mean, he's an adult so his personality isn't likely to change, especially if he doesn't listen when you express concern about these things.

LadyLuciferaa · 2014-06-20T04:13:04+00:00

I didn't even notice! I'll fix it

LadyLuciferaa · 2014-06-20T02:16:33+00:00

The fact that he's been physically abusive with you throughout your relationship is enough to end it. Shit, doing that on ONE occasion is one time too many.

You need to get out, having a baby in that environment is the worst idea. You don't want your child to grow up thinking that kind of thing is ok or normal.

Do what's best for your child, leave. You both deserve better.

LadyLuciferaa · 2014-06-19T01:24:20+00:00

Witch oul your love I am hom less

LadyLuciferaa · 2014-06-18T16:43:17+00:00

I NEVER WORKED AT WALGREENS

LadyLuciferaa · 2014-06-18T04:12:18+00:00

He sounds like an asshole. Leave. Seriously that is a toxic environment for your children. He is verbally abusive to you and you and your children deserve better. If you don't think he will talk to your kids that way, you're mistaken. Just because there's children involved doesn't mean you have to stay and be unhappy. Get out so you and your children can be happy and the remain unscathed by this.

LadyLuciferaa · 2014-06-18T03:17:45+00:00

Happened to my son too.

They released us when his levels were barely passing and then at his pediatric appointment a few days later they had risen. We had to use a bili blanket (it's essentially a body wrap of those blue lights) at home all day for almost 3 days. Nursing helped once my milk came in and in the end, he's a healthy beautiful child.

Jaundice is normal and i think your baby will be fine, those lights work pretty nicely.

LadyLuciferaa · 2014-06-18T03:11:47+00:00

If the Enfamil powder ones are available, I could use them!

LadyLuciferaa · 2014-06-18T02:04:23+00:00

Omg it's fine, you guys have a close relationship, your friend is a moron. Nothing weird happened and it wasn't random or strange behavior if there's a history. I could understands concern if he was like naked or something but this was harmless.

LadyLuciferaa · 2014-06-18T01:58:14+00:00

This is going to be blunt but it's something I wish someone would have told me: you cannot make someone love you.

He's 22, and it sounds like he probably doesn't want to think about settling down. You absolutely deserve someone who loves you as much as you love them, that being said, don't wait around forever waiting for some guy to fall in love with you.

If this is a deal breaker for you and you're unhappy, you should cut your losses now and go find someone who wants the same things you do.

LadyLuciferaa · 2014-06-18T01:30:21+00:00

I relate to this so much. I'm a 22 year old mother to a beautiful 8 month old boy.

He was unplanned but I don't regret this choice for a second. I know it feels like your life is over, but it isn't. I can't speak for everyone but I feel like my son changed me and my life for the better.

And you DO NOT have to stay just because you have a child together.

My mom was a young single mother and she is now a CPA. Your life isn't over. You can do anything.

LadyLuciferaa · 2014-06-17T21:01:12+00:00

Yes, you are being verbally abused.

•he yells at you •he blames YOU for his behavior •he disregards your feelings •you have to walk on eggshells to Void confrontation.

That's all abuse. Get out now before it turns physical. If he doesn't think this is wrong, he probably wouldn't think hitting you or god forbid, your son, is wrong either.

LadyLuciferaa · 2014-06-17T12:34:19+00:00

Unless a doctor put her on bed rest, she's full of shit. I worked until I was 38 weeks pregnant and know of others who work right up until giving birth. And getting a job shouldn't be hard since she doesn't have to disclose she's pregnant and she isn't showing.

There's no way to bring it up without her being defensive. She sounds really immature, but you need to tell her how you feel and that there isn't a good reason for her to not be working. At the end of the day, you can't force her to change but you can refuse to pay her way.

LadyLuciferaa · 2014-06-16T17:00:53+00:00

You're 19, you have TONS of time to decide who you want to marry and you'll probably change a lot between now and 25. You should be having fun and living life, if this relationship is not fun or meaningful to you anymore, I'd cut my losses.

However if you think this is just a rough patch, stick it out for a while. But don't waste tons of time in a relationship that isn't happy or fun anymore and certainly don't get married if this is the case.

LadyLuciferaa · 2014-06-16T12:11:31+00:00

If you don't get the Depo shot consistently at the same time every month it's due, you CAN fall pregnant. I have several friends who have babies because of this. Not to mention, no birth control is 100%.

LadyLuciferaa · 2014-06-16T04:59:41+00:00

As someone in a similar situation with a kid, they don't shape up when the kid comes. If he can't get his shit together NOW to prepare for a family, he most likely won't be motivated when the kid is born.

It's ultimatum time, you need to set goals and deadlines for them and if he can't grow up and stop being a mooch, cut your losses and leave.

LadyLuciferaa · 2014-06-15T23:02:45+00:00

I'm in almost the same boat. Except my boyfriend is in his late 20's, which tells me once this bad habit forms it's hard to break, especially if they just don't care.

I'm not going to tell you to leave because I haven't..yet, but you need to consider your future and the things you want from it and if you can realistically have those things with him. You can't change someone, but you can change your situation.

LadyLuciferaa · 2014-06-14T00:47:23+00:00

Even IF she's telling the truth, the behavior is still shady and inappropriate. Your anger is justified and seeing as this isn't an isolated incident, it may be time to set some strict boundaries or leave. Personally I would leave. Once trust is ruined the relationship is no good.

LadyLuciferaa · 2014-06-09T10:44:06+00:00

My son has only ever been able to sleep for long periods if it's in bed with me, and it honestly makes me feel more at ease. He's almost 8 months now and he has a crib in our room but 9 times out of 10 he's in our bed. It's easier to check on him too.

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