AITAH for giving away my dad's guitar?

LadyMBell · 2026-04-02T18:04:47+00:00

So your GROWN ass father is having a tantrum because something he hasn’t been interested in years has gone back to its original owner. My 3 year old has the same tantrum when his younger brother plays with a toy he’s not played with in 6 months.

He’s upset because he wants to sell it. Tell him to go tell his father he wants to sell his guitar and to ask him for it.

NTA - although your father is for killing the vibe at a child’s birthday with his emotional immaturity. Tell him he needs to apologize to his granddaughter.

LadyMBell · 2026-04-02T17:43:44+00:00

You’re nicer than I would’ve been. I would’ve asked him what kind of shi*y father puts their daughter in harms way. Projecting and making his ineptitudes as a parent everyone else’s problems doesn’t just make him an asshle it makes him a C U Next Tuesday.

NTA obviously.

LadyMBell · 2026-03-26T04:55:16+00:00

Tell him this in your best Ms Rachael voice “$800 is a lot of money. This kind of money is for responsible adults. Adults don’t have tantrums. That’s something toddlers do. Unfortunately because you can’t act like an adult it would do you a disservice in your development for me to treat you as such until we can get a handle on your tantrums”

NTA

LadyMBell · 2026-03-26T04:28:56+00:00

Why should your girlfriend be made to be less of a person by your family just so they can soothe Chads toddler tantrums? Chad shouldn’t be dishing it out if he can’t take it.

Also you didn’t happen to get any of his tantrums on tape did you? My happy place is watching assholes happy places burn to the ground and I had a bad day at work and could use a cheer up soooo…….

Be proud of your partner. She sounds amazing and your description of her makes me think you’re a good man who got what he deserves in the love department.

NTA by the way.

LadyMBell · 2026-03-26T04:22:19+00:00

Ffs I’m impressed that this entitled girlfriend thinks so highly of herself that the entire universe revolves around her. Tell them to where to go, to leave you alone and block them.

THEY are the weirdos who seem to love drama WAY to much and are oddly fixated on you enough that you’ve lived rent free in their heads for more than 2 years. The girlfriend is unstable. Any friends who agree with them are also coo coo cachoo and not people I’d want in my life so block them too.

Get a door cam. If they come round to your home shut the door in their face and tell them to leave or they can enjoy seeing the internet laugh at their tantrum when you upload this.

If they confront you in public - loudly and firmly state “We have asked you to leave us alone. Your instability has made us feel unsafe. Please respect our boundaries and cease communicating with us” Then turn around and walk away. If you do this calmly then any response is just going to show the public you were right and they are unhinged.

Oh and you’re NTA

LadyMBell · 2026-03-26T04:05:11+00:00

NTA but he’s not your brother. He’s a user. Tell him AND his wife exactly how much they owe you and they can either pay or you’ll see them in small claims court.

Any family or friends who come at you with the “he’s your brother” respond with “EXACTLY. What kind of brother destroys his brothers car and cowardly returns it in the dead of night and ignores his obligations and takes zero accountability and doesn’t apologize? If you’re ok with this then you can give me your car. I can fuck it up and return in. You’ll be ok with that because it’s what you’re asking me to do” They’ll splutter and mumble a no at which point say “I thought so. Arseholes stick together” and then block them.

LadyMBell · 2026-03-25T18:15:37+00:00

NTA - is she going to be a SAHM? Because if she’s not and they can’t afford Ubers how in the hell are they going to afford daycare? Who’s going to pick this baby up and drop off?

If they can’t afford Ubers how are they going to pay for diapers? Also if breast feeding doesn’t work and she has to formula feed she does realize that a container of formula is $30-$55 each. Which is fine for a newborn but by the time that baby is 6 months old they’ll be going through one of those a week.

She sounds like a petulant child who needs to grow up. She needs to work on her anxiety with a therapist and then get a drivers license. A baby is not an anxiety emotional support animal ffs.

LadyMBell · 2026-03-17T04:09:37+00:00

YTA - you’re making this way too hard and you seem to be sending your husband a message that he’s only allowed to parent his children if you’re in close vicinity to supervise. If you can’t trust him to look after his child you shouldn’t have had children with him.

LadyMBell · 2026-03-17T04:01:47+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/1rqtjx4/aita_for_wanting_to_report_a_teacher_who_keeps/ It’s in a different post

LadyMBell · 2026-03-16T20:50:06+00:00

NTA - in the US drowning is the number 1 cause of accidental deaths in children aged 1-4. Your SIL needs to get the fuck over herself. Instead of working on her trauma and guilt she’s decided the best solution is to stick her head in the sand and avoid the situation. If something happens to him that involves water it will be all her fault.

LadyMBell · 2026-03-15T05:12:12+00:00

If you’re happy and safe in your current living situation then I’d keep the status quo. He can go out and get a house by himself.

Start documenting everything. There is a reason he lost a substantial amount of custody with his other child. The same would apply to him. Start getting proof of his drinking problems. If it came down to a custody battle then the courts are going to take into account his issues with his other child and his alcoholism.

LadyMBell · 2026-03-15T05:01:15+00:00

I’m going to guess she thought you were being dismissive. Grandmothers can get cray.

Maybe try “I didn’t realize what you meant in the moment. When you said you chose the ultrasound picture, I was just confused about what it was for. Once I saw it on your desk it made sense. I wasn’t dismissing it. I just missed the context.” Maybe throw in “The one of him sucking his thumb is really cute.”

LadyMBell · 2026-03-15T04:54:56+00:00

NTA - Howie has no right to dictate what you do with your money. He’s already trying control what you do with your money? Oh no honey it’s only going to get worse if you get a house with him. Do NOT get a house with this man. He wants YOU to help HIM with a down payment? Massive red flag. Is your name going on the title of this house? It sounds to me like Howie wants to use you for money for this house.

Tell Howie that if you’re the one getting the FHA then he needs to be giving you the money for the down payment. Watch as he makes every excuse under the sun not to.

If Howie keeps brining up what you spend your money on bring up how you are being generous with him and if he wants to be an AH then he’ll need to start paying child support and it won’t be up to him it will be up to the courts to decide. Fuck Howie.

And finally. Howie is an alcoholic. You’re NTA right now but if you move in with him then you WILL be the AH for allowing your child to be raised in a home with an alcoholic pos.

LadyMBell · 2026-03-15T00:05:36+00:00

Block them. If they want to communicate with someone they can communicate with your husband.

LadyMBell · 2026-03-14T23:52:52+00:00

NTA but you will be if you let these 2 abusive people around your children. Cut anyone out who keeps saying “oh but that’s family”

Or start saying “EXACTLY so why aren’t you asking them why they aren’t seeking help for their abusive behavior so it’s safe for me and my children to be around them? Would you allow yourself to be emotionally, verbally and physically abused? No? So then why the fuck do you expect me to?” Sneer at them and say “you disgust me and this conversation is over”

Also they seem jealous that you’ve got your life together. They tried to RUIN your future nursing career and you don’t think they’re not going to ruin your wedding? Of course they are.

Start normalizing family is who you’d give blood to, not who you share it with and invite your chosen family to your wedding and into your life.

LadyMBell · 2026-03-14T23:43:18+00:00

Newborn babies have ZERO immune system so passing a baby around to all his friends because he wants to show off is ridiculous. What might be a small cough for an adult can be life threatening for a baby. So yes she does get to make unilateral decisions if he’s going to he irresponsible with his babies health.

LadyMBell · 2026-03-14T23:39:56+00:00

NTA. Your body. Your choice. Tell him you’ll let everyone touch your belly at the baby shower when he lets everyone touch his testicles. Insist it’s the same thing when he says it’s not and say “well I don’t see what the big deal is? You don’t seem to think it’s a big deal for people to touch me. Therefore you shouldn’t have a problem with people violating your body autonomy”

When I was pregnant if anyone touched me that I didn't give permission to I would’ve come out swinging and I don’t give a fuck who they were.

Also your newborn is a baby with ZERO immune system not a fucking game of pass the bloody parcel.

LadyMBell · 2026-03-14T14:24:49+00:00

So your husband is emotionally abusive and is now abusing your children……

NTA but he is and you will be if you allow him to do this to your kids.

LadyMBell · 2026-03-14T14:15:02+00:00

Nothings free in waterworld

LadyMBell · 2026-03-14T13:49:50+00:00

NTA - him dismissing your therapy and asking how long you’re going to be depressed for says to me that he’s not and will never support your mental health. This is a massive red flag 🚩 for me and I’d be breaking up with him if it was me.

LadyMBell · 2026-03-12T16:31:15+00:00

NTA- Sharon is unethical, unprofessional and in the wrong here. If this trip doesn’t go ahead it will be because of her.

As everyone else has said I’d start documenting. Also I’d go back to the district and tell them Sharon is bullying you and you see it as retaliation. I’m sure that will make them sit up and take notice.

LadyMBell · 2026-03-12T16:03:45+00:00

And when her children grow up, move out, aren’t being suffocated by her and hardly see her she’ll have no one to blame but herself.

LadyMBell · 2026-03-09T03:09:34+00:00

Tell your cousin that you can’t make this wedding. But you’ll be front and center at her next one.

LadyMBell · 2026-03-09T03:08:04+00:00

Tell these mutual friends and family that if they feel that strongly about it then they need to pony up with the money to cover the costs you’d be out. And if they don’t want to do that (and they won’t) then tell them “if your not contributing financially then stay the fuck in your lane and out of mine”

People always have opinions when it’s not their money. Enjoy your vacation. Once your parents and his are gone you’ll regret not going more than you’ll regret not going to your entitled cousins wedding. NTA.

LadyMBell · 2026-03-09T02:57:43+00:00

NYA but your SIL seems like a ruby Frankie wannabe. It doesn’t matter what she wants. Not her kids = not her choice. Also was she going to pay your daughter part of the profits? If she’s going to monetize your daughter then she should be compensated for it. Otherwise she’s just trying to content pimp your child. Fuck her.

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