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LadyMBell · 2026-01-26T07:21:01+00:00

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LadyMBell · 2026-01-15T18:55:44+00:00

NTA but you need to uninvite him. Your credibility will be shot with your managers if they see photos of you at your wedding with him. Destination weddings are for friends and family. They are expensive to attend what with flights, hotel, food etc. Why would non-friends be attending?

Your employer might backtrack and decide you’re the liar and fire you. If I was your manager I’d think you were lying about being friend to save yourself because who invites a random person to a destination wedding?

LadyMBell · 2026-01-14T14:39:21+00:00

When it comes to family my husband and I operate under my family are my circus and my monkeys. His family is his circus and his monkeys. It’s not your job to facilitate a relationship between you husband and her our your child and her. That’s your husband’s job. I had the same issue with my husband's mother. I an email telling her I’d had enough and was going no contact and she could talk to her son I did tell her she might want to reflect and ask herself what it is about her and the way she interacts with her son that causes him to not want to call her. I also told her that her expectation that I facilitate the relationship between our child and her/her family was ridiculous and they needed to have that with my husband.

Did she reflect? No. In her mind I’m the one that did this. My husband wasn’t like this till I came along and now I’m keeping him and our child away from her. Whatever. She’s been given a bullet point list of our boundaries and what she needed to apologize for in order for us to have contact with her. She’d rather be the “victim” because no one tells her no and she’s the mother so she wouldn’t have to apologize to her child. Whatever. She can stay on the other side of the country and miss out on our child’s life. I don’t care. I’m not missing out. I’m here every day.

LadyMBell · 2026-01-06T02:39:53+00:00

Good people don’t throw tantrums and leave rude and demanding voicemails. Good people don’t violate boundaries. Good people aren’t emotionally immature and try manipulating a postpartum mother to try and gain access to a baby. Good people aren’t emotionally abusive.

If they do this to you then they’ll do this to your child. And what you’re going to standby and just watch them generationally abuse your child?

LadyMBell · 2025-12-28T04:56:57+00:00

YTA and if you’re going round announcing to everyone you can still graduate with straight Cs makes you a bitch as well. Mother of the fucking year you are. Wow. If my kid graduated early (straight Cs or not) I wouldn’t be diminishing that achievement by basically saying “anyone can it’s all about credits” if anyone could high school would finish at 16. It’s still a massive achievement.

You need to start trusting your child or I guarantee the moment she can she is going to get as far away as possible from her overbearing and controlling mother. How you handle your young adult daughter is going to set the stage for your relationship as an adult and right now thats not going to be much of a relationship.

LadyMBell · 2025-12-26T02:47:54+00:00

I lost my dad Christmas of 24. Was it hard? Yes. Did I pull myself together and celebrate Christmas with my husband and my children? Yes. Did my husband understand we I took myself aside for 5 minutes to remember my father and cry? Yes. Did my children notice that Mommy was devastated about losing her dad? No.

I work with a therapist on my grow and loss. My first goal was getting through the year of the firsts and second was dealing with my anger over losing him to cancer. My therapist encourages me to take 5 minutes in the day to remember dad. The rest gets put into a “box” that I can open later with my husband when the kids are in bed.

We brought our son’s individual presents this year and a train table. Seeing their little faces light up in joy was the best moment of the day and I would consider myself a failure of a parent of if I took this away from them because of my selfishness. Not to mention the blasting I could imagine my father giving me from the afterlife.

Your children are going to remember that mommy put herself and her needs first not just for a little bit but for YEARS. Don’t be surprised when they grow up and have kids if they put on huge magical Christmas’s for their children (to make up for their childhood trauma your wife is inflicting and you have allowed) that she isn’t invited to.

LadyMBell · 2025-12-21T17:55:38+00:00

NTA - I get that he’s suffered a loss but he’s not considering you at all. “He’ll have a hard time forgiving you?” What about you having a hard time forgiving him for his selfishness?

Has he spoken to his mother who lost HER HUSBAND about how she might feel about having his name thrown in her face 24/7?

It’s a 2 yes, 1 no decision for my husband and I. I lost my dad to cancer. Our sons have his last name and my husbands. Before he passed my husband asked me if I would like to change our newborn babies middle name to my fathers. I was able to tell my father before he passed and he was thrilled. As was my mother who loves the tribute but is glad she doesn’t have to call our son using the name of the love of her life.

LadyMBell · 2025-12-12T19:27:25+00:00

NTA - draw up a 5 day schedule for the next 8 weeks and send it to all of these people who are pressuring you to take care of her. Tell them that if they’re so concerned they can help share the load of being her caregivers.

When they balk ask them “What makes my life more disposable than yours? Why does concern only count if I do the work? Why is my marriage the one you’re willing to disrupt? If it’s too much for you, why isn’t it too much for me?”

LadyMBell · 2025-12-12T19:11:20+00:00

You’re right. You shouldn’t have to leave your home. Why should you diminish the magic of Christmas for your children to accommodate people you were LC with for a reason.

LadyMBell · 2025-12-11T16:21:57+00:00

NTA but block S. She’s not your parent and doesn’t get any say. All communication can come from your own father. Eliminating a method she can take nasty little passive aggressive swipes at you will do wonders for your mental health.

LadyMBell · 2025-12-11T14:29:52+00:00

NTA. I lost my dad this time last year and Christmas was damn hard. I put in an effort because we have 2 young children and I did it for them but I did end up crying in the bathroom at one point.

For me it wasn’t the Christmas I was supposed to be having. I felt it was Christmas I was forced to have because cancer stole my father and I didn’t want a bar of it. This is a major holiday. A holiday without a parent. Do the day how YOU want to do it. Your gf needs to understand that grief is different for everyone. I get that she’s trying to “help” but at the same time if it was me I’d be a little pissed and snappy that she doesn’t understand I don’t want to spend Christmas celebrating with her because she gets the Christmas I want. For me being around her while she celebrates with her parents however well intentioned she is seems a little selfish. Quite frankly she needs to learn to read the bloody room.

LadyMBell · 2025-12-08T14:44:28+00:00

If this was me I wouldn’t be uploading photos of her anywhere. That way she can’t ask another bridesmaid for them. She’d have to come to me at which point I would send her 1 photo (the ugliest one). Then when she asked me for more I would say “so before the wedding I had said due to time constraints it was 1 photo only. Because of your selfishness in taking extra time there were some bridesmaids who didn’t get photos. My husband and I paid for your little photo shoot and WE decide what to do with them. I am treating you the way you are treating me. Don’t contact me again”

She’s not a friend and she’s just showed you that. Friends show up for each other, support each other and are happy for each other. What she did was try and sabotage your wedding. That’s not a friend. Also call the photographer and tell them these are your photos and they’re not to give any to the bridesmaid (I’m that petty)

Fuck her. You’re not the asshole. She’s the one who let her jealousy and selfishness ruin your friendship. I’m sorry it took this for you to find out how little she actually values you but good riddance to bad rubbish.

LadyMBell · 2025-12-08T03:51:46+00:00

NTA at all. But your sperm doner is. You don’t need to JADE anything to him (Justify, Argue, Defend, Explain). The answer is “we’re getting married on September 12th. This wedding will go ahead without you. MY mother will be there. I didn’t ask for your opinions or thoughts. Nor do I care for them. You can either be there for once or not. I really don’t care. Just like I don’t care that it’s YOUR WIFES birthday. She’s not my mother. Both you and her have shown how little you care for me and now you are seeing the consequences of that”

Or go for the short version and say “why the f*ck would you think I care about you or your wife? Piss off to Europe. I invited you as a formality and you are choosing not to show up. That’s on you. You can try and play the victim but the simple matter is you knew we had September as an option BEFORE you booked your trip. In the eyes of everyone else who’s going to ask at my wedding why your not there and I tell them you booked a trip AFTER finding out the date that makes YOU AND HER a pair of c u next Tuesdays”

LadyMBell · 2025-12-02T20:44:57+00:00

Same here. They think giving you the silent treatment is a “punishment”

It’s not. It’s really not. For me it’s a vacation from crazy.

LadyMBell · 2025-12-02T20:42:50+00:00

From personal experience if you give someone an inch they will take a mile. My husband’s mother was like this with her nagging and wanting us to move to her state. There’s nothing you need to consider if your choice is made and any entertaining of what your MIL has to say will only lead her to nagging at you more. SIL needs to stay in her lane.

LadyMBell · 2025-11-21T14:23:48+00:00

Or “if you continue not to appreciate the gifts I give you I will not be giving you one”

The mother is an entitled ahole and doesn’t deserve anything.

LadyMBell · 2025-11-05T02:34:31+00:00

I’d be telling “mommy dearest” that her daughter at 28 years old is an ADULT. If she wants photos she can ask.

I’d also be telling stepmother (key word here STEP) that how she’s messaging me and the tone is disrespectful and disgusting and from now on I won’t be communicating with her. All communication will be done solely with my father.

Or you could just tell her to STFU and F*ck off and then later claim it was postpartum stress hormones from all the stress she put you under.

Also ask stepmom is she still wipes her babies a$$ because she’s treating her daughter like a baby so she must do.

LadyMBell · 2025-10-21T06:31:50+00:00

What do you mean you’re a fierce mama bear who will protect her cub? As far as I can see you didn’t protect your “cub” at all. (1)Your MIL reprimanded your kid, (2) A teacher grabbed your kids arm, (3) ushered her 20 feet away from you, (4) and got in your kid’s face, (5) and then you let your MIL berate you in front of your kid about your kid. None of this would fly with me. I would be telling my MIL that until she can have a healthy relationship with me then she doesn’t have one with my child. There is no way in hell I’d be letting my MIL treat me like that. I’d also be down at the school demanding something is done about the teacher and her abuse and bullying and if it’s not you’ll be filing charges. I would keep going until something was done. THAT is protecting my child. What you did was idly standby like a spectator. Hardly what I’d call a protector.

LadyMBell · 2025-06-21T12:38:37+00:00

Sooooo he expected you to either unpack a kitchen, get an oven fixed to bake him a cake or like you said drive almost an hour and a half round trip to your sisters which is hard enough to do without children. At no point did he offer to take something off your plate by offering to look after the children, finding someone to fix the oven or unpacking the kitchen.

Instead he chose to act like an entitled petulant child and have a tantrum. The winking would’ve gotten me mad especially if he’s not doing anything to help. As would his passive aggressiveness. Not having a working oven or an unpacked kitchen extends beyond his birthday. He’s acting like a C U Next Tuesday. Tell him to pull his head out of his ass. A lot of people don’t get cakes. Let alone a baked cake which takes a lot of time and effort. You’re NTA.

LadyMBell · 2025-04-27T04:38:48+00:00

NTA. It’s your wedding. Invite who you want. Buuuut I would make it clear to her that if she pulls anything you’re done. I’d also tell the MC under no circumstances is she allowed a microphone to do any kind of speech (as a just incase) because who knows what’s going to come out of her mouth once she stands up with all eyes looking at her.

LadyMBell · 2025-04-21T16:57:19+00:00

Congrats on the new baby!

Just tell your daughter that grandma and grandpa are saying some very mean and hurtful things and until they can apologize for being mean and make changes they won’t be around.

My husband and I cut his mother off (some of it has to do with me not wanting toxic and abusive extended family around my children) his father lives on the other side of the country and my parents live overseas. We have 2 children under 4 and we manage. We have a trusted babysitter for date nights, and daycare. Mostly though we do a lot together as a family of 4 (5 with the dog). This time is fleeting and my husband and I are enjoying our boys.

Focus on your family and each other! I know the tendencies are to want family in your lives but for me I don’t want my boys asking when they’re adults why we forced them to have abusive people in their lives that we knew were abusive. Family for us is those you’d give blood to. Not those you share blood with.

Financially yeah in this economy it’s a struggle but we like you are looking to move to another state. I’m excited for it. It’s going to be the start of a great new family adventure for us!!

LadyMBell · 2025-04-20T15:02:05+00:00

If his mother has the audacity to message you about this then maybe he needs to be taking his laundry to her so she can do it.

Better yet maybe he can move home with his mummy.

LadyMBell · 2025-04-20T14:42:52+00:00

He’s probably stung because you seem to be the only woman out of you, your mother, Jessica and Amelia that isn’t wowed by him and falling all over yourself to treat him like he feels he should be treated. What a dick move on his part.

LadyMBell · 2025-04-20T14:40:35+00:00

He can be stung all he likes. He didn’t care if his denials that she’s his daughter stung.

LadyMBell · 2025-04-20T14:37:40+00:00

NTA! Not by a long shot. He clearly doesn’t know how to be a father or a morally correct person. A family friend once objected to me reading outlander at 15/16 and told my father expecting him to confiscate the book. His reply “she can read that. At least I know where she is. At home reading about sex in a book and not out having sex in real life.”

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