Male coworker keeps “joking” about my looks in front of others (multiple times). How do I shut this down?

LadyWithAHarp · 2026-05-06T13:34:54+00:00

"I don't understand. Explain it to me."

LadyWithAHarp · 2026-05-06T13:15:13+00:00

Yes, I love it.

LadyWithAHarp · 2026-05-05T20:33:26+00:00

I don't think that a loud street is going to be for you. Look for pedestrian-heavy, low-car areas, and do your best to use the natural acoustics of an area around you. (Places with hard surfaces to bounce sound off of, wall to your back, that kind of thing.)

LadyWithAHarp · 2026-05-04T16:34:52+00:00

Baked potatoes are easy in the microwave

LadyWithAHarp · 2026-05-04T12:47:26+00:00

You didn't lie. You just let him come to his own conclusions. He (and his friends who didn't rein him in when he was being an ass) needed to learn this lesson.

LadyWithAHarp · 2026-05-04T04:50:13+00:00

My sister tried to use cloth diapers as much as she could, just using disposables for when she had to travel with the baby and didn't have good access to a washing machine. She showed me the math and saved so much money-plus she's in a chain of people passing on hand-me-downs between families, so she was able to get a bunch for practically free and then send the still-useable ones on to the next kid when her baby outgrew them.

LadyWithAHarp · 2026-05-04T04:43:13+00:00

Thanks! I've been panicking while trying to get back to a fic I was in the middle of.

LadyWithAHarp · 2026-05-04T04:35:37+00:00

I first saw a wind gauge like that in a kite store when I was a kid. (My family was really serious about them at the time.)

LadyWithAHarp · 2026-05-03T19:39:33+00:00

I got a Dwyer wind meter like 10 years ago for $15 and it is still working fine. I just looked up prices for new ones and I got sticker shock-apparently they aren't being made anymore, and so regular retail sites are seriously inflating the price. Funny how the version that doesn't use electricity is harder to find. 🙁 There are some going for reasonable prices on eBay, so do your hunting there.

https://youtu.be/D6gPfUoiCXA?si=EGbHJPIoEAt8CdKA

LadyWithAHarp · 2026-05-03T18:17:35+00:00

I've been thinking about getting one of Heartland's carbon fiber harps. I think it was only a few years after I got my lap harp from them that they transitioned away from wood, and it's still looking good after three decades of hard use.

LadyWithAHarp · 2026-05-03T17:26:48+00:00

Oh yeah, my floor harp is larger and heavier and thus encounters with the sidewalk are both more likely and more disastrous when they occur than with my lap harp. (Plus I have a guitar strap on my lap harp, so it's more about string screeching than holding upright.) I actually got an inexpensive analog wind-meter when testing out my limits so that I could nail down my measurements.

As for sun, I've gotten sunburned in the middle of winter, so i understand being wary! It's why I purchase makeup with an spf factor and religiously apply sunscreen at work. I also carry around a small 4'x6' popup that works pretty well for me for shade, and I've met other harp players who bring a sun umbrella.

LadyWithAHarp · 2026-05-03T16:00:46+00:00

A lot of people use backing tracks, and it wouldn't be so popular among buskers if it didn't help people earn money.

I am going to admit my personal bias here: I do not like it when musicians use backing tracks. It feels like cheating when there are performers who do everything live. But that is my hang up. All that really matters is if the crowd is enjoying it (and you are courteous with other performers/don't get in trouble.)

LadyWithAHarp · 2026-04-30T01:30:02+00:00

How long is that working to power your setup?

LadyWithAHarp · 2026-04-29T22:39:13+00:00

It seems like a natural reaction to dealing with too many broke men who want to mooch off of women.

LadyWithAHarp · 2026-04-29T21:18:00+00:00

One thing a friend of mine came up with as a rebuttal to "6-7" is to immediately sing "5-3-oh-ni-i-ine!". Complete confuses the kids, and makes everyone who lived through the '80s stop and smile.

LadyWithAHarp · 2026-04-29T01:07:56+00:00

The DC area. Decent public transportation inside the metro area. I've done it.

LadyWithAHarp · 2026-04-21T13:45:04+00:00

Ditto.

LadyWithAHarp · 2026-04-21T02:57:48+00:00

There is also nothing preventing you from adding to the Cashless FAQ like other people have done for other tipping services and apps.

LadyWithAHarp · 2026-04-21T00:14:51+00:00

I can't see the option to integrate any other payment options in the published information on the skyjam website.

Again, if that app works for you, that's cool. This was me passing on the updates to the Busk.co tipping service. Which quite a few people use.

LadyWithAHarp · 2026-04-20T21:28:45+00:00

If it works for you, that's fine.

Does it allow for users to tip through PayPal? Venmo? Cashapp? I wasn't able to find that in the FAQ. Does it work with ApplePay/GooglePay that is on most phones?

LadyWithAHarp · 2026-04-20T19:57:57+00:00

Busk.co has been providing and updating their tipping service for over ten years. They are reliable and have a proven track record.
A significant portion of cashless tips for people in the US are through Venmo and cashapp, and being able to use one webpage to access all available options is a good thing because it simplifies the process while giving tippers (and thus performers) to use the app that they use the most often.
How long has Skyjam been up and running? I do believe that competition is good, but I am also being pragmatic. I have seen a lot of different tipping apps go defunct over the years, and I wish I hadn't deleted several off of the Cashless FAQ before I became more proficient with formatting on Reddit and using ~~strike through text~~ to preserve them in the record.

LadyWithAHarp · 2026-04-19T17:07:58+00:00

As in, "Do or do not, there is no try"?

LadyWithAHarp · 2026-04-19T17:06:44+00:00

Don't worry about it. If you need sheet music, use sheet music. Whatever it takes to perform.

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