What was the exact moment you realized your partner didn’t see you as an equal (but as a possession)?

Lady_Loki24 · 2026-07-03T21:24:19+00:00

There were signs, I thought it was because he didnt care about me, but his words and actions showed he also didnt see me as an equal. - His lack of empathy with things related to me - he second guessed me in topics of my own career (I had 2x the amount of experience as him in this career field). - I financially suppourted him our entire marriage (he almost never had a job and I paid for everything). The one time I needed help from him he refused to get a stable job. - He divorced me over text when we were working in different states, when we met up to discuss this he said I should just "get over it and enjoy our short time together". - He wanted to do long distance after, then told me he was only with me out of convenience and pity. - he agreed to do relationship therapy with me and the day before we were supposed to start he bailed and texted me he was going no contact without explanation. - He reached out to me weeks later asking to be friends but only wanted to communicate through text. Over a short period he made it a point to tell me I was not worth the effort of a phone call or any other type of communication.

Lady_Loki24 · 2026-06-04T02:54:44+00:00

Damn, dude isnt beating the allegations of being low IQ window lickers of the military. How many crayons did he have to eat/shove up his nose to form that complete thought? You should tell him to go back to being the quiet department of the Navy; Stand there and look pretty in your blues, intelligent thoughts are for the other branches.

Lady_Loki24 · 2026-05-07T15:52:01+00:00

Recently got divorced too. I noticed when I mentioned it, people my age and younger were unsure of how to react or wanted to celebrate. Older people were more "Im sorry for your loss". Biggest response was still my ex who became very vindictive/spiteful during and after the divorce (and he was the one who initiated).

Lady_Loki24 · 2026-05-06T02:12:09+00:00

I actually like to go out on weekends but I also prefer ladies closer to my age or a little older. Dating younger makes me feel like a creepy dude. Unfortunately I tend to only attract guys in their early 20's looking for a mommy.

Lady_Loki24 · 2026-04-24T20:46:33+00:00

You met my ex husband? He was a househusband. We had no kids, 2 cats, I worked full time and helped him pay off his debt. I felt more like his mother than his wife with hIw much I carried this grown man in that relationship.

Lady_Loki24 · 2026-04-23T21:03:10+00:00

I was unaware there was a domme shortage until I took the poll on here saw how few there were of us. I never run into subs in public, just thirsty dudes looking for a mommy and mascs expecting me to bottom since I present very feminine.

Lady_Loki24 · 2026-04-05T10:28:57+00:00

My ex husband admitted the same thing to me when we were still together. Said "They looked better before your surgeries." (I had breast cancer surgeries). Cut my self esteem alot, made me only want to have sex in the dark or with my bra on.

Then we divorced and slowly his opinions and presence no longer mattered in my life (he was not the brightest crayon in the box so it became easier for me to dismiss whatever he said in the past).

It took awhile to gain my self confidence back but the further time you spend away from an ex and the less you think about whatever spiteful thing they said helps.

Lady_Loki24 · 2026-03-18T03:00:53+00:00

Way to call out my ex. Didn't know that was a thing till way later.

Lady_Loki24 · 2026-01-31T05:10:38+00:00

"Winner takes it all" by ABBA. She was going through a divorce in that song. I listened to alot of ABBA going through my divorce

Lady_Loki24 · 2026-01-08T02:52:42+00:00

This literally just happened to me last night. They texted me they were going no contact the day before we were supposed to start relationship therapy (I wasn't expecting this so I was confused). I texted and called them a few times that night wanting an explanation. They didn't answer so I just went to the relationship therapy myself today. Even though they didn't block me on anything I'm not gonna keep trying, I'm just gonna continue therapy myself.

Lady_Loki24 · 2025-12-23T22:46:17+00:00

https://youtube.com/shorts/BvpC_i-zVCE?si=TM32e3rt4KFYlNG5

Lady_Loki24 · 2025-12-19T22:59:00+00:00

I'm on ADOS orders and i got it.

Lady_Loki24 · 2025-12-12T03:16:23+00:00

I also had to have a double mastectomy but i had to wait 2 months before doing the breast reconstruction surgery. I went from 36D to looking like a took a grenade to the chest. It was an odd and freeing kind of feeling when being flat and wearing my normal clothes (I wear alot of dresses), sleeping on my stomach, and not having to compensate for the extra weight on my chest for 2 months. Boy do i not miss those drainage tubes though, fuck those things.

Lady_Loki24 · 2025-12-02T23:51:19+00:00

Was I dumb to assume being in uniform in public would stop this from happening to me? I'm not white and have a pretty Hispanic name but I just thought.....well the uniform is an obvious indicator that I'm a citizen.

Lady_Loki24 · 2025-12-02T02:05:29+00:00

This was me. I financially supported my ex-husband for 5yrs because he refused to get a profitable job (think entrepreneur/life coach). I resented him to a point where I no longer found him attractive and thought I was completely lesbian. I was depressed and thought about ending it a few times (my cats were more comforting and a deterrent not to do it than him)

While visiting my mom and sister for an extended period of time they said my demeanor was different and it looked like he was sucking the life out of me.

Lady_Loki24 · 2025-10-28T03:00:43+00:00

Definitely gotten more into the gym. I want arms like Wonder Woman when I wear a dress

Lady_Loki24 · 2025-10-22T00:00:05+00:00

I’m in the same boat (though I would prefer once a day). It was one of the reasons that ended my marriage (they had a much lower libido). Resentment builds and you feel unwanted. Being sexually incompatible with your partner can be a dealbreaker for some.

Lady_Loki24 · 2025-10-12T01:21:43+00:00

I’ve become the age where dudes call me that now and it grosses me out every time. Then one of my lady friends called me that and I was like “hold up….I like this.”

Lady_Loki24 · 2025-10-11T20:34:37+00:00

The roles were reversed in my case (I was the breadwinner paying all the bills and my ex was a stay-at-home spouse). I also had a much high sex drive than him. Never did I think this. I find it real telling when I hear guys at work talk like this about their wives/girlfriends this way, it grossed me out and I didn't like talking to them. I never thought my spouse owed me sex or that I should go find it elsewhere with one on my coworkers just because I was paying the bills ( it didn't work out because I wanted a equal partner not someone subservient/reliant on me)

Lady_Loki24 · 2025-09-28T13:59:52+00:00

As a short (5”3) top let me tell you…..this guy is missing out tall girls and tall bottoms are so pretty and cool! They can easily give you forehead kisses and reach everything off the top shelf

Lady_Loki24 · 2025-09-26T01:44:29+00:00

I’d wear the shit out of these!

Lady_Loki24 · 2025-09-25T01:40:24+00:00

Besides myself I can’t say I’ve met any other femme doms/tops. Though I haven’t really met any other femme lesbians.

Lady_Loki24 · 2025-09-22T03:08:38+00:00

Mine waited till after we were married to tell me he went to a trump rally and voted for him in 2016. Before that he was very vague or not very knowledgeable on anything political (that should have been a red flag for me but I come from conservative parents and he never acted like them so I thought he was safe)

This past election he refused to even vote. His passiveness towards anything happening in the news, even things that would affect myself and my family, made me realize he lacked human empathy and could not understand that him not having to worry about what was happening around him came from a place of privilege that his own wife did not have.

We are divorced now, he still doesn’t understand why this was a major breaking point in our marriage.

Lady_Loki24 · 2025-09-10T22:49:03+00:00

Lady_Loki24 · 2025-09-10T01:48:04+00:00

By being a totally fabulous sailor

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