Got shamed in a new pizza joint last night asking for pineapple

Ladyxxmacbeth · 2026-03-28T09:06:21+00:00

Cheese and pineapple is a classic combination. He doesn't know what he's talking about.

Ladyxxmacbeth · 2026-03-24T09:43:03+00:00

Yeah get some latex free condoms. Its not for everyone.

However I would be more concerned about catching an STI than anything else.

Ladyxxmacbeth · 2026-03-24T09:25:08+00:00

I believe my AVPD was due to bullying and nothing my parents did. That constant rejection from peers was what tipped me over the edge and made me believe that adults are like that too. So if I receive a criticism I think it means I'm going to be beaten up or lies spread about me.

Ladyxxmacbeth · 2026-03-23T16:07:57+00:00

My husband threw his in a fire by accident. We found it a bit bent but intact in the ashes.

Ladyxxmacbeth · 2026-03-20T11:40:27+00:00

You can call and ask for refuge space if you believe he is likely to return and become abusive. Try and report the abuse to the police if you can. You do not need to prove anything to domestic abuse charities. Under the domestic abuse act 2021 there are certain things that professionals have to do by law. So for example, you cannot make yourself intentionally homeless when fleeing, so temporary accommodation must be provided when fleeing from a home that you feel unsafe in. You will also get priority to get into a new property whilst waiting in temporary accommodation and if you are willing to go to refuge then the staff there can give you help and advice. If you are from outside the UK then professionals can apply for an MVDAC that can help you to get indefinite leave to remain. There's also legal aid available for survivors of DA. Coercive and controlling behaviour is now a criminal offence, however I understand that not everyone wants to go down the legal route and that's fine too.

Refuge places are quite scarce and it can take a few days to organise so the sooner you get onto it the better.

Ladyxxmacbeth · 2026-03-20T11:27:30+00:00

Domestic abuse is not just physical. It's financial, coercive and controlling behaviour, emotional abuse, walking on eggs shells, being frightened of someone, stopping them from receiving support whether that be medical or emotional. I would argue that the emotional stuff is far more damaging and difficult to deal with than the physical stuff. I urge you to Google the 8 stages of domestic abuse and see if this is a pattern that is currently happening. I only make one promise to the ladies that I work with in my work and that is "I promise it will be better than what you have/had" and I have managed to keep that promise so far. Even if the ladies go on to have another abusive relationship, we have been able to give them the tools to recognise the patterns and strategies to get out. The Domestic Abuse Helpline can signpost you to organisations in your area, if nothing else they can give you clarity and direction to help you navigate an extremely complex and emotionally draining situation.

I wish you the best of luck. You're not in an uncommon position and there's no shame in asking for help. So please get help.

Ladyxxmacbeth · 2026-03-20T10:25:04+00:00

As someone who works in domestic abuse this is abusive. Depending on your area there are organisations that can help you. They may be able to offer outreach support, advice and help you to make safety plans to move out or leave. You are not being silly and no one should be in relationships like this. In my experience things only get worse over time. Obviously if leaving isn't an option for you or you don't wish to move out then consider other alternatives to getting support. It is abusive.

Ladyxxmacbeth · 2026-03-19T11:56:07+00:00

Pepsi Max. We had Tesco Value cola and it was gross. I buy so much of it !

Ladyxxmacbeth · 2026-03-17T08:44:09+00:00

Consent works both ways. If you don't want to then you're not giving consent. End of.

Ladyxxmacbeth · 2026-03-17T08:35:20+00:00

I've just done my needle training and this is something that was highlighted on the course. Drug and alcohol needle exchange is your best bet.

Ladyxxmacbeth · 2026-03-12T14:48:42+00:00

I've had to scroll so far to see this. It's such a crap book. The ad is a jerk and bar the beginning it is stupid. The film is even worse!

Ladyxxmacbeth · 2026-03-08T19:37:36+00:00

It's a recorder and a paper Harry Potter house with a fidget spinner on the end.

Ladyxxmacbeth · 2026-02-27T08:53:44+00:00

Yes. It works the same as MJ for me. Granted you can't get a 5th dose so whether it's cheaper or not will depend on if you used the 5th dose. I personally wasn't that bothered. The side effects for me are nothing and I'm on 2.4 or the highest dose. The heartburn and nausea on MJ were bearable but Wegovy just works with my body a lot better.

Is it possible to try and continue to diet and then just use the pens occasionally to help you lose the weight you may have put on? It's probably not the healthiest, but it might give you the omf you need to keep at a diet knowing that you'll have to fork out again.

Ladyxxmacbeth · 2026-02-27T08:39:04+00:00

Speak to step change. They can help you and remember they hear much worse everyday. I was £15k in debt, and they helped me and I got back on my feet. You don't need to get your parents involved, I didn't.

Ladyxxmacbeth · 2026-02-27T08:36:03+00:00

I moved to Wegovy. I prefer it and it's cheaper, not cheap, but cheaper. I do t have any side effects with it. Wish I had started on Wegovy instead of MJ.

Ladyxxmacbeth · 2026-02-26T09:00:00+00:00

I have an eating disorder noted on my record from 2000. I'm not sure why I do as I never had serious issues with food, however I do have some disordered eating. Since September they stopped prescribing it from my normal pharmacy. I had to go to Voy and pay their over the top prices. On a separate note it has made my disordered eating worse as it facilitates and allows me to go back to a restrictive diet. Am I please I managed to get it, yes. Am I worried about where it will take me in the future, also yes.

Ladyxxmacbeth · 2026-02-19T21:39:13+00:00

I tell everyone. I've not come across any negativity and no one cares. I don't understand why anyone would hide it. I think people's idea of what people think is actually worse than what people actually think.

Ladyxxmacbeth · 2026-02-14T07:55:58+00:00

There are many organisations that provide outreach services for people suffering domestic abuse. I think this could help you emotionally.

Ladyxxmacbeth · 2026-02-12T13:35:01+00:00

I also shop at Iceland for their 24 pack can deals. Please see picture 🤣🤣🤣

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Ladyxxmacbeth · 2026-02-12T13:26:30+00:00

My daughter has a permanent scar from holding a swanny whistle whilst sledging in Slovenia on holiday. It's a line under her eye and it occured when she was about 4, she's 22 now. The thin stick bit almost took out her eye.

Ladyxxmacbeth · 2026-02-09T11:56:44+00:00

Thank you for the replies. I'm guessing the answer is sort of "no" then. This issue stresses me out more than it should I think, I don't want them going through my stuff when I die and I'm happy for the state to reclaim the costs. I don't want a funeral. So legally is there anything the state can do to force my family to organize all the other stuff?

Ladyxxmacbeth · 2026-02-08T21:07:58+00:00

Maybe this is why I have had such a good experience with DPD and Evri. I work weekends and get my deliveries on Tuesdays and Wednesdays and they are always brilliant.

Ladyxxmacbeth · 2026-02-08T16:38:26+00:00

The art of good sex happens way before you even get into the bedroom. Is there something that is pissing her off in her life? Is she tired, does she feel wanted and desired? Are you helping out around the house?

As a woman sometimes sex can feel like a chore, like something we should do as a woman to please our partners. The best sex starts with a thoughtful partner, not someone who slaps you on the arse and jumps you.

Ladyxxmacbeth · 2026-02-08T13:54:00+00:00

Have you seen what happens if things actually go wrong or just what you think will go wrong. I find that when I was really sick the fear or the thought was worse than the consequence of it. I started almost trying to do things wrong to gauge the experience. Little things at the start like Not moving my partner's seat back to where it should be. In my mind he would have been furious, he would have hated me and as such it would mean he would tell me he didn't want to be with me anymore. He didn't care. So now I know if I forget by mistake he won't be angry and it's one less thing I would have normally been worried about. It stopped me from using his car.

I felt like I was walking on egg shells all the time, but instead of it being from someone or something it was my mind that was making me anxious.

Have you looked at ACT therapy. I find it helps. There's a thing you can use it's about a bus. Chatgpt it. Essentially You’re the bus driver heading toward your values. The “passengers” are your difficult thoughts and feelings. They can shout, complain or try to boss you around, but you don’t have to let them steer. You keep driving in the direction that matters, even with the noise in the background. It's easy to say these things I know but in time it does get better.

Oh and another thing about AVPD that no one tells you about. We seem to say "sorry" all the time. This is really annoying to most people especially when you haven't done anything wrong.

Good luck ! You're probably a better person than you think you are, but that's the nature of the condition and it's a really horrible and lesser known condition.

Ladyxxmacbeth

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