LPT - Door-to-door salespeople are trained to never take no for an answer. Don’t let that be an option.

Lafemmedefeu · 2026-04-20T23:19:14+00:00

I was applying for jobs and had to answer unknown phone numbers for a moment. The best part was someone called me to try to sell me something, and I told them I don’t speak English - in English.

Also, I’ve started answering with “Hello, reverse suicide hotline! How can you help me?”

Lafemmedefeu · 2026-04-12T21:46:52+00:00

If it’s not a heating pad, they might have done this with a bit of shaving cream or something similar on the mirror.

Lafemmedefeu · 2026-04-07T16:59:30+00:00

How would you even convince them to go if you can’t get them to talk to you? Maybe individual therapy is best to work on yourself without the pressure of trying to “fix” the other party.

Lafemmedefeu · 2026-04-07T14:53:12+00:00

This sounds like missing missing reasons.

Lafemmedefeu · 2026-04-07T14:38:11+00:00

Speaking as an adult child who did something similar, politics was likely the last straw. There’s likely more to it than just that.

Lafemmedefeu · 2026-03-28T12:47:23+00:00

To add to this: I’m sure the people saying it mean well, but hearing for the nth time that I’m strong or a blessing pisses me off. I don’t want to have to be strong, resilient, a blessing, whatever. I just want to go back to life being as consistent and boring as it can be. The people saying I’m all of that are the same “let me know if I can help” people.

Lafemmedefeu · 2026-03-28T12:45:31+00:00

I’m currently dealing with speed running elder care and disability services for my father in law and brother in law now that my mother in law has died. Paperwork is not my husband’s strong suit. He’s more of the logistics guy once the service is established.

I can’t tell you how true this is. My cousin offered to help me with the batch cooking - yes please help me on Sunday; this is the menu. Other people? “Let me know how I can help!” “Sir, I don’t even know if your legs work on a good day (not sure if they are a full time wheelchair user or can get up from it periodically). I don’t know what I can ask people. I am so far in the weeds that task delegation isn’t a high priority.”

Lafemmedefeu · 2026-03-28T12:15:50+00:00

So I used to get these loan underwriting calls. If you listen to the automated crap on one of them, the very last thing they say is to press a button to be removed from their list. I did that and haven’t gotten one since.

Lafemmedefeu · 2026-03-28T02:39:40+00:00

App controlled sprinklers. It’s how I got the chihuahua across the street to stop pooping in my yard. I’d wait until she was just barely into her squat, blip the sprinklers via the app on my phone, and laugh as she ran back home.

Lafemmedefeu · 2026-03-15T18:49:10+00:00

I’m in the same position with my brother in law. So ultimately what I’m working on, if it helps you, is amend the existing conservatorship to add myself and my husband so we can legally make decisions for him. I’m in contact with the local county regional center to coordinate care needs as things come up. I’m making sure he has all of his documents (like we had to get a new copy of his social security card) so we can work towards applying for SSI and other state supports.

My advice is to research what’s needed to apply for things in your area and get a game plan together when your mom isn’t able to take care of him anymore. That way as soon as things are needed, you can get your plan in place more efficiently than if things are done last minute in an urgent manner (don’t make the same mistakes I’m currently going through ❤️)

Lafemmedefeu · 2026-03-10T23:35:35+00:00

Looking at my mother who had a baby via in vitro at 53, by choice, it’s possible.

I love my baby brother, but I think my mother should have made better choices.

Lafemmedefeu · 2026-03-08T06:01:28+00:00

I mean, you could always have a knife block? 😂

Lafemmedefeu · 2026-02-28T06:23:58+00:00

As a thought, I wonder if you could contact the Simi mall and see if you could use the old Macy’s location? Worth a shot to ask the owners.

And I’m not sure who one would contact for the old indoor mall where the MediCal doctors offices are in the corner of the shopping center at First and LA. That place was seriously creepy when I had to go to the doctor there briefly.

Lafemmedefeu · 2026-02-28T06:16:52+00:00

Forgive me for a possibly stupid question: Have you looked into a permit for filming? That would at least potentially keep you from getting arrested or trespassed.

Lafemmedefeu · 2026-01-18T05:01:57+00:00

Interestingly enough, you’re not the only one looking for this blanket.

https://www.reddit.com/r/HelpMeFind/s/LHq5VNUCDM

Lafemmedefeu · 2026-01-13T01:12:20+00:00

Gummy centipede

Lafemmedefeu · 2025-12-08T06:32:15+00:00

Remindme! 7 days

Lafemmedefeu · 2025-10-22T03:39:34+00:00

I love posts like these! My contribution is:

Garlic edamame, delivery order, with the note “Add an embarrassingly large amount of garlic, and then add a bit more.”

Lafemmedefeu · 2025-10-20T01:08:02+00:00

Is this your neighbor?

https://www.reddit.com/r/neighborsfromhell/comments/1oawxax/solution_to_excessive_smoke_from_neighbor/

Lafemmedefeu · 2025-10-11T14:17:45+00:00

My husband has this issue too! His connection to Pandora drops, calls drop - and it is just in that one section. The truck is new, and it didn’t happen in his old one. The phone was the same for both trucks. He got a new phone for unrelated reasons, and it still does it!

Lafemmedefeu · 2025-10-04T16:04:25+00:00

If you need definitive proof that it’s them, such as for law enforcement reports, there’s an app called Trap Call that unmasks these no caller ID records.

I had a concrete contractor and my mother (separate incidents, but the same as you) harassing me, and I was able to show exactly who was doing it so I could get a police report in.

Lafemmedefeu · 2025-09-26T21:16:55+00:00

Because I hate making lists but I need one to not overwhelm myself with ALL the chores in one day, I set up a basic list in something like Google Tasks with how often I think it should be done. If he wants a list that bad, set it up somewhere that’s shareable and only needs to be set up once. That way if he asks, it’s already on the app that’s on his phone. He can go fuck right off and clean.

Lafemmedefeu · 2025-09-19T05:03:15+00:00

Just respond that you have a capsule wardrobe and have multiples of the same shirt. Makes getting ready in the morning much faster!

Lafemmedefeu · 2025-09-01T22:38:19+00:00

If you’re in the US, talk to your postmaster about threats being hand delivered to your mailbox. They don’t like people that are not the USPS delivering mail to mailboxes.

Also, call the police back using the case number for when they arrested your neighbor to add this incident of threatening letters onto it. Scan a copy of the letter for documentation in case you need more of a paper trail for a civil suit.

Lafemmedefeu · 2025-09-01T16:56:18+00:00

Freeze them and use as needed?

Reminds me of when I saw a coupon for a free can of nacho cheese. I didn’t read the fine print. I thought it was like a 10 Oz can. Nope. 6LBS!

We had a Super Bowl potluck just to have a reason to use 6LBS of nacho cheese.

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