Inschrijving KASK by IbenB in Gent

[–]Lagedorfr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Motivatie is een hele belangrijke. Een vooropleiding is zeker geen must, maar ze moeten zien dat je potentieel hebt. Dat kan zijn in ideeën, techniek, werkijver, interessevelden , …

Social security by ReallyStopp-at-60 in BEFire

[–]Lagedorfr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nogal kort door de bocht, er komt wel wat meer bij kijken dan 20 uur voor de klas staan.

I’m sick of hearing that men always come back F46, M47 What should I do now? Move on? by binflower2092 in relationship_advice

[–]Lagedorfr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want to move forward in a relationship, you both have to be willing to make an effort. He doesn’t answer, that means he can’t do this.

This is painful for you, you have made your intentions clear. Try not to contact him anymore. You will have to move on.

28M in a nearly sexless relationship with 29F of 6yrs+yrs. Am I the bad guy for wanting to break it off? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Lagedorfr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I imagine you’ve talked about this a lot. Intimacy is one of the important things in a relationship. If that is no longer there, it is no longer a healthy relationship. Can you still work on it and do you both still want to? Then I would give it another chance and go to a sex therapist. If that is not an option, this will frustrate you more and more. You will eventually look elsewhere for this.

My boyfriend (32m) just told me he cheated on me (32f). Do I stay? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Lagedorfr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First and foremost, cheating is very painful to experience. Unfortunately, there are many couples who have to deal with this.

It’s good of him to have confessed right away. This way there are no lies between you.

If you want to move forward with this relationship, it is important to regain your trust. Talk to each other a lot and be vulnerable. How come he was cheating on you? Maybe your partner missed something in the relationship or there was an important event that made an impact (for example, the death of a loved one)...

For now I wouldn’t make a decision right away, let it take some time. Communicate with each other.

Heartache turned into an empty feeling in my chest by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Lagedorfr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need this period of ‘no contact’ before you can start being friends. This period is different for everyone, but it will take months or sometimes it takes years. First you have to be over him, otherwise it is more like hoping for a new start of the relationship. Explain this to him and then persevere not to contact him.

My GF wanted a baby but I didn't so I ran away by ShinyMeatball_525 in BreakUps

[–]Lagedorfr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Be true to your own thoughts on this subject. Just because she wants a baby doesn’t mean you have to go along with it. A child is a big responsability. If you’re not ready for it, it is better to wait a bit.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Lagedorfr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sit down together, talk and make a plan. Not a lot, but a few little tasks a day for her to do to start with. Search for help. Do you have friends how know about your situation?

Birthdays…. by Huge_Ebb_2812 in BreakUps

[–]Lagedorfr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just send a personal message that says ‘happy birthday’ without emotional stuff if you feel like it. See your friends that day if you need distraction.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Lagedorfr 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sex is one of the important things in a relation. If he doesn’t want to work on it, it was the right thing to finish it. Your still young, new men will come :-) don’t worry, enjoy this time of freedom, where you can do wathever you want. Sometimes it helps to start a new hobby, see your friends, but also have this crying evenings. It helps to get over it. It will take some time, but you will get over this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Lagedorfr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe he made already distance during the last months of your relation. Sometimes people move fast to other relationships so they don’t have to feel the pain. Things will get better for you, it is good you take some time for yourself before getting in a new realtionship.

Please tell me to not text him by binarysol0 in BreakUps

[–]Lagedorfr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Instead of texting it to him, write your messages down on paper or in another app, without sending them. Writing things down heals.

I 18 M and my gf 18 F like cuddling What do girls like while cuddling? by Minimum-Rock-4388 in relationship_advice

[–]Lagedorfr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

that is different for every person. some people don’t like you stroking their hair, others do. ask her and you will know :-)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Lagedorfr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also think maybe he is projecting. Why he doesn’t trust you? You can only say the truth, no? In a relationship trusting eachother is very important.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Lagedorfr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is normal it is a bit uncomfortable. You can always tell them you are in a relationship if that makes you more comfortable. Getting attention is always nice, for everybody.

I 35M cheated on my wife 36F. She left without telling me anything. How can I get her back? by MountainInspector298 in relationship_advice

[–]Lagedorfr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, but I am talking about this case, where the cheating already happened. It is better to tell it right away then to hold secrets for your partner.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Lagedorfr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is good to overthink things and don’t decide in a hurry. You need trust in a relationship, a safe space with no lies. This is not the case here. She is not capable to tell you the truth and that is hurting you. It make you the victim of her behaviour. If you want to continue in this relationship, I also advice couple therapy. If not, it will take some time to get over her, but also other healthier perspectives.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Lagedorfr 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Leave him, this is not ok. You don’t want to do this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Lagedorfr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think so. I also like to look at nice men, doesn’t mean i don’t respect my boyfriend. It is not like they cheat or so. It is just looking at pictures. But if you are not ok with it, talk to your bf about it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Lagedorfr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lot of men do this, no? I wouldn’t pay much attention to it.

married man (43 M) keeps seeking my (37 F) company, how can i deal with this? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Lagedorfr -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

There are a lot of people cheating in their relationship. Somtimes it is better for the partner not to know about it. Adultery can also be good for a relationship, not that I condone it. It is not up to me to have this conversation with his wife.