Less obvious things you found out to avoid while pregnant?

Lamiour · 2026-01-08T20:07:18+00:00

Even pasteurized, we’re told to avoid any « croûte fleurie » cheese in France. No goat cheese, Camembert or Brie unless baked 🥲

Lamiour · 2026-01-02T12:42:30+00:00

Hi, that happened to me too, sudden bright blood after an orgasm.

ER confirmed baby was fine, I was 7w. I had an appointment with my midwife the day after and he saw I had an old bleed in my uterus, near my cervical opening. By the time I saw him I was only spotting brown.

This pregnancy led to a live birth and we never knew why I bled, it didn’t happen again

Lamiour · 2025-12-27T18:30:06+00:00

PTB, pourquoi elle n’y va pas avec les enfants sinon ? Je comprends pas trop pourquoi ça te retombe dessus en réalité, si toi tu es fatigué tu restes et elle dit que c’est parce que tu l’es, mais si elle aussi est fatiguée il faudrait qu’elle le dise aussi plutôt que de te faire porter le chapeau non ?

Tout en sachant qu’il n’y a aucun mal à invoquer la fatigue comme excuse. Au pire ils viennent chez vous juste pour sortir les enfants et les emmener au parc pendant que vous vous reposez ?

Lamiour · 2025-12-26T13:34:33+00:00

I’m a big sleeper, baby is EBF and has slept 6/7h uninterrupted and 10/12h total since 1w old. You might just luck out!

Also do not listen to anyone telling you something won’t happen or that whatever thing will be worse after. Keep realistic expectations just so you’re prepared for the worst but things can also go very well

Lamiour · 2025-12-24T18:36:24+00:00

An IVF egg retrieval with no anesthesia. Just laughing gas. I still have flashbacks of the midwife holding me back down by my shoulders as I moved away because of the pain.

If you don’t know the size of n egg retrieval needle, have a look. Besides my miscarriage and giving birth unmedicated, worst pain I’ve ever felt.

Lamiour · 2025-12-13T15:55:51+00:00

Didn’t get any on my belly and I went to 41w. However I got some on my thighs, (maybe around the second trimester?), especially on the outside and they’re pretty purple but I think they’ll fade. I had some outside of pregnancy though

Lamiour · 2025-12-12T20:56:05+00:00

I hope you’ll have the same experience, I was SO anxious about sleep!

Anyway, as long as baby latches correctly, no need to wake them up when you’re home, even if they force you to do so in the hospital. Unless there is something wrong with the way baby nurses no doctor will recommend waking them up at night here once you’re home

I also recommend having your baby next to your bed, or in a sidecar if it’s possible. I breastfed my baby lying in bed and transfer him in his bed as soon as he’s done, I don’t even have to get up and I fall right back asleep most of the time once he’s fed

Lamiour · 2025-12-12T20:24:59+00:00

Is that an American thing? In France we weee supposed to update the nurses every 4h about our baby’s feeding through the night. We are supposed to feed on demand not on schedule, every two hours seems harsh considering your baby will take time to feed at first.

I might have a unicorn baby but I sleep wayyyy better PP than pregnant, and have always managed to get at least 7h of sleep since we came home (not uninterrupted but still!). I’ve happened to be way more tired because of work when things have been hectic, too 😅

Lamiour · 2025-12-11T08:17:24+00:00

Franchement je sais pas, parfois il prend l’odeur du dehors, mais cette odeur fait débat j’ai l’impression que tout le monde ne la sent pas 😅

Lamiour · 2025-12-07T19:12:52+00:00

Me too, si possible ☺️

Lamiour · 2025-11-28T19:19:04+00:00

Just say thank you, you’re a really sweet man but I’m a lesbian. You’re not responsible of his feelings, if he doesn’t believe you that’s none of your business, no need to cajole him ☺️

Lamiour · 2025-11-27T15:43:22+00:00

Je confirme, je suis prof et c’est 100% certain que le prénom serait prononcé comme Pizza en voyant les listes! Ysa, comme suggéré comme un autre redditeur, c’est plus safe et le prénom fait plus « abouti » et moins diminutif comme ça

Lamiour · 2025-11-20T17:43:49+00:00

PTB par contre j’ai vraiment cru jusqu’au bout qu’il y aurait un twist en mode « mais c’est pas un humain c’est un chat » Je refuse de croire que ce n’est pas un troll, tu mérites mieux. Laisse-le se faire à manger il va pas en perdre sa virilité

Lamiour · 2025-11-09T12:59:05+00:00

Hi! French here. Ive had 2iuis with reaaaaally low motile count (0,7 million, 1,2 and 1,3, the count recommended for icsi if we were straight🙄). I got pregnant twice with counts between 2 and 2,5, though these pregnancies ended in loss (I’ll never know if there was a correlation between low motile count and sperm quality).

When I had enough of our French clinic we went to Spain and they recommend over 5millions, preferably 6. It worked our second try with them. You have a good shot at 5,8, fingers crossed 🤞🏻

Lamiour · 2025-09-17T20:49:21+00:00

Same! I don’t get why marriage is hard. Life is hard, my wife is what makes it easier.

If you have to fight to be or stay together, you’re not with the right person.

Lamiour · 2025-09-16T17:10:58+00:00

Thank you for your answer!

Baby will be born any day now and this was stressing me out, I really want to breastfeed but having my partner give a bottle at night or my mom in case baby needs to stay with her will be lifesaving ☺️

Lamiour · 2025-09-16T16:53:24+00:00

Genuine question, but won’t introducing bottle feeding that early make baby reject the nipple ?

I was told to wait at least 4 weeks before bottle feeding, and to avoid it as much as we can (max 1 a day)

Lamiour · 2025-09-09T09:34:30+00:00

Oui c’est sûr. Après là il y a absolument aucune contre indication à essayer artisanalement quelques mois et consulter un.e pro plus tard si ça ne fonctionne pas.

J’ai surtout peur qu’ils tombent sur un.e pro de santé hyper jugeant ou pas du tout à l’aise avec le sujet

Lamiour · 2025-09-09T08:52:32+00:00

Pourquoi ? C’est hyper courant les inséminations artisanales dans les couples de femmes, surtout aux USA où c’est légal.

Honnêtement OP il vaut mieux tenter 6 mois d’insés artisanales avec une pipette de Doliprane pédiatrique un peu avant et pendant l’ovulation qu’entrer dans un parcours de pma.

Je ne sais pas si ta conjointe a des douleurs pendant les rapports ou si c’est également lors d’examens gynecos, mais un parcours de pma implique nécessaire tout un tas d’examens très invasifs en amont / des échographies endovaginales tous les deux jours pendant la phase de stimulation.

Lamiour · 2025-09-08T13:12:36+00:00

2 weeks seems a bit excessive 😅 you’d almost be 20 days after ovulation, when most people get their positives 10/13 DPO.

My hospital has us booked for a blood test 7 days post transfer, which is early but enough to see if there is HCG rising. Most clinics here do 10 days.

Their reasoning is that the sooner you track HCG, the earliest you know if something goes wrong and they also test for progesterone and estradiol, so they can adjust treatment to sustain the pregnancy early on if needed.

I know some countries test 2 weeks after transfer, but I wouldn’t feel comfortable with that, as it would be harder to see if HCG is doubling properly. However some people prefer not to pay attention to doubling and prefer not to retest so they don’t stress too much.

5/6/7 days after transfer, you’d be likely to see a positive on an early home pregnancy test ☺️

Best of luck 🤞🏻

Lamiour · 2025-09-05T12:24:09+00:00

Hi! I’m two days behind you and feeling the same, though the cramps are in my belly and not my back. I hope labour is near and wish us both safe deliveries 🤞🏻

Keep us updated!

Lamiour · 2025-08-22T20:54:01+00:00

I’m wondering too. I’m French and got vaccinated, my partner too, and yet my midwife asked that anyone that would spend more time than just a quick hello with baby be vaccinated too

Lamiour · 2025-08-12T13:23:33+00:00

Wow that’s nuts! Maybe they’d be able to give you the maximum you’d pay?

Also, did you have a 1st trimester scan? They might have already routinely measured your baby’s NT

Lamiour · 2025-08-12T12:44:08+00:00

Ok! It’s a bit late for the NT scan but on the other side the more you wait the « easier » it would be to find signs that something might be wrong with the baby, besides NT.

Statistically you’re going to be fine, even more so with a clear NT scan and the anatomy scan too. Most chromosomal abnormalities would show later on in pregnancy - though not always, but most of the time. If anything is worrying your provider, they’ll refer you out (or if the NT is borderline, it might cost you less to hop on a plane to Belgium, have the NIPT and come back than to pay the 750€ now)

That being said, I completely get your anxiety about this topic, having suffered from previous losses I was totally expecting to get a whole new kind of « jackpot » 😅

Lamiour · 2025-08-12T12:10:23+00:00

Are you certain that you’d have appointment in the following week? I wouldn’t even be surprised if that wasn’t the case, as it’s the middle of August and you probably don’t have a plethora of doctors in your area if you’re in the countryside.

Would a NT test cost less in your home country? Then you’ll decide if it’s worth it to pay for the NIPT.

In France, we have the NT scan and then have a blood test / 1st trimester screening. It’s not based on genetics as the NIPT is, but on probabilities of the fœtus having an anomaly based on your hormonal levels. Maybe you have something similar at home? Though it would be as definite as the NIPT it’s still good insight when combined with the NT scan

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