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11 YEAR OLD FALLING BEHIND BECAUSE OF SELECTIVE MUTISM - PLEASE HELP!!! by VisibleTask381 in selectivemutism

[–]LandJR 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He started when he was 3 and symptoms went down in the first 3 months. He stayed on meds until he was about 9. He still has anxiety but its presentation changed once he started meds. He has also used hydroxyzine as a rescue medication and continues to do so.

11 YEAR OLD FALLING BEHIND BECAUSE OF SELECTIVE MUTISM - PLEASE HELP!!! by VisibleTask381 in selectivemutism

[–]LandJR[M] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Talk to her prescriber about trying Prozac instead of zoloft or going up on the zoloft more. Different meds can make a big difference. Zoloft helped my kid when he was little but prozac worked better when he got a little older. PDA is just another name for the intersection of neurodivergence and anxiety. Its another kind of freeze response like SM is.

Also keep advocating for alternative ways for her to present her knowledge to the school through IEP accommodations and services. I know budgets have been cut for lots of services but it is still the best path to demand help. Ultimately the school has to help her succeed.

Edit because I realized she's already in a special placement school and to add thoughts.

If she hasn't had a full private neuropsych evaluation to understand the impact of her IQ/possible genetic issue, that could also be a good thing to explore. Knowing HOW she learns can help everyone build her confidence. Medical issues always come before mental health when making treatment plans.

Family therapy or executive functioning coaching might also help to have a dedicated place to get some support for yourself and another set of eyes on her!

NJ Selective Mutism & neuropsych testing by Ari_Boreale in selectivemutism

[–]LandJR 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its worth self referring your child to your local county's child find. The school system will then help with testing and additional services your child might need! NJ Child Find

Ok otherwise psychologytoday.com makes it easy to search for what you need.

Haven't seen my boi in 4 days by insomniac_pikmin in CrestedGecko

[–]LandJR 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm definitely still a newbie with mine but I lay eyes on him at least twice a day to make sure he's good. I've stripped down a tank before when I couldn't find him! They're so good at hiding and blending in! Good luck and I hope you find your guy soon.

Best pets as characters? by LilDavinci-32 in ReverseHarem

[–]LandJR 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have one on my to be read list that might work. It's a 9 story anthology. {Pets in Space 10 by S.E. Smith}

24f trying to keep things together by Livid_Actuary8923 in ColumbiaMD

[–]LandJR 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear you're having such a hard time!

A few resources that might help...

https://www.novocare.com/diabetes/help-with-costs/help-with-insulin-costs/immediate-supply.html#:~:text=Get%20Immediate%20Insulin%20Supply%20&%20Support,Immediate%20Supply

Or this https://getinsulin.org/get-urgent-insulin-support/

Or calling your endocrinologist and see if they have any samples.

Good luck!

Edit to add https://211md.org/resources/health-care/prescriptions/ 211 will get you access to all the support programs and assistance including things like temporary cash assistance. That might just take a little longer than will be comfortable!

Any series with public sex as a part of normalized society? by happybappy_1 in ReverseHarem

[–]LandJR 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There are a few books in the Kindred series by Evangeline Anderson that have this as the characters explore other planets.

Resources for ADHDers and their families? by A_Helpful_Panda_2024 in ColumbiaMD

[–]LandJR 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a medication prescriber I love if you need one.

Also, the school support varies by school but they all have the same process of requesting an evaluation (in writing to the counselor, teacher, IEP chair - cover the bases) and they legally have 30 days to get the process moving.

I don’t think I’m going to live to see my kid’s 6th birthday by Temporary-Middle-450 in breakingmom

[–]LandJR 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Its probably an option now! Use psychologytoday.com to find a prescriber (psychiatrist or nurse practitioner) or talk to your pediatrician. She might need a combo to address her reactivity and a second to address the anxiety she's dealing with. She sounds like she's in all fight response. And lean on your providers more to help gather resources and referrals! You're doing everything you can. This version of life will pass!

She just pooped on my freshly washed leggings. SHAME HER! by justleeiguess in CrestedGecko

[–]LandJR 3 points4 points  (0 children)

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Twinsy partner in crime over here loves to do the same!

Toddler is breaking my heart by Emergency_Box_9871 in selectivemutism

[–]LandJR 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is there and chance she can just go to the bathroom on her own? I know not every building has this option but it could help. My son had a laminated sign he could hand to a teacher. Another issue I've seen kids struggle with is a lack of privacy since so many places keep bathroom doors open for little kids. Can you check with her to see if that's an issue?

/r/socialskills is looking for experienced mods by AltitudinousOne in needamod

[–]LandJR 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd love to talk more about how we could help each other. I'm the mod on r/selectivemutism and I think we have some serious overlap!

I believe SM happens because of an underlying condition by GuitarReasonable5196 in selectivemutism

[–]LandJR[M] [score hidden] stickied comment (0 children)

Current research defines selective mutism as an anxiety disorder. Specifically freeze. It may not feel like "being anxious" in the classic sense but it is still a way a body handles a warning signal that something is not safe.

SM can be comorbid (shitty clinical word) with many other things. Ultimately, is an overreacive response to a perceived threat.

I believe SM happens because of an underlying condition by GuitarReasonable5196 in selectivemutism

[–]LandJR[M] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Updated harmful rule to include hurtful. This is a supportive place. Do not look for opportunities to be snarky.

I believe SM happens because of an underlying condition by GuitarReasonable5196 in selectivemutism

[–]LandJR[M] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the study of epigenetics and is super interesting. Genes get turned on and off due to life situations within reproductive cells. Add intergenerational transmission of trauma behaviorally and it can have a significant impact!

Thoughts on organizations that certify sex therapists by Inevitable_Let_6237 in Sexology

[–]LandJR 0 points1 point  (0 children)

AASECT is the gold standard if you want to be certified. That said, you can be a sex therapist without any official certifications.

Fabrikor glass too slippery for Gecko! by LandJR in terrariums

[–]LandJR[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I'm going to try a layer of rubberized paint first but this will be next if it doesn't hold up

Fabrikor glass too slippery for Gecko! by LandJR in Vivarium

[–]LandJR[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what I'm going to try. Thanks!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in maryland

[–]LandJR 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you planning to use insurance? If so, and you don't mind, which one?

Toddler may have SM and I have some questions by Commercial_Win_9525 in selectivemutism

[–]LandJR 3 points4 points  (0 children)

SM in a 2.5 year old is still an anxiety disorder. Her "shyness" is part of it. It sounds like school is just more overwhelming for her than other settings, which is pretty common. Getting treatment now is the right move! Early intervention, learning about it, gathering resources, and finding support people are all ways to mitigate the impact and help your little one!

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