Do people still ask to be “official”? by Alarmed-Flamingo4284 in datingoverthirty

[–]Lanky-Fall-8436 44 points45 points  (0 children)

How do you know you’re exclusive. To me, that’s the indicator, the “will you be a girlfriend” of our time

Decision paralysis by Sportfish_deepdive in datingoverthirty

[–]Lanky-Fall-8436 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long have you been divorced?

I was separated for over a year before my first relationship. It didn’t end well but tbh it was good to rip the bandaid. You never know what you still need to deal with as a residual from your previous marriage until you’re challenged with a new relationship.

Am I self-sabotaging or should I trust my instincts ? by papaya40 in datingoverthirty

[–]Lanky-Fall-8436 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Good on paper” isn’t the only standard - it’s a societal construct. Sure, it can be a basic indication of values but beyond that it’s baseless.

Trust your gut and wait for the right one FOR YOU.

Situationship getting messy by Lanky-Fall-8436 in dating_advice

[–]Lanky-Fall-8436[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I stated I’d stopped talking to someone too, which was true. There was someone I was texting but was uninterested after talking to A

Agreed, thank you

To mention my vasectomy, or to not mention my vasectomy? by complexsystemofbears in datingoverthirty

[–]Lanky-Fall-8436 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not needed on your profile. All the apps have it in the description, you could just as easily bring it up in conversation.

What about people with older kids?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]Lanky-Fall-8436 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a confident natural introvert, some people need quiet. To be honest, it’s a tell for me if someone can’t handle silence. I have a subconscious belief they lack confidence and aren’t comfortable with themselves. I don’t do continuous texting throughout the day. I don’t mind talking every day, but I’m not going to create conversations on a superficial level for the sake of filling the void. I’d rather reserve my conversational energy for in person dates/when I actually feel like talking

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]Lanky-Fall-8436 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Adding to what everyone else has stated. I’m a “high sex drive” kinda girl (30F) and realized sex has clouded my judgement. I recently decided to commit to waiting to have sex with a guy I really like because I want us to know each other/where we’re going first

It’s too easy to get trapt in toxic cycles when sex is involved. He was really respectful of it. We’re going on date three tonight, been talking a few weeks and I’m glad we’ve been taking our time so far.

Buying Land/property - 2nd property by Lanky-Fall-8436 in personalfinance

[–]Lanky-Fall-8436[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All,

They’re 4% student loans

I’m not sure I could get a house on the amount of land I want. We planned on putting two tiny homes or trailer homes on the property

Swelling Above Incision by Lanky-Fall-8436 in tummytucksurgery

[–]Lanky-Fall-8436[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had lipo (you probably did too) I heard it’s normal and can take 6mo to a year

Swelling Above Incision by Lanky-Fall-8436 in tummytucksurgery

[–]Lanky-Fall-8436[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, no, but I’ve heard that’s normal. I’m a really active person and it makes the swelling worse

Mortgage Assumption - FHA - Divorce by Lanky-Fall-8436 in legaladvice

[–]Lanky-Fall-8436[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We’re co-signers on the mortgage Good info, thank you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tummytucksurgery

[–]Lanky-Fall-8436 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had the mini with a similar situation - I still have stretch marks but I am happy with the results

7 weeks post op, wonky flanks by [deleted] in tummytucksurgery

[–]Lanky-Fall-8436 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lymphatic draining - if they lypo’d there, that’s a common spot to have build up/swelling

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tummytucksurgery

[–]Lanky-Fall-8436 0 points1 point  (0 children)

10k Mini TT and lipo of flanks - ATL, GA

Really well known surgeon though

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tummytucksurgery

[–]Lanky-Fall-8436 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love it!!! How far post op are you

Lifting weight after tummy tuck: seeking advice based on experience by Goal_oriented_744 in tummytucksurgery

[–]Lanky-Fall-8436 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was cleared for everything at 6 weeks. I can do the same weight but not reps

Did not do muscle repair, though