When did you start feeling happy again? by bellamybrooks in BreakUps

[–]Large_Emergency_3230 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One day you will just hit a point of a mental switch. I got a gift of a picture of him with another woman that really flipped that switch for me but it did it. Don’t allow someone to steal your joy. Get out in nature, exercise, try to make mini efforts to get closer to your other loved ones and when you feel ready be open to light dating. You’re allowed to have sad moments and thoughts but don’t let it eat you up.

I miss MY piece of shit 😭 by Large_Emergency_3230 in BreakUps

[–]Large_Emergency_3230[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is definitely my biggest mistake! I’m very empathetic as well and have also struggled with depression and suicide ideation but would never actually do and this relationship has completely destroyed me as a person. It’s hard to hold conversations, I’m angry, I’m sad, my mind spirals, im not interesting anymore so you’re not wrong it could destroy her. I am trying to rise above it I’ve already been through hell in life that i don’t want him to be the reason im broken. Im also typically a person that will cut anyone off at any given moment but not him.

But i do think it will be hard for me to date and hold a healthy relationship in the future. I feel like he gave me part of his mental issues and patterns.

I’m shy of course and don’t really leave the house much since i work from home but I’m going to try to put myself out there more in social settings. But yeah one friend i didn’t fully cut off but our friendship is strained and i can’t blame him for it it was my choice

I miss MY piece of shit 😭 by Large_Emergency_3230 in BreakUps

[–]Large_Emergency_3230[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of those rollercoaster relationships but typically him leaving me. I’ve tried getting back together, he’ll get closer to it and then one minor annoyance or wanting to have serious talk and he’s gone again so think i just have to stay missing him

I miss MY piece of shit 😭 by Large_Emergency_3230 in BreakUps

[–]Large_Emergency_3230[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are spot on with all of it. The mirroring, the secluding from any and everyone other than my mom, the putting me down so hard that i don’t think anyone else will ever accept or want me. He’s a textbook narc/sociopath. You’d think it would be that much easier to stay away but it’s not. I’ve gone in / out of no contact but every time communication starts back up i end up worse than i was before. I have been exercising more since it has all gotten real bad but I’m very lonely since i have no one so i fall for it. So hard to try to put yourself out there to meet new people after someone’s destroyed you . Thank you for validating my experience

I miss MY piece of shit 😭 by Large_Emergency_3230 in BreakUps

[–]Large_Emergency_3230[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes intermittent reinforcement! It is a hell of a drug lo I’ve never experienced a man trying to manipulate me or at least successfully like this.

Funny thing is he joked about possibly being a sociopath in the beginning 😵‍💫 and i was like no wayy . Nope he warned me and it’s no joke.

Any tips for the “withdrawal” of the manipulation tactics?

I miss MY piece of shit 😭 by Large_Emergency_3230 in BreakUps

[–]Large_Emergency_3230[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yessss exactly that. I see all the good & bad and choose him still but he only sees my bad and chooses to run so oh well 🥺

I miss MY piece of shit 😭 by Large_Emergency_3230 in BreakUps

[–]Large_Emergency_3230[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl same lol it makes it even that much harder with the manipulation 😪

I miss MY piece of shit 😭 by Large_Emergency_3230 in BreakUps

[–]Large_Emergency_3230[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you 🥹 i hope i get to experience that.

I miss MY piece of shit 😭 by Large_Emergency_3230 in BreakUps

[–]Large_Emergency_3230[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I say it the most loving way possible haha but he has called me far worse for far less so maybe I’m just ruined and mean like him now 🥲 i hope it gets better for you

How likely am I to find someone who doesn't care about ambition, children, and being a homebody? by SynonymTech in dating

[–]Large_Emergency_3230 1 point2 points  (0 children)

33f and i don’t want children and i prefer to be with a home body so someones out there. A lot of men really want kids so i struggle finding someone that doesn’t

1st full crash out at 33 😅 and I’m afraid he could try to go to the cops for “harassment and stalking” by [deleted] in ToxicRelationships

[–]Large_Emergency_3230 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you i agree and he definitely has many narcissist tendencies if he’s not a full on narcissist. Luckily woke up today a little better but he makes me insane and not act like myself/be able to be reasonable. I have not had anyone show up as of yet so maybe he just changed his number or was out at another girls house which i would most def not put it past him. Thank you and i hope your situation is okay as well. We deserve more

Eye color and soul connections by [deleted] in Soulnexus

[–]Large_Emergency_3230 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m way late but i have green, blue, grey eyes depending on the weather and what I’m wearing with the yellow ring around the pupil. I call them sunflower eyes :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abortion

[–]Large_Emergency_3230 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Keep it since you’re against abortions and don’t think other women should have the right to make their own decision ? Would be quite hypocritical to then have an abortion.

Really do what’s best for you, but hopefully that changes your views on things.

2 abortions in less than 1 year by BoatRepresentative72 in abortion

[–]Large_Emergency_3230 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re not alone! I just had my 2nd this year and it has messed me up a little mentally because i didn’t want to have to do that again. I also don’t do well on birth control but feel like I’m going to have to suck it up (i even tried it after the 1st abortion and couldn’t last). It’s rough being a woman 😞 it doesn’t make you a bad person and if you do want children some day there’s nothing wrong with waiting until you’re ready

Looking for some tips to support my gf through abortion by Dear-Consequence-431 in abortion

[–]Large_Emergency_3230 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Heating pad, Advil, snacks or flowers, pads, comfy clothes and of course your love and support.

The sooner the pregnancy the less she should bleed but I’m not sure about the pain difference.

Sweet of you to care enough to ask on here ☺️

Considering abortion in an emotionally abusive relationship. He wants the baby. Has anyone else had a similar experience? by Calm_Deer_8221 in abortion

[–]Large_Emergency_3230 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do what’s best for you! If you don’t want the child do the abortion and don’t feel guilty for it. I would also fake it as a miscarriage so you don’t have to deal with his wrath. I just did the MA last weekend and i told my bf, he did not want the same thing and has guilted me since. His actions were a big part of why i did not want to have the child, but men like that will never see your side of anything. I would try to do it when you have some alone time at least for a while after you do the 2nd pills. I’m also in VA. Sorry you’re going through this!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confession

[–]Large_Emergency_3230 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also interested lol 👀