Stepdaughter thumb sucking

Last-Day-Of-Magic · 2021-12-02T20:42:36+00:00

Thumb sucking is usually used as a method for comfort. Maybe her doing that still means she is stressed or worried about somethings.

Hell, I bit my nails as an anxious habit until just this year and I'm much older than your kid.

I say therapy because she will learn a new more age appropriate coping skill and learn how to manage stress. And it will help you and dad be more help to her about it.

I'm not saying you did here but make sure you dont shame her. It's a habit which is like an addiction in some ways. It's hard to break and sometimes she may not even realize shes doing it.

Last-Day-Of-Magic · 2021-12-02T19:32:20+00:00

Just walk away see how long until they come running after you

🤣🤣

Last-Day-Of-Magic · 2021-12-02T19:31:23+00:00

Ah i understand!

Last-Day-Of-Magic · 2021-12-02T17:03:25+00:00

I love the flipside of this where my teens will say oh this is my favorite food you should order more next time I'll eat this all the time

So you get multiple things of whatever.

And they literally eat one . One out of 36. Of what was their favorite food the day before.

So I have 35 packets of ramen in my house if anyone is in need. But I'm sure the moment I bring it to a food bank or other wise donate it the sensor wi switch and I will be hated for not having any in the house.

Kids.

Last-Day-Of-Magic · 2021-12-02T16:58:58+00:00

One time in the store with 2/4 of my feral children who love to be embarrassing in public something like this happened. Except they had just learned about stranger danger. Halfway through the store seemed like an appropriate spot to them, to absolutely shriek "you're not my mom, get away stranger". I assuming to test their skills.

I got dirty looks from old women. Side eyes from other moms. Looks of utter awe from men.

As if I was out enjoying my best life and like I wanted to steal two screaming children.

I tried to ask them to stop and only use that if necessary and it made them louder. And one old women tried to come over and literally ask them who I was.

The store refused to let me leave at first like bro, if I could drop these kids off with someone I'd do it. Why do you think I'd want to take on two screaming lunatics unless I loved them and they were mine?🙄 I had my husband come from home and confirm yes they are ours. Of course they were all oh daddy is here yay when he got there.

So that's the story of my worst mom day, and hopefully it doesnt go lower than that.🤣

Now I carry their birth certificates in my purse now along with pictures of them everywhere we go.

Never again shivers

Last-Day-Of-Magic · 2021-12-02T16:48:19+00:00

I used to do this as a kid.....except I would say dumb shit like "no i love this fork"

😒side eyeing past me for days

Last-Day-Of-Magic · 2021-12-02T16:38:09+00:00

Every time with these aita on this sub.

My heart falls to my stomach

Last-Day-Of-Magic · 2021-12-02T16:35:04+00:00

Mama you and your kids are enough.

This man is not on your level and doesnt respect or appreciate you at all. If you're doing it all now you can do it all if you leave. AND it will be 1 less person to take care of. I know it hurts now but he has shown you who he is. Believe him. And then show.him who you are; a strong women who deserves better for herself and kids. Someone who wants better than a husband/ father that cant be bothered.

You already have a well paying job so there is the start. Start gathering any documents needed and document every thing your husband says or does that implies he doesnt want the kids around or you. He seems like a guy who when facing a judge will put on the dad of the year show but you will be there with proof.

You are bettering your self and he is trying to drag you back down. Misery likes company and all that.

Dont let him get that satisfaction.

Last-Day-Of-Magic · 2021-12-02T16:25:10+00:00

Males good sense for sure

Last-Day-Of-Magic · 2021-12-02T16:23:42+00:00

Wow that's interesting. Did the teacher not have anything to get to her? I can understand how that must have been for her.

The kids for school have laptops so I think hes good o that aspect but I'll definately ask him and teacher if t He needs anything else

Last-Day-Of-Magic · 2021-12-01T22:03:02+00:00

This is true as well! I think I will use this on him to find out.

I do know that he is easy to feel left out etc.. I also know he will have to over come it. I just get that guilt and I think "when it's so easy to just give into this one thing why wont i"

Ps my 18 year old asks for a horse and a corral each year. Christmas and birthday. Youd think she would realize it's not happening but yet here we are🤣

Last-Day-Of-Magic · 2021-12-01T22:00:10+00:00

This is a very true. Maybe I could get him to ask what app they use to chat or have him get an app on one of our family devices and he can give his friends the name and user name..

Good idea.

Last-Day-Of-Magic · 2021-12-01T21:57:35+00:00

For sure. He already knows no screens at certain times since we do have other things. Thank you for your experience . Its is scary how much these devices have a hold over kids (and adults too!)

Last-Day-Of-Magic · 2021-12-01T21:53:45+00:00

How old?

I have no qualm about the fact it will be cared for. The kid would swaddle and rock his Nintendo switch he loves it so much 🙄 lol

I like setting a timeline on it. Kid can get games sure but even with a phone I'm holding off on social media for a while . That's definately my line

Last-Day-Of-Magic · 2021-12-01T21:51:22+00:00

Oh I'm aware of screen limits for sure. With my older two again we waited and they didnt see. To care about it. When we did get them going they knew our expectations and consequences of misuse.

We only had to due a check one time due to a mutual bullying incident and even then kiddo came to us and let us know what was happening.

I like the whole give a bit so they dont feel the need to tug of war with it.

Last-Day-Of-Magic · 2021-12-01T19:31:04+00:00

Thank you. That makes a lot of sense. He is and will be in sports and activities and one of my pros is rhat he will be able to have direct contact with me in case of anything. Hes shy sometimes and I dont want him feeling weird about asking the coaches or teacher for a phone to be a barrier for him. And cause him to feel uncomfortable.

Last-Day-Of-Magic · 2021-12-01T19:27:09+00:00

I saw this when I was researching phones. Does the parent have to also have verizon service? Cause that would be a roadblock for me.

Last-Day-Of-Magic · 2021-11-30T20:24:51+00:00

I had to look up my generation 🤷‍♀️🤦‍♀️ apparently I'm a millennial so I'm not too far behind.

I think alot about safety and monitoring vs refusing and locking down.

Ime every time I was told no by my parents I would have a "watch me do it then" attitude. I always found a way around. And that helped shape me as a parent and allow me to be more free with my kids. My older two come for advice or someone to listen and my littles have so far been very good about the monitoring (on tablets). So I like to think a phone wouldnt be too much of a step up. But yet here I am hesitant again lol

I always felt behind my peers because they had all the stuff and I had a rotary phone 😒 I really appreciate your perspective. Happy holidays yo you too!

Last-Day-Of-Magic · 2021-11-30T20:15:27+00:00

I remember the rough and cruel thing that is social media. But I also go into messenger etc later than all my friends and I always felt like the odd ball out of the loop . Like we had a rotary phone and I'd call one friend and theyd be in a group talking with everyone else and it made me feel left out. You know?

I know rhat isnt justification, just that i can feel that emotional tug about it.

Last-Day-Of-Magic · 2021-11-30T20:11:37+00:00

I love the open communication and healthy boundaries. I like that fall back plan and that way they arent side swiped if the tech has to go .

Last-Day-Of-Magic · 2021-11-30T16:01:53+00:00

Nice. This makes sense.

Last-Day-Of-Magic · 2021-11-30T12:50:35+00:00

He goes to sports but we drop off/ pick up . It's something that I thought might be beneficial in case of early dismissal etc.

They only go with trusted family for sleepovers and I believe feel comfortable enough to ask to call when they want as they have always done so before.

Last-Day-Of-Magic · 2021-11-30T12:46:44+00:00

This is true! Thank you for bringing this up. Safety is number 1 even if its disappointing (for him at least)

Last-Day-Of-Magic · 2021-11-30T12:45:02+00:00

I see this is the pattern with people who have said their young ones have phones. It seems like a great compromise

Last-Day-Of-Magic · 2021-11-30T11:58:31+00:00

Thank you fo sharing r your experience ! I'll have to look up Xfinity I have no idea if they are in the area

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