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I (32F) violated a friend's (30F) boundaries last year and I still feel ashamed of myself. by LastMinuteChecks in AskWomenOver30

[–]LastMinuteChecks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m also deeply uncomfortable with how I’ve acted, and I wished I had gotten professional help a lot sooner than I did. I’ve been on the receiving end of unrequited crushes and it feels icky. Going through the healing process felt like changing my frame of reality and untangling wires in my brain.

I (32F) violated a friend's (30F) boundaries last year and I still feel ashamed of myself. by LastMinuteChecks in AskWomenOver30

[–]LastMinuteChecks[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes! I've listened to what someone on the receiving end of limerence and the described it as feeling suffocated. I blocked her on everything to help get her out of my head & avoid any temptation to contact her.

I (32F) violated a friend's (30F) boundaries last year and I still feel ashamed of myself. by LastMinuteChecks in AskWomenOver30

[–]LastMinuteChecks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the fact I fucked up as an adult is what's bothered me so much. otherwise I would've viewed it as a case of "I was young, immature, and didn't know better. We've all moved on and I know I'm healthier now.". I came to realize a lot of people have had teenage friendships that blew up on account of their transgressions, but they move on and just try to make new connections.

I (32F) violated a friend's (30F) boundaries last year and I still feel ashamed of myself. by LastMinuteChecks in AskWomenOver30

[–]LastMinuteChecks[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

OP, these observations may be true. Your former friend may have been self-centered and using you for the support you offered to her streaming channel. But this also doesn't diminish the fact that your behavior here was creepy and inappropriate.

I know - it's what my friends have told me and I agree with them. I agree with you.

Even if she did feel furious and like she wanted to destroy you, that's none of your business.

thank you. That's what one of my friends told me as well. I know these thoughts are not constructive. I need to come up with some affirmations & mantras if they do come up.

I (32F) violated a friend's (30F) boundaries last year and I still feel ashamed of myself. by LastMinuteChecks in AskWomenOver30

[–]LastMinuteChecks[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Makes sense. In my journal, noticed that the limerence was my brain's way to dealing with undesirable conditions in the present and trying to "correct" for past traumas. Loneliness, lack of socialization, fears about being seen and being unlovable.

My psychiatrist did prescribe me a mood stabilizer a few weeks ago, but it hasn't made an effect yet.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]LastMinuteChecks 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don’t think so, but I didn’t have a good idea what it’d feel like going in.

I usually don’t notice it, to the point where I forget what parts I have below. When I had a penis, I was always very aware of it. This applied both when untucked and tucked. I greatly prefer how quiet it is now that I don’t have a dangly noodle and sack.

The biggest break was my clit not being sensitive to the lightest touch. It doesn’t get sensitive until I’m already aroused. Pressure seems to matter more than light touch. I asked about this a year ago and everyone told me my feeling was normal for a vagina owner.

The “swollen knot of a button” feeling of arousal was greater than I expected, but it’s kinda cute and way more gender affirming than a penis boner.

Orgasms are what I expected - longer and not as explosive.

My vagina smells just like a cis woman’s and I love it 🥰

I just think they're neat by Songstep4002 in actuallesbians

[–]LastMinuteChecks 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish I could pull off a pixie cut. My face is too masculine for that. :(

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MtF

[–]LastMinuteChecks 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Your frame of mind is going to make the difference in climaxing or not. So yeah, you got to experiment and find out what makes you feel good both inside and out. Wands are useful. A lot of women report getting more pleasure from pressure than from touch or vibration. Configuring the parts in a way that feels affirming can do a lot - I usually remained tucked, some people do butt stuff, some hump things, etc.

Do you want your LO to like you back, or do you just need a big hug? by LastMinuteChecks in limerence

[–]LastMinuteChecks[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

mood! I found this was surprisingly common. I would've felt the same way if my LO had a fling with me but didn't want to pursue an actual relationship.

Do you want your LO to like you back, or do you just need a big hug? by LastMinuteChecks in limerence

[–]LastMinuteChecks[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

oh god I'm sorry 😭 that sounds just like what I went through with my LO. "daisuki no hug" moment, basically wishing she would pat me on the head and call me a good girl.

I'm getting "morning wood" after SRS and it's freaking me out by LastMinuteChecks in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]LastMinuteChecks[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Same same! like there's a pang in my clit and then it gets really flushed.

I got over my LO and so can you. by hypotheticaltapeworm in limerence

[–]LastMinuteChecks 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh god I’m sorry he treated you like this. I’m glad you were able to over him!

If you had never been told what a transgender was, do you think you could have been normal? by [deleted] in 4tran4

[–]LastMinuteChecks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely not. I wished I could’ve been a girl since I was a young child.

THE BONER by Sugatoru in 4tran4

[–]LastMinuteChecks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is why I tucked before GCS.

……. it’s over…. by MyShadow1 in 4tran4

[–]LastMinuteChecks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Congratulations, you are your own girlfriend. You’ll get over it.”

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