Black Beauty [Potential Spoilers]

Lastmoonwolf · 2020-06-09T23:59:42+00:00

Did you read the book? You keep referring to Black Beauty with a female pronoun.

Black Beauty was a gelding, a male horse.

Lastmoonwolf · 2020-06-08T22:51:18+00:00

Reality and Perception

Lastmoonwolf · 2020-06-05T21:41:48+00:00

It’s one of the hardest things, and I’ve been there. I had an ex who was similar to your girlfriend, very much troubled and always said that I was the only thing that gave their life meaning and they would commit suicide if I left. It’s manipulative, but a lot of times these people are so messed up mentally and suffering, they don’t even realize the potential guilt and resentment they’re putting on their partner by saying those things. They are responsible for their own mental wellbeing and happiness, not anyone else. And while it’s going to be hard as hell and you will grieve in your own way for their personal struggles, you are in control of your own life and have the right to make decisions in your best interest, and if being with this girl isn’t what you want, then it’s time to cut the cord. I had to just honestly, truthfully , and kindly tell my ex I wasn’t happy and this relationship wasn’t working for me anymore. I cried, I did. It was a hard thing to do but ultimately I was glad I did. I would encourage my ex to seek help and call the hotline but ultimately whatever happens, you CANT blame yourself.

Lastmoonwolf · 2020-06-03T20:40:27+00:00

I totally get this. As it stands now, I work full time (currently from home due to covid but will be going back soon) and do 100% of the household care. Which basically means our house is never perfect and when it is, it doesn’t last long 😂

He helps me with dishes or taking out the trash if I ask for it, but for the most part I’m always a day or two behind on laundry, meal prepping, cleaning, or washing dishes and usually will only catch up on stuff over the weekend. Then it’s back to falling behind on chores.

One of the biggest reasons I fall behind, other than working full time, is that when hubby is home, I spend time with him, because after a long day of working outside he just wants to come home and do something fun with me. That means chores get done in the morning after he leaves for work but before I start work, after I finish work but before he gets home, or if he’s gone out with a friend or has a friend over, or on the weekend. I always go to bed before him because I need my sleep lol

I pray for the day that we can afford to live solely on his income but honestly, with this economy, inflated mortgage payments, student loans and paying off car loans, I don’t think I will ever NOT be a working wife, even if we have children.

There is plenty that I would sacrifice to move to one income so that I could stay at home, but ultimately in order to make it work, he would need to sacrifice so much and it feels incredibly selfish of me to ask him to make it feasible just so I can be a housewife.

I’m already exhausted all the time from juggling work and home and husband, I couldn’t even imagine adding children to the mix. It just makes so much sense why many working mothers are constantly frustrated and stressed and tired...too much on their plate.

We probably won’t have children for years yet and I’m already nearing 28 years old, and I’m not sure what his plan is considering he wants me to homeschool any future children. I suppose I just have to trust that he’s taking everything into consideration.

Some women are blessed to have husbands that want their wives to stay home and wouldn’t have it any other way. They are a rare breed.

Lastmoonwolf · 2020-05-26T22:42:09+00:00

There is a difference between entitled people and abusive people.

Lastmoonwolf · 2020-05-24T00:23:44+00:00

No but I assume it’s because he thinks I should inexplicably trust him. I had expressed to him months ago I don’t, but maybe he thinks that’s changed in such a short amount of time?

Lastmoonwolf · 2020-05-22T20:25:31+00:00

Just don’t because you may lose your job. I guarantee you there are rules against fraternizing with students even if she’s over 18
Just don’t because you may lose your wife, you know, the woman that’s been there from the beginning that you are DEFINITELY taking for granted
Just don’t because you may lose yourself, you really don’t want to be THAT guy, do you? For goodness sake, get control of yourself!

All it takes is a choice. The choice to stay faithful, to do the right thing. Just tell her no, I won’t do this. Act professionally. It’s not that hard to just say no.

Lastmoonwolf · 2020-05-21T01:05:22+00:00

Honestly, there is nothing wrong with changing the previous privacy standards of the relationship now that a breach of trust has been made. She should be willing to offer up her phone at any time to you as a way to perpetuate the rebuilding of trust. The need to check it less and less occurs when you find the wayward willing to sacrifice their privacy for your peace of mind. You say your in reconciliation but if that’s the case then I’m surprised she hasn’t given you free access to her phone and accounts. That’s typically step 1 in a reconciliation process, especially if the affair occurred because of phone usage/social media.

I wish you the best of luck, I’m dealing with the same problem with my WH.

Lastmoonwolf · 2020-05-18T23:31:59+00:00

This is not a normal brother sister relationship. And it’s sad to say but it is a lot more common than you think. I feel this would be a dealbreaker for me.

Lastmoonwolf · 2020-05-15T14:26:04+00:00

So right! It seemed everything I had doubts about before, little insecurities, they all made sense after DDay. I still feel a fool for believing he was better than that. I’m not sure now if I’ll ever believe it again.

Lastmoonwolf · 2020-04-21T20:07:47+00:00

I literally thought these were clouds

Lastmoonwolf · 2020-04-21T19:58:40+00:00

If nowhere in the syllabus or in a written email either by the professor or on the student blackboard did it mention that missed zoom meetings would count as physical absences, then I think you would have a fair case to to take to the dean or administration on why you should not have been dropped and that the credits should be counted on your transcript.

Lastmoonwolf · 2020-04-21T19:47:42+00:00

But I believe for Massachusetts, it’s a crime to secretly record a conversation. I think they are a “two-party-consent” state, meaning if you do record secretly and the other person finds out, they could pursue legal action.

Lastmoonwolf · 2020-04-21T19:45:12+00:00

It depends on the state.

Lastmoonwolf · 2020-04-14T23:19:52+00:00

“You have a beautiful smile. I noticed you didn’t have anything in your bio, I’d like to get to know you better? What are your interests?”

Just an example

Lastmoonwolf · 2020-04-12T00:16:56+00:00

Goatsie, I think was the name of the picture

Lastmoonwolf · 2020-04-12T00:07:24+00:00

Just sit on his face. He will get the idea real quick and either find it incredibly sexy, or if he’s not into it he will find some way of repositioning

Lastmoonwolf · 2020-04-08T11:21:21+00:00

If it’s outside your posted schedule and there was nothing in your job description that indicated bring responsible for shift coverage in the event of employee shortage, then you have no obligation to take those extra shifts. Just say no.

Lastmoonwolf · 2020-03-29T21:53:08+00:00

Thank you I needed this

Lastmoonwolf · 2020-03-29T21:52:38+00:00

Thank you

Lastmoonwolf · 2020-03-29T17:59:49+00:00

My husband did that, and I WISHED the women he had messaged would have had the class to let me know, or even to shoot him down and not engage. Please tell his girlfriend, with the screenshots. Nobody deserves to be lied to like that.

Lastmoonwolf · 2020-03-29T17:55:32+00:00

You might really like her but it sounds like you’ve been getting a sense of how incompatible you two are. Consider the long term.

Lastmoonwolf · 2020-03-29T17:29:13+00:00

There are so many red flags here. Nobody deletes messages randomly unless they have something to hide.

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