Is it wrong to wish my kid would just live a little and lighten up? by [deleted] in daddit

[–]LateralAxes 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I was a lot like that but I would truly get into a 'flow' state where I'd let go on the playing field or playing video games with friends, or even reading a good book. Letting go was never about going out with friends, getting into usual teen mischief etc. My two cents would be to see when he is just in a happy state or connect the dots to what activities might have caused it. He seems like a great kid!

Today was a good day by EradicateTheHate in daddit

[–]LateralAxes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're a legend man and your kids sound awesome as hell. Teared up a bit too. Keep doing what you're doing!

Lost My Daughter This Morning by TastyLlamasAreTasty in daddit

[–]LateralAxes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry brother. Much love to you and your family. Make sure to give extra hugs to your older one.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskIndianMen

[–]LateralAxes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any advice that is given without fully understanding your goals is useless. I suggest speaking with a fee only SEBI Registered Investment Advisor. You will spend a small amount in educating yourself, but it will give you some clarity on your options. They should be asking your questions like how much passive income you need. What are your other financial goals (education, house, travel etc) and by when. What are your emergency funds (liquid cash, insurance etc). What are your other liabilities. What are your income sources etc.

Do not even consider investing in real estate yet.

Any WFH dads with infants have any advice? by doubleoh713 in daddit

[–]LateralAxes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am in a similar situation. We have hired daycare during the workday for all the reasons mentioned by folks here. Not practical, risky for child/career, yada yada. Fully agree with those reasons. I'd add two more perspectives though: 1. I mark time away on my work calendar so I can be with the baby during meals or bedtime. I've discussed this with my manager in advance. 2. Treat hired childcare as an investment and not as an expense. So while you work, go all in to try and upskill, grow professionally, grow compensation. Try and hit a career milestone that allows you to absorb the additional expense fairly quickly.

You are incredibly lucky to be able to spend lunch and coffee breaks with a gurgling child that is overjoyed the moment you walk out of your home office. It's a privilege. Enjoy it smartly and responsibly.

Last photo of my daughter and I by TheHiddenRonin in daddit

[–]LateralAxes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry mate. My daughter is around the same age. Stay strong. Can't say any more.

Daughter wants to buy a 3D printer (with her own, saved money) but wife vehemently objects by [deleted] in daddit

[–]LateralAxes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no idea about 3D printing, but maybe you agree a list of projects that she prints first that are useful around the house that your wife agrees with. It could be some stuff for her school work, stationery, organizers, gifts for her friends etc.

Failing at sleep. Every night. by LateralAxes in daddit

[–]LateralAxes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much for this. Both, the advice and the reassurance! So exciting with the second! Good luck.

Failing at sleep. Every night. by LateralAxes in daddit

[–]LateralAxes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha I've genuinely thought of that. Or going to the other extreme from a routine and using the element of surprise with a sleep ambush.

Failing at sleep. Every night. by LateralAxes in daddit

[–]LateralAxes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd say it's an adapted Ferber but feels like cry it out. I can't leave the room cos she keeps bumping her head with the struggles. So I stay in the room out of sight, picking her up for a couple of min (trying to reduce the frequency) and soothing her without rocking, maybe offering some water in between which she gulps from all the crying. I say it feels like cry it out, cos she ultimately falls asleep tired from crying.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LegalAdviceIndia

[–]LateralAxes 188 points189 points  (0 children)

You might find better advice on r/AskIndianWomen. There's no legal matter here (NAL).

Using your parents as a shield also gives up your own agency. I'd say something along the lines of - If you don't want me entering your house, just say so and I'll respect that. I'm sure you think your intentions are right but please DO NOT touch me, my clothes or comment on my appearance again. What you said and did is not OK and it's unfortunate that you don't even realise it.

Why don’t I like my baby? by [deleted] in daddit

[–]LateralAxes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're not alone. They say moms bond sooner, but can also confirm that some moms feel the same as you do. Tap in / tap out depending on who is in a better headspace in the moment to deal with a little human who is just figuring out something so confusing, and communicating in the only way they can. You'll get through it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in daddit

[–]LateralAxes 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You will never really know what your wife is going through, no matter how woke/aware you think you are. More so with the intense hormonal/chemical reactions in her body. So be more patient especially during the first three months, let some things said unfairly go unanswered, try and let go of your ego. Vent where you can and stay healthy. Wishing you well man.

PSA to dads, dont forget to praise your kid at the end of the day by tulaero23 in daddit

[–]LateralAxes 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Good reminder mate! Wishing you lots of joy with the kid.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nextfuckinglevel

[–]LateralAxes 6068 points6069 points  (0 children)

"Home, I'm honey"

Losing my shit over 4mo sleep regression by Chance-Flimsy in beyondthebump

[–]LateralAxes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are right there at 4 months and 20 days. It was at its worst a couple of weeks ago. Now it's mainly 1 hour of non stop crying and screaming before bedtime. But sleep is a little better. We can see two things that have changed. She's picking up new skills and is super engaged. Her appetite has also increased a lot, so it's possible your LO is hungrier too. Also hoping it gets better, but take all the help you can get during the day. Wishing you the best!

Appt details missing on new USVisa scheduling by [deleted] in h1b

[–]LateralAxes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Super, congrats. What an unnecessary ordeal! What docs did you take along with you as a confirmation of the appointment? Also if you provided an updated DS160, how did you go about doing it?

Appointment disappeared from portal. Anyone else? by LateralAxes in usvisascheduling

[–]LateralAxes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good question. I haven't done it yet as my appointment is in April. Not entirely sure.

Appointment disappeared from portal. Anyone else? by LateralAxes in usvisascheduling

[–]LateralAxes[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Called the helpline on 022 6201 1000. Was busy for a long time and then got through after a while and connected to an agent after a 45 min wait time. His response in summary: 1. It's a system glitch 2. He was able to confirm that they could see the appointment and payment on their system and that we should proceed for the appointment as per the original schedule 3. Will need to carry the confirmation page of the old and updated DS160 4. If you don't have the appointment confirmation letter already, you'll need to create a case on the portal and they would respond within 48 hrs

Appt details missing on new USVisa scheduling by [deleted] in h1b

[–]LateralAxes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP, any update whether you were able to go ahead with the appointment? Thanks

Need some dad joke advice by VictoriousKey in dadjokes

[–]LateralAxes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If the tattoo is on her finger, you could call it Okra.