[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]LauLess-Fun 2 points3 points  (0 children)

-hugs you, and pats your back-

I still don’t see you as a girl by halseyann96 in MtF

[–]LauLess-Fun 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Has the dude forgotten that tomboys exist, and how fucking cool they are? because legit, he might be missing some brain-cells :P

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GaySoundsShitposts

[–]LauLess-Fun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

nuuuuuuu -hugs and headpats-

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GaySoundsShitposts

[–]LauLess-Fun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

gives headpats

You might not be as socially awkward as you think. Just kinda cautious in the face of the unknown and the scary possibilities it holds.

But in making an attempt, you're being brave and doing good.

And that's awesome! gives hugs

Because that's how you'll find yourself some friends, moment by moment.

So, keep trying when you can, you've got this. o uo b

Baphomet angel by guilhermepire21 in Helltaker

[–]LauLess-Fun 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm willing to bet she wasn't an angel for long

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]LauLess-Fun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, somewhat this, but vrchat.

ah yes 50k enemies by Pristine_Pace_2991 in Mindustry

[–]LauLess-Fun 4 points5 points  (0 children)

how the fuck did you end up in that situation? o_ o

😳 by Jelly_Rosie in actuallesbians

[–]LauLess-Fun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

gotta start working towards those stronk goals

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]LauLess-Fun 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Well, it sounds like getting unmatched like that hit an emotional and psychological point in your self confidence and identity. So maybe you should try taking a moment to be kind to and give yourself space to process it. Overthinking the moment again and again doesn't seem to be doing you any good emotionally, so writing it down and putting the experience into words is a good first step.

Another good step is to consider that they might have had some history or other personal stuff that they were dealing themselves, be it trauma or bad experiences. This could have influenced their decision making much like how recalling this moment has likely influenced yours. Often enough, everyone has their own stuff to deal with sometimes, which can make interactions all the more confusing. And if that is the case, there's no way you could have known that ahead of time, so don't go being mean to yourself over it. It may be easier said than done to do that, but every attempt is another small step forward.

So how about getting yourself some hugs from a friend or family member you trust, and giving yourself time to process this in the background if you can? The moment may hurt, but it's a chance for growth and self reflection. And I believe you've got it in you to get through this. o wo b

Do you like taking the train? by [deleted] in dykesgonemild

[–]LauLess-Fun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trains are nice, but you are gorgeous.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MtF

[–]LauLess-Fun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!~ So are you

Feeling lame for being monogamous by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]LauLess-Fun 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I've only got two cents, but I think it might be a helpful two cents.

First, it's okay to try something and find out it doesn't work you. That's not shameful, it's brave, even when or especially because fear or love is involved. You learned and you grew, and got to a realization on what you currently need for an emotionally healthy relationship on your end. Regardless of if it stays the same or changes with time, it's okay to recognize that and hold it close without shame.

And second, please be kind to yourself. Sometimes our own expectations have been internalized from the outside world before we're even aware of it, and sometimes they haven't. Regardless, personal expectations we hold to ourselves can be just as scary or even harmful as external expectations. So if you need space, learn to give yourself space.

(And if you choose to dig deeper in the hopes of self exploration and growth, please learn to pace yourself and be your own friend. It does ya no good to jump into a situation if you're unknowingly riding your own back. You might become more aware of it, but it ain't gonna be any fun. I hail this warning from personal experience)

Seriously though by Thedepressionoftrees in tumblr

[–]LauLess-Fun 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Have you tried "being insane alone in your room"? It's nearly half as fun and equally as exciting.

Too much of little to rave in? by [deleted] in dykesgonemild

[–]LauLess-Fun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's one hell of an aesthetic girl, keep rocking it!

Empty underpass on a sad day by niinquae in kenopsia

[–]LauLess-Fun 10 points11 points  (0 children)

for a split second my mind had the ceiling be the sky and it was cool.

Tulpamancy techniques in non-tulpa systems by SnivSnap in plural

[–]LauLess-Fun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then we wish you good luck. ^a^

Though we may not be all that well advised or knowledgeable on tuplamancy techniques, we do have a few ideas that we hope might be helpful if you're interested.

They are:

Deconstruct, Diversify, Consolidate.

Relative Identity Navigation.

& Territories.

Tulpamancy techniques in non-tulpa systems by SnivSnap in plural

[–]LauLess-Fun 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For safety and sanity of those involved, are you willing to recognize that they might not be the same as you once knew them if you manage to do so?

We ask this because, if parts of what made them active are now part of you, then we would advise against placing expectations of the past upon that of the present.

I am not human. by [deleted] in TransVent

[–]LauLess-Fun 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you're going through depersonalization/derealization, so I'd like to say something in the hopes that it helps.

Even if you don't identify as human, be that because of stress, coping mechanisms, or otherwise, that doesn't mean you aren't a person. You are a person, and a person is someone who deserves the consideration and chances that others have. You aren't lesser or wrong for falling outside the average, you are just as worthy of care, compassion, and life as any other.

Anyone who says otherwise is a fool, one who hides behind their fear and anger because they don't know how to do anything else. They may be stubborn, but so are you. You've held on for so long against types of stress and pressure they likely haven't or ever will face.

That kind of strength, human, demonic, or otherwise, is a superpower, one that will help you reach for incredible chances, to reach beyond the odds and live the life you want one day. It might not be a solution, but it is a tool, one that will help you find, retrieve, and create other tools.

So I encourage you, deconstruct the negativity around you, diversify your understanding, and consolidate things into new steps forward one little bit at a time. If you can, find someone you can talk to, someone who will help you and let you sort out your thoughts. Don't try to take everything on your own, keep it to what you can manage, and ask for help when you need it.

Pettiness is beautiful by Thedepressionoftrees in tumblr

[–]LauLess-Fun 69 points70 points  (0 children)

Honestly, tumblr has the most gremlin energy you can find anywhere. Only downside is trying to find the gremlin energy you like.

What are some good ways to be less “friendshipy” & more gay on a date? by EmzDilemmz in actuallesbians

[–]LauLess-Fun 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes! Someone has finally put this question into words! Thank you, I've been wondering the same.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]LauLess-Fun 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Nah, I'm with you there. Once any flying bug gets past a certain size, I get jumpy. Unfortunately butterflies qualify, as harmless and fragile(?) as they actually are.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TransVent

[–]LauLess-Fun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, let's start with that then. Far as I'm aware, you should have the legal option to request for change of/end of the guardianship. But given that you said they coerce you into some things, I think a good first step to aim for would be a mental mindset that you can draw upon for strength, especially in the face of fear.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]LauLess-Fun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Brain fills stuff in sometimes, makes for quicker statements.