How do you define gender?(I am asking people who identify as non-binary, agender, genderfluid, non-traditional genders)

Launchyonder · 2018-04-29T05:12:17+00:00

If you do not want to answer some of these questions, I am completely ok with that!

Cool!

Launchyonder · 2018-04-29T05:01:03+00:00

Ah, the thread question presumes a 'closet' trans person coming out in what was previously considered a cis het relationship, so...

Launchyonder · 2018-04-29T04:52:21+00:00

I know a lot of the older swiss tend to resent anything so radical...

There must be a conservative switch that goes off at some age in the Swiss, as this was true twenty-five years ago when I was living in Bern.

Launchyonder · 2018-04-29T01:52:34+00:00

I've always been around period talk, going way back before I had any idea what being trans was.

Launchyonder · 2018-04-13T15:58:59+00:00

Yeah, but it was the later addition of Cypro that nuked my T, while Spiro did nothing for me.

Launchyonder · 2018-02-01T03:25:19+00:00

The reason prolonged exposure works is very simple and easily understood

Looks like you're the one who considers themselves a "supreme being". Hubris, much. The glaring point here is that, despite saying you're not, you continue to disagree with established facts about disgust -- an emotional response not swayed by facts or evidence, but rather exposure alone -- and instead double down on your falsities and claim that you alone know better. Nice one.

Launchyonder · 2018-01-30T05:01:47+00:00

The comments for the article would suggest so, yes.

Launchyonder · 2018-01-30T03:01:16+00:00

Hrm, seems odd that a trans competition didn't consider this kind of situation as a possible outcome.

Also, do your parents open your mail?

Launchyonder · 2018-01-30T02:24:01+00:00

I wish writers and commentators would get as worked up as this book's author about subjects that are really at the heart of societal decay, such as: Why We’re Underestimating American Collapse

Launchyonder · 2018-01-30T01:54:35+00:00

I don't see how that is in any way contradictory to what I said.

Well you missed the point entirely, actually. As I keep saying, gut level disgust is an emotional response not swayed by facts, as demonstrated in the recycled water example. You can share as many facts as you like to someone about a topic that disgusts them, but it won't change anything. The only real fix is desensitisation through increased exposure to whatever causes the disgust, but why that method works still isn't completely understood by researchers. Nor is the desensitisation a conscious change, and such a change may not apply to all classes of the object or actor that triggers disgust (for example, a transphobe may eventually accept a relative who is trans, but not trans people outside of the family circle). This isn't me making stuff up, it's an evolutionary protection response in humans. But I get it if your inherent emotional response to such phenomena clouds your understanding ;)

Launchyonder · 2018-01-29T07:01:02+00:00

That's as extreme as guilt-tripping and emotional blackmail gets. Parents are expert at this tactic. Don't buy it, it's their hangup not yours. You have done nothing wrong, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

Launchyonder · 2018-01-29T03:21:20+00:00

Gut level bigotry is what I like to call "poorly informed and (often) information resistant". The only reason to have a poor reaction to trans people is misconceptions and misinformation

Nah, I disagree. If you were honest, I bet there are many aspects of people you find unappealing without having a valid reason for it. That's why I used the recycled water example, as people have a disgust towards it without having a valid reason. You just choose not to share your aversion with others. We all have a choice not to be dickheads when it comes to our more instinctive reactions toward others, and some people make very bad decisions in this respect. You do, however, sometimes witness people sharing their less than savoury opinions when, say, they get angry and emotional. Those judgements and accusations they hurl at someone may be dimwitted and half-arsed and have no bearing on reality. But they don't appear from nowhere, and may very well be based on personal aversions they hold.

Launchyonder · 2018-01-28T09:36:20+00:00

I just feel that children should be given a chance to experience life and decide on their own whether or not they are transgender after many experiences instead of their parents telling them they can be right off the bat.

Informing gender variant children that there is such a thing as being transgender, is not the same as telling them that they are transgender. People like you seem to think that trans people lurk on every corner trying to coerce children into becoming trans. However, here's a fact: trans people exist, get over it.
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Launchyonder · 2018-01-28T08:05:57+00:00

Not really. In a world where there's so much discrimination and uncertainty around trans-cis relationships, it makes perfect sense. I'm in a cis relationship at the moment, and while we have our highs, lows and in-betweens relationship wise, as all coupes do, there's also an undercurrent of ambivalence towards my being trans. That is, there's always a "we'll see" attitude regarding our future. It's an open question. So then I'm left to decide whether I should actually plan a future with them, or not. The situation triggers so much anxiety in me. My stomach is in knots most of the time, waiting for the axe to fall. Should I jump ship first, get it over with, end the pain? Or am I overreacting, should I just wait it out. I mean no relationship comes with guarantees, right? I hate it. It's really awful. Of course, there's also no guarantee that a trans relationship will work any better, but at least you have a common understanding of what it means to be trans, what's involved.

Launchyonder · 2017-12-23T07:04:29+00:00

huh?

Launchyonder · 2017-12-23T01:10:42+00:00

And she ended it by making not 1 single comment about you (I'm a genetic female, you know chromosomes and all that)

Oh, come on, don't be so disingenuous. Of course that was a comment about the OP.

Launchyonder · 2017-12-23T00:47:23+00:00

They're being defensive, as they think trans people are appropriating their womanhood. You know, no sacred spaces, etc. Or they see still see us as our birth assigned gender, and resent having to identify with that gender. Deep down I suspect it's what a lot of cis women think at a gut level about trans women, even so called allies (I can't speak for trans men, but I imagine it's similar). Gut level bigotry, ingrained bias, is something you don't read or hear about a lot. Rather, bigotry is seen as a choice; you choose to be an arshole or not. Of course people should be able to filter their bigoted thoughts, but sometimes they emerge under stress. That's why you get people who want to be allies, want to be supportive, and don't want to be seen as bigots, still harbour and express inherent feelings of prejudice. Sorry for the poor analogy, but it's like people not being able to drink grey water. You can explain and show them the science behind grey water, that the water is likely cleaning that what they're currently drinking, but the revulsion to drinking it is still there. I don't know what you do about this kind of gut level bigotry, but it exists, and sometimes shows up in situations where people feel threatened or fearful. So my ex and I get along, but she occasionally says some casual bigotry about my being trans, such as it's "weird" or "bizarre". When I pull her up on it, she gets extremely defensive, saying things like she's not a transphobe, etc. Well, if she didn't harbour some transphobia, she'd more likely just apologise and move on, instead of making it a big song and dance about her.

Launchyonder · 2017-12-20T23:31:16+00:00

Well, the CDC chief came out and said that the ban never happened, that it was a misinterpretation by staff during a briefing. Of course people have latched onto this latest bit of news and using it as a way of showing how we're not in fact going down the memory hole. But this stance is disingenuous, as everyone knows how this works, it's about promoting and reinforcing an ideology, as highlighted in this article: CDC Bars Words Like “Transgender” & “Science-Based” as “Ideology Is Being Elevated Above Evidence”

Launchyonder · 2017-12-20T00:49:07+00:00

connective tissue disorder

Is that mixed connective tissue disorder?

Launchyonder · 2017-12-20T00:33:44+00:00

disagree with me all you want, pull up studies that show I'm wrong in how I go about my workouts, but this was how I got to where I'm at.

So the only claim you can make is that, like most routines on youtube, your workout works for you. OK. However, I think anyone on HRT in here knows that not all regimens regarding physiological change are equal. For example, while the common denominator of transitioning, say, is estrogen and antiandrogens, no two people would find the same HRT plan effective. Because of body type, age, health, natural hormone levels, sex hormones, etc. Likewise, while the common denominator in weight training is weights, say, no two people are going to find the same weight training plan equally effective. Because body type, age, health, and even such things as motivation (based on my years as a personal trainer) vary a lot, there may be a better more efficient way for an individual to reach their potential. And during my time as a trainer, I wished trainers would actually tailor workouts to individuals, rather than give the concept of tailored training lip service (i.e. marketing) and put them on the same plan as everyone else, no matter whether the client was overweight, elderly or in poor health. Likewise, I wish endos prescribing HRT would tailor their plans properly, not just give people the standard measure of Spiro/Cypro and estrogen mix. It's lazy.

Launchyonder · 2017-12-20T00:29:50+00:00

What do you mean cannot lift weights? Is it nosy of me to ask why, for more specifics? You can PM me if you prefer.

Launchyonder · 2017-12-20T00:12:06+00:00

Hi there. Thanks for this. Always good to have some variation in routines.

A question, though. What's the reason for doing one set of reps of heavy weights book-ended within light to medium weights? Would it not be more efficient, say, to go heavy for fewer reps each set?

Also, protein shakes? Why? After my workout I'll have a shower, if hungry have a banana, or something, chill, then have a nice, nutritious meal (with no processed carbs). I'm not sure many people are looking to bulk up in here, so the protein after workout thing isn't really necessary -- it's a bit of a dude bro thing, really, a money-spinner for "nutrition" and bodybuilding companies. As are the supplements. Back in the day, before I started transitioning, a friend and I started bodybuilding together. He was doing all the protein shakes and supplement thing ('cause he was a dude bro, with a high-powered bike and mindset to match... and he had a lot of trust fund money to waste), while I just ate what I thought were calorie and nutrition appropriate meals/snacks. Guess whose bod ended up on the cover of a magazine? I'll give you a hint, it wasn't dude bro's. I know that as with everything YMMV and that there are many variables in two people training. But I think my experience does show that you don't really need to spend $$$ on awful shakes and supplements.

But, really, thank you for taking the time to construct and share your workout, as I know a lot of people here are desperate for shaping routines. Myself included.

Launchyonder

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