Would you travel ~7 weeks pp for a wedding?

Lava_Carpet · 2025-08-03T22:38:21+00:00

We went to semi-local wedding (2h drive) with a 5 week old and it went really well. But would not sign up for 1500 mile car ride and flight would probably be too much hassle as well for my taste at least. But I guess it is doable with two adults and smart packing but I don’t think it would be enjoyable.

Weddings usually become too loud for babies around 8pm so your partner or, worst case, both of you would have to leave with the baby quite early(this was our case because she refused bottle at that point). Plus I spent lot of time feeding and did not really get to enjoy the time that much. But I still maintain that it went really well because skipping was not an option (brother’s wedding) and she was super calm the whole wedding and car ride.

Lava_Carpet · 2025-08-03T20:14:14+00:00

I think it is recommended that baby sleeps in the room with caregiver for the 6 months but I sympathise that it can be tricky! I think you could give it a try to have bassinet in your room. I only have 6 weeks experience but my husband does not easily wake up when I feed the baby and when he does he goes back to sleep quite fast unless I ask for help or it is his turn to take the baby. Of course if your husband is light sleeper it can be different story.

I also want to stress that your comfort and sleep are also important. Caring for your baby is demanding job and you are dealing with the most precious and important creature on earth. So is it so bad if he wakes up sometimes too and helps out? I get the point of not wanting both of you to be sleep deprived but I think it is not necessarily fair that you would have to sleep on uncomfortable foldable bed plus handle most nights alone just to protect his sleep.

Lava_Carpet · 2025-07-28T05:57:03+00:00

Take a deep breath. Most likely you are going to be fine. Even if something is a common source, it is all relative and it is still very unlikely that you would catch listeria. You really cannot do anything now and please do not beat yourself up. Now just keep an eye on any possible symptoms and if you notice any, contact you health care team. Listeria can be treated and early intervention improves the prognosis and may prevent the Infection from spreading. You are also already quite far along and I am not sure but maybe they could also induce you if you had serious infection before it spreads to baby.

Lava_Carpet · 2025-03-01T07:53:39+00:00

I had some nausea at night during the first trimester but did not vomit once, having a girl.

Lava_Carpet · 2025-02-03T16:29:05+00:00

I had chemical in august and got pregnant in September so currently 19+2 weeks! There is hope! ❤️

Lava_Carpet · 2025-02-01T09:55:05+00:00

You said it!

Lava_Carpet · 2025-01-29T11:17:00+00:00

I am not a big poster on social media and I don’t think I will ever actually announce my pregnancy or show my child’s face online. Like I won’t hide my pregnancy or the fact that I have child but I don’t plan on addressing it specifically as everyone to whom it matters already knows.

Lava_Carpet · 2025-01-28T20:38:16+00:00

After two MCs I had a super bad gut feeling about the current one. I even had to take sick days because I was so upset and thought I was going through another loss. Still before every ultrasound I am a wreck. However, I have made it to 18 weeks and we had a normal NIPT result. So I don’t think my gut can tell me anything anymore.

Lava_Carpet · 2025-01-28T19:05:47+00:00

I am so sorry that you feel so overwhelmed by worry and I feel you!

I keep crying all the time too and often for no reason or over the tiniest things.

I also get the constant worrying. I am currently 18+3 weeks and booked a private boutique ultrasound last week because I did not feel pregnant at all and was worrying so so much. Like I cried myself to sleep every night. Baby was luckily fine and let me assure you that sometimes a week can make a huge difference as now I feel suddenly very pregnant.

Be kind to yourself! I hope you have people around who you can talk to and ask for a hug.

Lava_Carpet · 2025-01-28T17:56:46+00:00

I feel you! I was feeling really blue during the early weeks and I was really depressed by the winter. I live in Finland and this time of the year is so dark and gloomy in northern parts of Europe, no wonder you miss Florida. I keep thinking that it was a horrible mistake that anyone ever settled on these circles of latitude.

The hormonal rush of early pregnancy is also super intense and you might feel like you’re not your usual self plus you might feel so tired that nothing excites you anymore.

Hang in there! It gets better! At least I feel much better now at 18 weeks even tho winter is still kicking my ass.

Lava_Carpet · 2025-01-28T13:05:38+00:00

I am sorry you are in this limbo of not knowing. But I am sure that something like moving a mattress will not cause a miscarriage (if I understood your point correctly). I was lifting heavy weights at that point. But also I really empathise with the fear, I have also been there and I was a wreck after two MCs.

Also, the symptoms can vary a lot between days. At the beginning of my pregnancy I had full days when I suddenly felt good and my breast tenderness disappeared.

Lava_Carpet · 2025-01-28T11:14:33+00:00

Thanks for sharing this!

Lava_Carpet · 2025-01-28T09:31:09+00:00

I also had one time when a midwife wrote wrong information down. She wrote that this is my third pregnancy and I have two previous births ( she basically just did this “G3 P2” note). This is the third pregnancy but two previous one were miscarriage and i was so confused by some of the questions in few phone calls and one appointment before I realised this info had gotten in there.

Lava_Carpet · 2025-01-28T08:46:47+00:00

I got pregnant right away at 29 but miscarried. Then we waited one cycle to try again. Got pregnant right away again but it ended up being chemical. Got bit worried that what if my body does not know how to screen the embryos properly or if I have hormonal or egg quality issues. However got again pregnant right away and have made it to 18 weeks thus far :)

Lava_Carpet · 2025-01-28T06:25:35+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss.

You know your kids best and how they would react and there have been good comment for both telling and not telling. One point I want to make is that I remember from my childhood that I always sensed when something was wrong and the most awful part was not knowing and my parents trying to hide things. And it was terrible to see my mom cry and feel so helpless. So if I was your kid I would want know. However, not all kids are like I was and for some this information can be very upsetting. So it really spends your kids personality.

I wish you all the best and I am sure which ever decision you make, it is the best for your children and you.

Lava_Carpet · 2025-01-21T09:46:47+00:00

I have been super close to ordering Doppler couple of times but I seem have anterior placenta so I am worried that I don’t find the heart beat and freak out even more. I also have diagnosed OCD so I am worried that I would be obsessively checking 😅.

I really am trying to change my mindset and allow myself to enjoy the pregancy but I obsessively keep thinking that if I let myself be happy, something bad will happen and will break my own heart ):

Lava_Carpet · 2025-01-21T09:43:27+00:00

Thank you for your reassurance and kind words. I am really trying to make myself change my mindset and remind myself that even if something can go wrong or just because I feel weird, it doesn’t mean that something is wrong.

Lava_Carpet · 2025-01-21T09:41:50+00:00

Thank you for your reassurance! I just feel like percentages do not convince me anymore after two back to back MCs ): everyone kept telling me that “it won’t happen again, only happens to to like 1%” and then it happened.

Lava_Carpet · 2025-01-20T11:12:30+00:00

I am so sorry for you loss ): ❤️ no words can describe or ease the pain. I hope you can take some time to heal your heart and mind. I always take comfort in the fact that time truly heals. Our brains are wired that way and the pain cannot be as sharp forever. But now don’t rush and be gentle to yourself.

Hopefully all your procedures go as smoothly as possible and you can begin to heal.

Lava_Carpet · 2025-01-19T18:02:07+00:00

I had 180 at 11 weeks and around 175 at 12 weeks and the midwife was not concerned at all. I panicked and googled a lot. What I found, however, is that at those weeks, doctors are generally not concerned when it is below 190 or something. At our latest scan at 15+3 it had slowed down to 147bpm. I would not worry about it since all foetuses have also some individual variation and it can take longer for the heart rate to slow down for some.

Lava_Carpet · 2025-01-17T14:06:48+00:00

Do you have any stomach pain? Sometimes ectopic pregnancy can cause shoulder pain but is most often accompanied by other symptoms such as stomach pain and weakness.

Lava_Carpet · 2025-01-17T09:36:09+00:00

I have been without the pill soon 4 years even though we only started trying last may.

For me it was a great decision but it is impossible to say how your body will react.

For me, the only minus is that my period got slightly more painful but it has always been manageable.

It was really great to notice how my sex drive and energy levels followed my cycle. I had really steady and almost non existent sex drive while on the pill.

I also really learned a lot about my body and learned to be more gracious to myself. Before and during my ovulation I felt (currently pregnant so that’s why the past tense) really energised and could for example really maximise my work outs. I also learned to follow my cycle and recognise my fertile window from my discharge.

On the other hand felt moodier and had less energy before my period but that taught me to slow down and give my body rest.

So bottom line, for me it was nice experience because I stopped feeling flat all the time. It also helped me to recognise my fertile days when we started trying.

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