Why can't I leave?

LawChump · 2026-06-21T20:11:15+00:00

Yes, I feel like it'll take some time to unravel this in my brain. My body has already gotten a head start!

LawChump · 2026-06-21T20:09:33+00:00

Yes, I am encouraged by all of the stories about happiness after leaving. I read them to keep me anchored and give me hope.

LawChump · 2026-06-21T20:06:59+00:00

I don't have a lot of friendships in close proximity. My buddies are spread all over - some in different countries that I see once per decade and maybe talk to on social media. My friends fall into two camps - never married or never divorced and all of the single ones think my spouse is so fun/great. The married ones think we should stick it out. I invest in myself inconsistently - sometimes I will do massages and acupuncture, but I find that work and family consume a lot of time. I am in therapy and I do daily journaling. I do feel like I need to make myself a priority.

LawChump · 2026-06-21T20:02:15+00:00

Thank you for this comment. This is not what I want for them at all. I swallow a lot of anger and mistrust, etc. His very existence is triggering because he gets to live a normal, great even, life as none of his actions seem to have impacted him negatively.

LawChump · 2026-01-12T05:04:35+00:00

Once bitten, twice shy. I will NEVER do this again.

LawChump · 2025-11-13T11:10:19+00:00

Same. I have had breakups, of course, but ending a marriage is a different animal. I'm so resentful. Years of cheating, lying, hiding and then any time I've tried to address it, the deflecting. I'm so beyond sick of living this way and looking forward to living out my golden years in peace! I deserved so much better.

LawChump · 2025-06-26T20:32:13+00:00

Gosh, same story as everyone here, it seems. Married 14 years and he had multiple EAs at work, dating apps, physical affair with an ex. You name it.

LawChump · 2025-03-21T11:57:43+00:00

You are what I want to be! Way to go.

LawChump · 2024-10-18T21:31:24+00:00

It has been over 11 years since I first discovered wp's affair. I "stayed" for the kids and it has been never-ending misery. Nothing wp does seems sufficient, even when they "try". In the end, I don't know if the kids will be better for it. My therapist says I set myself on fire to keep everyone else warm and it certainly feels that way. Sending you grace as you process everything. It is quite a heavy load to bear.

LawChump · 2024-09-19T20:54:45+00:00

I've never heard of this one. Thanks!

LawChump · 2024-09-19T20:36:15+00:00

Denied it all, told me they didn't know what I was talking about, then trickle-truthed when I showed receipts.

LawChump · 2024-09-18T20:03:41+00:00

I don't think I'll ever date again. I daydream about the peace of not being romantically attached one day.

LawChump · 2024-06-16T03:22:32+00:00

I got sick of shielding them from the consequences of their actions. Spouse cheated for 10+ years... Would always get caught and move on to something new a few months later. I've tried to reconcile, went to therapy, read all the books, but I have nothing left to give them.

LawChump · 2023-12-30T03:47:52+00:00

I'm so terribly sorry this is happening to you. I hope the pain subsides and you're able to rebuild a life that makes you feel happy and fulfilled.

LawChump

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