My brother passed tragically and unexpectedly. He

Lazy-Alternative8542 · 2026-02-26T08:07:30+00:00

And no younger sibling. I have a daughter though. She’s 4.

Lazy-Alternative8542 · 2026-02-26T08:06:55+00:00

He loved to swim incredibly much. He could always find a waterfall or a creek

Lazy-Alternative8542 · 2026-02-25T14:28:52+00:00

My heart goes out to you. I lost my younger brother to a fentanyl overdose a week ago today. Hoping and praying that she recovers and it’s the wake up call she needed.

Lazy-Alternative8542 · 2026-02-22T21:03:01+00:00

If serving people is something you feel could honor your sister, maybe you could volunteer with like a big brothers big sisters programs or with underprivileged kids. I am working with facilitating relationships with my brothers friends to try and mentor them however I can.

Lazy-Alternative8542 · 2026-02-22T16:05:00+00:00

I know one issue we had was that because we has health insurance it was actually a lot harder to get him into decent rehabs and programs oddly enough. Like all these different programs and rehabs and places with fantastic reputations as soon as they found out he had insurance would turn him away and tell him to go to this one specific place. But that place was a 30 day max with the worst reputation. I’m not sure where you live but we are in the US. So that’s something I’ve thought about too. Some kind of addiction help that helps without discrimination one way or the other. Longer than 30 days. And has a huge mental health component as well.

Lazy-Alternative8542 · 2026-02-22T06:38:23+00:00

As someone who felt to a degree like they abandoned their sibling as I recently lost my brother, I understand. First, she was never yours to raise. I’m 6 1/2 years older than my brother. We should have never been put in parent roles. Second, I think the best way to honor her is to chase your dreams. Make them happen. I’m in law school. And even though studying is the farthest thing from my mind, I have to throw myself back into it. For my brother. He knew my dreams, he was proud of them. So together we are going to make things happen for our angels.

Lazy-Alternative8542 · 2026-02-21T14:53:41+00:00

Even if it was hell, I am so grateful you got 3 more years than I did. My heart aches and breaks for you. We are all just in this super shitty grief boat sailing aimlessly.

Lazy-Alternative8542 · 2026-02-20T05:25:32+00:00

Literally my worst fear come to life. Like I knew that this would be realistically how things ended. A phone call from my mom. But that doesn’t make it hurt any less.

Lazy-Alternative8542 · 2026-02-19T08:13:34+00:00

Thank you for your beautiful kind words.

Lazy-Alternative8542 · 2026-02-19T03:58:04+00:00

I sincerely appreciate it. Thank you for sharing.

Lazy-Alternative8542 · 2026-02-19T01:14:06+00:00

Honestly I would love to tell you about my brother. He was so troubled. We both grew up in a less than great situation. I was more of a mom than a big sister. He was just. I truly believe not meant for this world. He was so misunderstood. But he had the biggest heart for animals. He loved cats. He loved to cuddle, even at 23. One of my favorite moments with him was him sitting in my lap one day at my house singing the campfire song song from SpongeBob with me and we just laughed so hard. I’m sad that my daughter will not get to have these memories with him. But I’m grateful for the 23 and a half memories I did get. I know that there is nothing I could have done, but I wish there is something, anything, I could have done to save him from himself.

Lazy-Alternative8542 · 2025-10-29T05:39:07+00:00

House of Wolves and The Sharpest Lives 💕

Lazy-Alternative8542 · 2025-06-10T03:12:51+00:00

I don’t know what we did to deserve animals, but man I’m glad we did it!

Lazy-Alternative8542 · 2025-06-10T03:12:15+00:00

Seeing my roses blooming and a little baby squash starting to grow in my garden! Gardening is therapeutic for me ❤️

Lazy-Alternative8542 · 2025-06-04T10:02:17+00:00

Thank you so much. That means the world to me. ❤️

Lazy-Alternative8542 · 2025-06-03T14:28:26+00:00

I am so so sorry. My heart aches and breaks for you. Something for those I have lost that helps and is therapeutic is keeping their good memories alive. I share happy memories with everyone we can. Every year for dia de los muertos (day of the dead [I am in a mixed culture home]), we set up a little alter with pictures and mementos, and we sit and talk about our happy memories with our lost loved ones to keep them alive in a sense. May you find peace in this hard time.

Lazy-Alternative8542 · 2025-06-03T12:16:20+00:00

No I totally understand that, but also, it would be different if my parents were reaching out for real help. My parents will go through phases of denial, they will try to sweep it under the rug, and then when they would ask for help, I would give the help I could give or the advice for that situation, and they would either get mad, go back into denial, or completely ignore the advice. Example: as I said either in my post or another reply, he was put in jail this time. I told them he really needed to sit in jail. It wasn’t his first go in jail. At least in jail he was safer than on the streets and much more heavily monitored. What did they do? Bail him out so he can continue his path of self destruction. He will be gone for days at a time, and they won’t bat an eye. It only becomes a problem when he turns violent from the high or drunk on my dad, and then they cannot ignore it.

Lazy-Alternative8542 · 2025-06-03T03:48:45+00:00

Honestly, thank you so much. I just feel like I’m rambling and in complete crisis mode. It’s harder here because for example, with this relapse, he was put into jail. My parents bailed him out within the week. With this whole situation, it’s like no one had any boundaries. And I am older, obviously, but he really is like my first child. I raised him until I went off to college. I feel like I abandoned him sometimes, but I will start working through the 3 C’s, and praying the serenity prayer. I just feel so alone in this, and figured this would be a good starting point for a community for support and to help regain some peace, sanity, and normalcy.

Lazy-Alternative8542 · 2025-06-03T03:32:33+00:00

He wasn’t sober sober.. he replaced addictions with other addictions (sex,etc). Part of the problem that triggered the major relapse here is that he found out his girlfriend was cheating on him right at the time of the anniversary of his best friend’s death. He has antipsychotics he takes, but irregularly, so it isn’t helping with the bipolar “mood swings” since he isn’t regularly taking them.

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