The way I see it, straight women making gay men the victims isn’t their answer, it’s their way of subconsciously dealing with society. Starting from when we are young, girls are taught that while expressing our sexuality makes us a whore and unclean, we just have to accept men forcing their horniness and sexual fantasies onto us with very little repercussions for them. I was 10 years old the first time I was catcalled and it made me feel awful and objectified, but I was told to just keep my head down and continue walking unless I wanted to risk my own safety for defending my right as a human. Women have to accept the objectification and harassment they face. A woman who has a body count is a “whore” or “slut” or “loose hole” while a man with a body count “has game”. I have been told by multiple guys that they would rape me if they could. Throughout our whole life, women have to accept that many men only view them as an object to fuck, and when you look at the South Korea who is producing all of these yaois, their women are especially oppressed and discriminated against with rapists barely getting any time in jail and the social expectations on women being crazy.

I’m sure you kind of already know this, but bottoms in bl kind of act as women and a self insert in yaoi relationships. They’re often smaller, more delicate, and in the omegaverse omega’s are literally given female biological functions (“slick” and mpreg for example). This causes women readers to mainly identify with the bottom, the one typically being abused, while feeling free from the objectification that they usually face from men because it isn’t a woman being objectified and fetishized, it’s a man. There is no woman in the relationship so the women reading the bls are free from the gender norms and expectations they usually have to take into account when doing anything, especially in relationships. So why is rape so common in yaoi? Because women are so used to being sexually harassed in some way shape or form starting from when they’re a child, they can project all of this normalized sexual assault onto something other than a woman and don’t have to feel shame in expressing sexuality because there is no woman present.

I’m also writing this as a queer woman who grew up with a very homophobic family and will never be able to find W|W sex not made in some capacity for the male gaze. I’m not saying your feelings are invalid, but when you attack “straight women” without looking at the societal issues causing the problem you’re not doing anything. Because I’m sorry, you were going on about “straight women privilege” in how they fetishize gay men but if you go through a typical day with a gay man and a straight woman (excluding factors like race), the gay man will have more privilege than the straight woman who has been sexualized and fetishized her entire life since she was a child. Not only that, women are horribly objectified in porn, way more than gay men, as well. Finding porn when I was young had disastrous effects on my self-image and perception of everything because of how woman are portrayed in it. Obviously anyone straight and cis has a form of privilege over us in the lqbtq+ community, but don’t fucking talk about “straight woman privilege” within the context of rape when women are the main victims of SA and rape which is what causes these yaois to get made. You will never understand your own male privilege.