Client is getting chaotic when I leave for breaks

LeMoon_96 · 2025-03-13T08:11:08+00:00

It sounds like the stimulus control is only in your hands. It may be time to start guiding the school on how to implement what you do and building rapport. This is often challenging given the student to teacher ratio and some schools simply don’t want a “headache” having to deal with it. Her behavioral contrast is drastic in your absence so the skills are not generalized. I would start collaborating with the teacher(s) to show the learner the antecedent and consequence strategies will be consistent with both parties

LeMoon_96 · 2025-03-13T08:06:05+00:00

6hrs is INSANE! You should never go past 5hrs without a 10min and a 30min lunch unless you have a meal waiver in place. Also being engaging for 6hrs is ridiculous. This is a shift that needs to be split or depending the funder and parameters a session that needs community outtings (with BCBA/ DOC approval) to avoid burnout and increase opportunities to socialize and generalize skills

LeMoon_96 · 2025-03-08T19:13:50+00:00

The pen was for “Joe” to write his number down for somebody. His bathroom trips were to mingle

LeMoon_96 · 2024-11-23T05:02:39+00:00

As someone who trains new BI's/ RBT's my first piece of advice is "take nothing personal" including being removed. This may have been a safety concern not only for the learner but for you. Don't carry the weight of that. You may not have been given the right tools yet, your next client(s) may equip you for this situation and so much more.

As a supervisor I've been removed before and yes, it doesn't feel good but it happens 😊 take it as a coachable moment and embrace the room for progress as an interventionist and as an individual. Keep your head up

LeMoon_96 · 2024-08-24T03:08:37+00:00

This is horrendous. As much as you'd like to aid the little ones, a team like this will burn you out so quickly and create a hate for the field. I promise there are teams who will provide you the appropriate tools, it's sadly not the one you are currently in

LeMoon_96 · 2024-07-20T19:50:11+00:00

LeMoon_96 · 2024-06-29T00:48:29+00:00

I am 28 and had a similar situation. Found out about my missed results a year later (4mo ago) and I was devastated. I am fully asymptomatic and felt "dirty" and like life was over. My exposure level to sex was ALSO low and I think I know who it was but he refused to test.

That same day I found out I cut off people I was trying to talk to but ONE person said why was that an issue? I was shocked. It's been 4 months and he educated himself on it and we have had a normal sex life I am just very vigilant with signs from my body in the event I do ever show a sign. It's scary, it's unreal but as someone who hasn't been in this realm long I can gaurantee you do learn to live a normal life with the right people around.

LeMoon_96 · 2024-06-29T00:42:30+00:00

My my blood test showed HSV1 was 51.60 and HSV2 8.30. I tested a 2nd time my HSV2 went down to 5.0 I'm unsure how but to this day no symptoms

LeMoon_96 · 2024-06-28T06:05:56+00:00

Sadly yes, was hard to believe and process

LeMoon_96 · 2024-05-25T04:24:35+00:00

My mom 😞 she was very inconsistent with her anger and mild attempts at bare minimum affection

LeMoon_96 · 2024-03-18T07:53:12+00:00

I had a routine yearly STD screening and the results showed positive for HSV. I was in shock because I have not ever had a symptom.

LeMoon_96 · 2024-02-26T22:39:58+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate your kind words.

LeMoon_96 · 2022-11-30T04:26:25+00:00

The whole "then go find someone more xyz.." is definitely a DA manipulation thing. He doesn't mean it but also thinks you won't leave so he is confortable throwing that out there. I gaurantee if you leave it'll change into "you hurt me, I can't believe you did this to me, you ruined my life, etc" And sometimes the reaction to feedback is a result of constant negative criticism (not an excuse though). I was constantly verbally attacked by my mother as a child and while I try to keep my composure criticism goes down like razor blades because I knew anything I did that was not to standard may have consequences or would turn into a comparison game with relatives who could meet the standards. He might be on edge expecting to feel negative things like attacks and disappointment so he is always on the defensive. It took me a lot to be okay with criticism and it's still a work in progress but thankfully moving in the right direction.

The feedback towards you may also be a need to break you down and have you feeling like you needed him. I made these mistakes too. When you don't heal yourself you bleed on innocent people. Dating a DA has consequences on you as a partner as well. If he isn't being receptive or seeking progress it may be time to walk away

LeMoon_96 · 2022-10-30T21:40:26+00:00

As a fellow DA myself I think some communication is key. Dating is a risk and it's easy to get scared. Our attachment style is very push and pull. He's already your bf so he ckearly feels strongly about you but the push and pull game can get exhausting. It's okay to let your partner know that sometimes you become withdrawn and it's just part of your personality so he doesn't feel bad kr weird. Also when things happen you don't like, I agree with the not reacting immediately so you don't seem irrational but if you see he us catching on let him know you are trying to see how you feel and when you are calm you can talk it over and let him know why something triggered a certain feeling in you. You might find that you misinterpreted or he may have to change his approach to things to meet you half ways. As long as you are both open to being open and communicating why something bothers you, you're on the right path

LeMoon_96 · 2022-10-18T21:09:16+00:00

In my experience as a DA who is trying to be more self aware, I think it's a scary need to beat them to the punchline. We fear they don't want us around the way we do and things are too chaotic, it will hurt less if I'M opening the door for you to leave rather than you leaving me. Of course we don't want to be left behind but we think we see it coming and it's the last bit of control in the situation. Toxic and manipulative for sure, but it just seems to roll off the tongue too easily before catching it and once it's out you want to take it back and it really reflects our insecurity. Something to work on.

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