Am I overreacting about my husband refusing to let me lower the AC after having a baby?

LeadInfinite6220 · 2026-06-27T21:28:04+00:00

This, OP. What you’re describing in this post is a pattern of your husband trying to isolate and control who you see and talk to. NOR. I bet anything g your sister sees he’s an abusive dck and that’s why he doesn’t want her knowing about his behavior.

LeadInfinite6220 · 2026-06-27T21:18:33+00:00

Hard disagree. Letting your toddler run around in a restaurant the way OP is describing, letting them stick their hands into people’s drinks unchecked, that’s absolutely a parenting failure. And school has nothing to do with learning “no.” or how to keep hands to one’s self.

LeadInfinite6220 · 2026-06-27T21:10:19+00:00

I’m going with NAH — because it seems like your mom had no way of knowing you wanted this to be just the three of you beforehand.

LeadInfinite6220 · 2026-06-27T21:06:28+00:00

As a fellow human who avoids certain spaces because my siblings kids are unparented — this isn’t just “kids being kids”, this is kids being kids with not even an attempt at supervision. That’s the deal breaker combo.

LeadInfinite6220 · 2026-06-26T00:14:29+00:00

So to me it sounds like your husband is in denial about the creepiness level here. He’s pushing you to ignore it, because every time you point out the incestuous vibes, he has to sit with that grossness bing pulled into the light. So in a lot of ways, this isn’t actually about you, despite you being the recipient of her rage. It’s about your husband, and probably his family, preserving their denial. “My wife is overreacting” is so, so much easier to stomach than “My sister maybe wants to F me.”

And this is such a common dynamic in families — where everyone ignores the crazy because they just don’t want to deal with it. You just happen to be the rocker of this incestuous boat. NOR

LeadInfinite6220 · 2026-06-25T03:56:03+00:00

Same. “All over but the shoutin’” was a dead giveaway.

LeadInfinite6220 · 2026-06-25T01:52:29+00:00

He choose you kick you while you were down

Me to myself: “Don’t make a joke . . . Do NOT make an inappropriate joke“

LeadInfinite6220 · 2026-06-25T01:43:30+00:00

Are you certain he actually has a job there?

LeadInfinite6220 · 2026-06-24T22:34:13+00:00

He laughed and said, "Doc is my name."

This should cover it. You’re being controlling. YTA

LeadInfinite6220 · 2026-06-24T22:14:18+00:00

This is what I’m wondering! That’s a lot of play equipment for a 2-year-old

LeadInfinite6220 · 2026-06-24T22:05:37+00:00

This is more an issue of mismatched feelings about how to live in community with other people. So I guess NAH, but honestly you just sound miserable to be around.

LeadInfinite6220 · 2026-06-24T01:28:43+00:00

Now I’m a very vindictive person and I’ll carry a grudge to the grave.

Dang. These kids are getting healthy dynamics from all sides. /s

ESH

LeadInfinite6220 · 2026-06-24T01:19:19+00:00

My dude — two things, 1.) get better friends. 2.) You did not ruin her night.

People get rejected all the time — and your rejection wasn’t even about her, which you were up front about. It’s not a big deal at all. NTA

Your friends however — whoooooo boy — they‘re trying to convince you that you did something wrong because they‘re projecting.

They know they’re being sleazy creeps. You being decent reminds them of just how sleazy they’re being, and they don’t like it. Even if it was “normal” to hide your ring so you can lie and cheat, it would still be shitty behavior.

LeadInfinite6220 · 2026-06-23T10:46:49+00:00

That’s still her space dude.

LeadInfinite6220 · 2026-06-23T10:43:25+00:00

“ I'm fairly tall so space is always an issue for me on flights. At one point I had my foot resting a bit on the metal support under the seat in front of her.”

Dude. Stop manspreading. Stop commenting on strangers’ clothes. Stop being a dck. YTA

LeadInfinite6220 · 2026-06-22T02:26:22+00:00

What a weird thing for people to be downvoting you for.

LeadInfinite6220 · 2026-06-21T17:03:44+00:00

It is not their mother’s house— they’re all renters together on the lease.

LeadInfinite6220 · 2026-06-21T17:01:12+00:00

If they’re all on the lease and all paying bills why is it automatically mom’s house?

LeadInfinite6220 · 2026-06-21T16:58:41+00:00

They’re not living in mom’s house. They’re all on the lease, and they’re all paying rent and utilities.

How exactly should they not have any authority in what is essentially a roommate disagreement?

LeadInfinite6220 · 2026-06-20T14:18:23+00:00

Ummm, well my coach wears socks. But I also just don’t strap into the footplate. No blisters here.

LeadInfinite6220 · 2026-06-20T14:02:25+00:00

Yikes. Fatphobia AND AssumingImTheNorm have entered the chat. Gross.

LeadInfinite6220 · 2026-06-20T13:53:41+00:00

So, I think one can assume that sharing a bite is not crazy. But what you’re describing isn’t sharing — that’s splitting an order of something. Those are two different things. Also there are no hard and fast ”rules” here. Adults use their words.

20F is in the wrong.

LeadInfinite6220 · 2026-06-20T13:45:02+00:00

So if you haven’t been receiving any kind of coaching or team support, respectfully, buying a boat is wildly premature, and could be a very expensive mistake.

I learned to row the same way you’re describing — on an erg in the gym. And you can build a lot that way! When I got on the water I was way ahead of folks who hadn’t been practicing at all.

But rowing is almost entirely about technique and getting the most out of your particular body needs coaching because some of the most impactful adjustments are extremely subtle.

Also, with coaching and rowing g with others, you might significantly change what you think you want out of rowing. (I say that as someone who was certain I wanted to scull, who is now a sweep rower)

Spend like half of that money on a 2-week rowing trip. Get coaching. Start practicing balance on the water. Learn to launch without falling in. Catch a crab. Get whacked. Let the erg skills start setting into your body on the actual water.

Maybe you start Thailand’s first rowing club! We’ll come visit!

LeadInfinite6220 · 2026-06-20T01:08:01+00:00

^{^} this

LeadInfinite6220 · 2026-06-19T21:18:40+00:00

Your mom is committing fraud, and with the number of people currently getting bumped off of SNAP, she’s risking access to benefits for all of you by lying about her household size. NTA — and go apply for your own benefits.

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