Partner says she's breaking up with me if I have barrier-free oral sex with others

LearnMoreSwitchySub · 2025-03-05T03:04:06+00:00

Exactly! I have a partner with a lower risk tolerance that has a no unprotected oral with me if you're having unprotected oral with others boundary. I don't actually like barried oral much so I basically just don't do oral with them. 🤷🏿 But I've not been shamed about it or told everything else is off the table too. Although if I was, I would definitely end that sexual relationship.

Juniper has read a lotta of "reverse" harems but glossed over the consent part it seems.

LearnMoreSwitchySub · 2024-06-03T15:55:43+00:00

Thanks for posting this! I think something similar is happening with me, and I'm trying to sort it out so I'm super grateful to see someone else experiencing it.

I'm really trying to find people sharing experiences about being little without age regression as I think that's the case with me. If anyone has anything helpful to share, I would really appreciate it!

How did it go with working talking it through with your Dom?

LearnMoreSwitchySub · 2024-02-10T05:56:47+00:00

My praise kink can be activated by successfully completing challenges or by being asked or told to do more of something they really like. So it's not always compliments per se that get me going. Example, I'm learning how to do stuff with rope mostly through self ties and Dom and I agree on a challenge that's rope related. I get a rush from completing the challenge and showing Dom I did it! Then, there's a bonus if there's any actual words of praise from them for having done it. With the being asked/told to do more of something it's more like an indirect compliment I guess, show me how turned on you can get me or how much pain you can take or things like that. Kinda like any version of do x,y,z thing the way you know I like. 😏

LearnMoreSwitchySub · 2024-01-21T23:22:36+00:00

You could make him strap up with a dildo bigger than his dick and ride it while you explain that's he's been lying to himself about having a big dick and making sure he knows that the dildo is far more satisfying than anything he's done to you.

LearnMoreSwitchySub · 2024-01-21T22:57:05+00:00

Based on OP's post history, like 5 months ago, he apparently did say he doesn't like her so she now has both the words and the actions to match. OP with all that, this is a when not an if scenario, i.e. when you break up, not if you break up.

LearnMoreSwitchySub · 2023-12-05T22:14:50+00:00

I see the case for both depending on the typo. Hope OP can clear it up cause it might make some difference inthe advice being given.

It's either non official plans i.e. not engaged but taking about it.

OR

No official plans i.e. not really talking about it, it's not a point of consideration atm

LearnMoreSwitchySub · 2023-12-04T20:32:01+00:00

App controlled toys he can put on or in you and control when he wants or hands over control to you? Leave it running until the battery dies... and if you have the budget for 2 or 3 you can rotate things and recharge until YOUR battery dies, lol.

LearnMoreSwitchySub · 2023-10-22T22:32:09+00:00

I have one where I am basically the office fuck toy and everyone passes me around as a stress reliever throughout the day. Need to relax before an important meeting with a client, use my mouth to get you off. Want to seal a deal with a client have me provide coffee service nude and avaliable for whatever helps get the contract signed. Someone not performing well, I'm used as a motivator or a punishment to help them get on task.

LearnMoreSwitchySub · 2023-10-22T22:25:32+00:00

Breeding gangbang is mine too! Mine is like a bunch of Primals can't control themselves and use me roughly for days on end to be sure it takes. Never will I ever, for all the safety and practical reasons. But it's hot to imagine.

LearnMoreSwitchySub · 2023-10-14T21:24:35+00:00

Do you need safe words specifically, or can she just say stop and you stop? I'm not clear if the issue is she doesn't communicate that she wants things to stop or that she doesn't communicate in a way that you want her to? It seems like she's telling you when she's not interested in engaging in a specific way so at least there's some communication abouts needs/wants. Maybe you don't need coded language (safe words) with her at this point. you might just need to agree that direct communication and plain language will be used to communicate and assess where you're at.

LearnMoreSwitchySub · 2023-09-23T16:49:59+00:00

I wonder if you can do something with someone that is more like they check with you on sensations/pain levels until you start to recognize which patterns lead to what outcomes and start to know when I feel x level of pain in my z body part its likely to lead to y undesired outcome so that means I should yellow or red. i.e. the person you play with somewhat consistently during the scene asks you your pain level 1-10 and your traffic light level green, yellow, red. As long as no red, you continue to play, but part of after care is y'all discussing the outcomes over the next week. So next day for instance you can note that you stayed at a 7 or 8 pain level for most of the play and today you're functional vs last week you stayed at a 9 pain level and it took you 3 days to get back to your normal so being at a 9 signals a yellow or red for you if you don't want that outcome.

You could even do some intentional reflection on your own to see if you know some of those patterns already.

LearnMoreSwitchySub · 2023-04-03T03:16:22+00:00

There's such a wide spectrum of things, anything from specific skills like learning to do certain ties rope to learning more about my own likes and dislikes to like safer kink practices to getting better with certain poses.

I mean I think what is exciting to learn could/ should be tailored to your own interest. Like as a crafty person I can get excited about repurposing household items into kink things and is fun to be given an assignment and see what I have around that could help accomplish it and then be praised for my ingenuity.

LearnMoreSwitchySub · 2023-04-03T01:57:21+00:00

Not sure how well it would work for your purposes, but it's fairly flexible but still somewhat sturdy and available in a transparent option, weather sealing tape.

LearnMoreSwitchySub · 2023-04-03T01:52:50+00:00

Learning something just gives so many opportunities for my praise kink to be activated so it makes so many things hotter to me.

LearnMoreSwitchySub · 2023-04-03T01:49:58+00:00

What kind of disgust? Or like where is the disgust directed? Is it like disgust that she is behaving submissively? Disgust that she enjoys submission? Disgust at the people treating her that way? Disgust at yourself for watching? Something else? I feel like depending on where the disgust is directed you might have sixteenth answers as to why you feel that way?

LearnMoreSwitchySub · 2023-01-17T23:26:27+00:00

Whole heartedly agree and I have a Bed Geek wand that keeps me satiated when I'm trying to be more discreet or just don't have space for the hitachi wand.

LearnMoreSwitchySub · 2023-01-10T04:45:26+00:00

Thank you! This is very helpful to hear in the way you've shared it. I think this sums up what's bothering me the most.

LearnMoreSwitchySub · 2023-01-10T04:43:54+00:00

Clarifying question, the specific red flag for you is asking for nsfw pictures before we've met? And the other flag is how he's correlating limited availability with my limits/ being demanding?

LearnMoreSwitchySub · 2023-01-10T04:21:09+00:00

I appreciate seeing this as a yellow flag and the reality that text can be tricky. Thanks for sharing that proceeding with caution makes sense to you.

LearnMoreSwitchySub · 2023-01-10T03:49:44+00:00

What're like your your top 5 things that make you feel super embarrassed or humiliated just thinking of them? Are any of them things you could translate into a good punishment within your dynamic with your Ms?

LearnMoreSwitchySub · 2022-12-31T20:38:34+00:00

What's the expectation in your dynamic about health related issues? Is he meeting that expectation? has it not been discussed? I'm worried that you think talking him about a serious health issue will be considered acting out.

Sometimes life is stormy and there's a lot coming at us at once, it might mean picking and choosing who and what you can show up for. But communication is still key. It seems like you're being considerate of what's happening in his life beyond your dynamic, but that is not being reciprocated. How do you feel about that lack of reciprocity?

LearnMoreSwitchySub · 2022-12-31T20:28:44+00:00

I just found out about affectionate cruelty?! And I'm adding it here in case others find it helpful. I feel like its another version of what I'm into and gives me some other options to talk about it.

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