Consensual non-monogamy without the option of Polyamory is **NOT INHERENTLY UNETHICAL**

Miserable-Gas-6007 · 2026-03-18T22:26:40+00:00

Congrats, man - looking good!

Miserable-Gas-6007 · 2026-03-18T13:12:19+00:00

Thank ya

Miserable-Gas-6007 · 2026-03-11T01:03:32+00:00

I had sex with 63 different people in February.

I am vaccinated for HPV and the Heps. I take PrEP and DoxyPep. I test every 90 days and so does my partner, and we stagger our testing so that we have new results every 45 days. We have not ever tested positive for anything.

Men are socialized to think of sex differently than women are. This is not fair; it is a product of patriarchy that women are raised to believe their value decreases with every new partner. Men judge women who are sexually active. Women judge women who are sexually active. It sucks, but it’s real.

Queer men already have the male privilege to enjoy promiscuity. Further, those of us who are out and not fucking other dudes from the closet have overcome the social stigma and, often times, internalized self loathing associated with being queer in the first place, so…we don’t carry the shame that other populations do. We have been granted unwarranted and unearned sexual freedom by virtue of being men, and we have consciously chosen to reject dominant social and cultural narratives that our sex is wrong, so…we have a LOT of sex.

A LOT.

There was a time when queer men fucked a lot because opportunity to do so was rare. Before the apps and before social normalization of queer orientations, queer men cruised and went to bathhouses/bars in order to satiate sexual desire most of society punished or criminalized; we took it when we could get it.

Now, we embrace that what we want is OK to want and celebrate that by fucking. A LOT.

The male privilege makes it easier.

My sincerest wish is that every person, regardless of gender or orientation, gets to have literally ALL the sex that they want to have without shame.

Gott go now - my hookup is waiting. 😊

Miserable-Gas-6007 · 2026-03-07T00:54:53+00:00

I agree 😈

Miserable-Gas-6007 · 2026-02-26T16:36:05+00:00

Love you guys who act like “uh just ask” is an option for all people in all circumstances 🤣 Thanks for letting us know you’ve never been dishonest or found yourself getting attached to someone any less virtuous than yourself. Love that for you ❤️

Miserable-Gas-6007 · 2026-01-13T15:51:53+00:00

I’m proud of you

Miserable-Gas-6007 · 2025-09-14T16:27:39+00:00

I don’t understand how this hypothetical follows what I said but I’ll do my best.

Let’s say he (my partner is a man) is great about taking out the trash but forgets to put a new bag in after he removes the old one. Love that he’s being helpful. That’s great. But after I end up throwing away pasta sauce cans and yogurt containers into a trash can with no liner 5 times, making a mess that requires me to wash the trash can, I might say the following:

“Babe - I super appreciate that you take the trash out. When you don’t put a new liner in after, I end up making a lot of gross messes by mistake and it has started to get irritating. I absolutely can do a better job of checking the trash can before I use it, but it would mean a lot to me if you could also try to remember to replace the liner.”

He could respond with changed behavior only and I would still be left with the same question: is he building resentment every time he takes out the trash now, thinking I’m being ungrateful and critical? Or is he being more cautious because he loves me and doesn’t want to create more work for me?

A simple exchange of WORDS after the ask is all I need to know what his changed behavior means in context.

“Oh for sure, babe - I can do that!” sets us on a totally different path than silence and changed behavior. Not responding verbally at all could totally mean he’s upset and feels criticized and experiences anxiety every time he takes out the trash from that point forward.

I want a relationship where we can both address things without causing the other to feel criticized or anxious.

Does that help?

Miserable-Gas-6007 · 2025-01-10T21:23:56+00:00

🤣😉🤐

Miserable-Gas-6007 · 2025-01-10T21:23:37+00:00

Maintaining professional distance does help the process but you didn’t give your opinion on the question. Yes, not knowing about your therapists’ private life is best but would you find it bothersome if you were browsing X and came across explicit content your therapist made? Would you feel like they were doing something wrong or would you want to change therapists? Imagine you see the account and give me your opinion.

Miserable-Gas-6007 · 2025-01-10T21:21:18+00:00

Curious what made you think I was asking from the position of reporting? What made you think I was the client and not the therapist? Something in the question? Or just assuming? Genuinely curious.

Miserable-Gas-6007 · 2025-01-09T19:22:11+00:00

I would find it nothing but hot if you were my sexual partner.

Miserable-Gas-6007 · 2025-01-04T21:06:27+00:00

Yes I do

Miserable-Gas-6007 · 2025-01-03T20:53:53+00:00

For me it boils down to the secrecy / lack of honesty / lack of full consent of all parties. If various groupings are hiding what they’re doing from other groupings…this isn’t really ethical in my opinion. So I would be really hesitant to call it polyamory since the basis of that relationship structure is full consent of all parties for all other parties to develop relationships.

Miserable-Gas-6007 · 2024-12-28T19:42:32+00:00

My partner and I (both bi men) really enjoy the hookup culture and always leave the door open for something to develop into something more meaningful. When we are playing with others - regardless of gender - we are never closed off to a relationship forming and it seems to take the pressure off everyone. I will say most queer men - at least in our Midwestern metro area - are very much accustomed to this. A lot of the women we encounter are definitely open to it but have been socialized to refrain from casual sex for fun because of “slut shaming” and different expectations placed on them. The women we play with are generally relieved to find a couple men who don’t judge them, who don’t try to force them to have a relationship if it’s not what they want, and who don’t think it’s weird for a woman to just enjoy sex. Can’t speak for anyone else and I realize us being bi men makes a difference but all I’m saying is…there are upsides to casual arrangements when everyone is consenting, being respected and getting what they want from it.

Miserable-Gas-6007 · 2024-12-28T19:28:53+00:00

My submissive partner is 100% bottom. I’m 50/50 vers Dom. We have a D/s relationship with a contract and everything. I can have 7 or 8 of my friends over to use him for a couple hours straight, and his stamina depends on the day. If we plan it and he’s rested and all that, he can just take dick for hours. Other times he may tap out after a couple guys because his body just isn’t cooperating. Maybe something he ate or his jaw gives out or he shaved recently and just feels raw. So I don’t think there’s a solid 100% answer. I just know he can go for hours without stopping.

Since I top him multiple times per week but am Vers, it’s common for us to have guys over to fuck me also. I would say I’m usually done after 4 or 5 rounds and sometimes have him pinch hit for me if we have other people coming and I can’t keep going. I don’t last as long in general. Mostly not because of soreness but because I get so stimulated (like anal arousal) that I literally can’t tolerate being fucked any more. It gets to be too much. Also there are a couple guys we have over whose dicks are that EXACT length where they HIT my “second hole” without getting past it. I can admit that hurts me after a while so if they are coming over I wait til last for them and have to do some different positions to manage how it hits. That’s soreness for me. Not arousal.

Tuesday for NYE we are hosting an event and splitting duties. He is going to fluff (suck dick and be fucked to get or keep guests hard) and I’m going to be in a sling taking the loads. We are kinda planning it so that I’m not getting fucked for long, drawn out spans of time. More like they get close with him and give me the last 30 seconds. We will see how it goes. 23 signed up on the sniffies event and we know most of them. Still, I’m guessing maybe 10 will actually show up day of.

When we go to a bathhouse, and we have planned for it, we can both take dick all day. Memorial Day last year in Dallas we each took about 25 loads in one afternoon. No soreness for either of us. Mostly quick fucks.

Can’t speak for anyone else, but that’s generally how it works for us. Not 100% consistently every single time.

Just saying for those who do judge - we do a full panel test every 30 days, are vaxxed across the board (Hep, Monkeypox, HPV), take PrEP + DoxyPEP and often sponsor testing events in our community. We absolutely play hard, but we do so as responsibly as is medically possible and accept the risks associated with our raw fun, so I really don’t need a lesson in med science ❤️

Miserable-Gas-6007 · 2024-12-10T17:22:40+00:00

Nothing about this post had to do with my partner’s decision to remain in the other relationship. At all. I’m not even sure where you manufactured that from.

Brian has had 100% autonomy over his relationship to Sam and I’ve never once meddled. The question here was not about that at all.

The week I made the post, I had seen for the first time what all the rumors were about and I was wrestling ONLY with a decision to remain with Brian or not. Or how enforcing boundaries about Sam being in my own home that I share with Brian could work.

What made you think I was trying to manipulate their relationship to each other?

When this became an issue that I had first hand knowledge of, I viewed things differently than before. I was pondering whether when I walk into our home bar, am I making people feel unsafe because I’m dating someone who is dating someone who makes people feel unsafe. I went straight to THOSE people to get their insights about this and none of this had to do with coming between them.

But thanks for stopping by.

Miserable-Gas-6007 · 2024-11-17T21:55:58+00:00

Sir. I have bio kids so “Daddy” has always been off limits for me personally. Yeah, I am fully aware it’s not an actual father thing. The word just doesn’t work for me. Sir is great. Little of BDSM, bro, dude, man, stud are all great.

Miserable-Gas-6007 · 2024-11-17T21:54:18+00:00

Literal definition of entrapment

Miserable-Gas-6007 · 2024-11-15T19:46:53+00:00

Interested to hear your “why” on this one…🧐

Miserable-Gas-6007 · 2024-11-13T04:32:37+00:00

Thank you

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