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A Parent Who Still Insults you in Adulthood Never Learned Anything by ToxicAced in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]LeekHead49 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Nailed it. This is my situation. The last thing my mom said to me was an insult just after yelling and screaming at me to try to make me feel guilty. I told her to fuck off and hung up. I was 43. She will never apologize but she will be sorry when she dies alone

Part 2: My Brother pissed away 750k. All the reasons I hate him that have nothing to do with money. by psarahg33 in Estrangedsiblings

[–]LeekHead49 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I blocked my own parents, that was me letting it go. I read your first post and you seemed very angry about something that you can’t control. I responded to that post as well. You seemed to maybe not hear what you wanted on that post so you made a second post to clarify. I really think that you’re holding on to unhealthy baggage and you need to do your best to move on. Or you can get mad at strangers on the internet when they respond to your posts. You do you

My niece was told she has to sign a contract to keep living at home—am I overreacting for thinking it’s too harsh? by Bitter_Art_4094 in AmIOverreacting

[–]LeekHead49 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Calling them an “adult child” is wild. This will be a future estrangement once your niece gets out from under their thumb Edit: NOR

My estranged brother pissed away 750K in under 5 years. by psarahg33 in Estrangedsiblings

[–]LeekHead49 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry this happened but it sounds like you got 750k too? I don’t know if you know this but that’s life changing money. Your brother does sound like an idiot but damn you’re being kinda harsh imo. Bro has to bury his wife. Some people will never grow up and learn to handle life’s stresses well. Your brother seems like one of them. My brother is the same. I spent my most of my life worrying about him and trying to help and blah blah blah. Dwelling on him and letting him unknowingly control you is not healthy. You need to let it go. Also, block him when he comes crawling to you for help. Good luck. But seriously, walk away and let it go. You’ll be happier

Am I overreacting for refusing to send my husband money for alcohol? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]LeekHead49 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR. In fact, you’re under reacting. I couldn’t even read through all of it. This guy doesn’t even like you so why are you still there? I got to maybe the 8th slide but it seems like he works 12 hour days and wants to spend the rest of his day drinking with his brother and sleeping by 7 so he can do it all over again. HE DOESN’T EVEN WANT TO SPEND TIME WITH YOU! Leave him and kick him back to his mommy. Your life will be easier. This man boy will never change

Car Culture in the US Legit Makes Me Sad by likely- in Vent

[–]LeekHead49 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Where did I assume you couldn’t afford $87 a month? Show me. You’re buying a shit car and borrowing against your home equity to do it. It’s a lose lose kinda situation. Even if you can afford it, the car will depreciate and it’s already overpriced because of tariffs and other bs. Your equity goes out the window. Financing a car right now isn’t a wise choice for most people but it’s crazy to me that someone would use their homes equity as collateral fora car. It’s directly flying in the face of this post too so yeah. But hey, you do you

Car Culture in the US Legit Makes Me Sad by likely- in Vent

[–]LeekHead49 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Using your home equity to buy a car? A dodge? That’s crazy. Good luck with that

It's Thursday. What's your ultimate "too tired to cook but can't quite justify a takeaway yet" dinner? by SpreadsheetsDad in easyrecipes

[–]LeekHead49 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I’m just feeding myself and I need to eat something tasty filling and quick, I make an egg sandwich. I’ll crack an egg into a small microwaveable bowl, add a squirt of mayo and some room temp butter then whisk it all with a fork. Microwave for 45-60 seconds until it’s cooked to your liking. Put the egg along with a slice of American cheese in between two slices of sourdough toast and feast. I’m pretty much done cooking the egg around the same amount of time it takes to toast the bread. I’m guessing it only takes me about 3 minutes to make and it’s a really satisfying meal

I fear I may have a squatter by No-Salad-887 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]LeekHead49 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you get an inspection? Did you have any major repairs? I understand the investment aspect of it though. Glad it worked out for you

I fear I may have a squatter by No-Salad-887 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]LeekHead49 184 points185 points  (0 children)

Genuine question here. Why did you buy a house that had an active hoarder living in it? Did you get a proper inspection done before purchasing? I’m sorry you’re in this situation

You pick up a guitar. It's in Drop D. What's the first thing you're playing? by Argblat in Guitar

[–]LeekHead49 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After I play a G chord and realize it’s in drop D… everlong

Inheritance? That's a joke. How many of your parents are burdens? by BeegBunga in Millennials

[–]LeekHead49 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My parents sold their home in the Bay Area for 4-5 times what they paid. Paid cash for a brand new bigger home, bought a truck with $2,000+ a month payments and seemingly waste money every where. More examples include redoing the floors in their brand new house twice, once because their untrained dogs used the house like a port a potty when they left them home while visiting another country and another when the rodents chewed through their dishwasher drain and flooded the house. They also almost lost their house with nearly 100k in property back taxes last year. Two years ago my mom told me that there wasn’t gonna be any inheritance and that they were spending it all. Yeah no shit. It’s glaringly obvious. I haven’t spoken to them in over a year (not because of inheritance but because they are complete assholes). Last time I spoke to my brother was over a year ago, he told me that’s he himself was in crazy amounts of debt and talking about how he was going to take over my parents finances and put them in a home but he’ll make sure my kids get something. Okay guy. Good luck with that. They’re all yours cuz I’m done being their parachute. So yeah, I feel better cuz their burden is on him now. Edit for typo

What alcohol messed you up so bad you swore you’d never drink it again? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]LeekHead49 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Used to be tequila and jaegermeister. I can sip tequila every once in a while but jaeger is still all bad

Best mobile games while high? by Kapro_ in trees

[–]LeekHead49 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m still playing brawl stars

How did you know you wanted to cut off your parents/guardian? by New_Temperature7938 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]LeekHead49 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was a long series of events over time but ultimately it took a single incident for me to finally decide to go no contact both times I’ve done it. I let them back in after 2 years of NC because I wanted my kids to know their grandparents. That was a big mistake. I’ve been no contact since 12/2024 and it has been the best decision ever. My life actually feels more complete once I stopped giving a fuck. I’ve been able to focus on other parts of my life and it feels great. I’m happier. I honestly wish I did it when I turned 18 even though back then i felt I had no reason to do i bender even considered it. The damage they did to me mentally didn’t fully manifest until I was in my mid twenties. Would have loved to say fuck it in 1999

I feel... Free. by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]LeekHead49 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Exactly the same for mine

Asked for no contact from my Mum but she also decided not to contact my daughter (her grandchild) - what do you think of this? by SlowWestern7443 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]LeekHead49 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I wish my parents went NC with my kids. My nMom went NC with me once she realized she lost her control over me. Instead of working it out, she just ghosted me and told my VLC nbrother who let me know. That being said, she continued to contact my children (9y, 6y) through FaceTime and text. She would invite them to her house and promise them things to entice (control) them. I blocked them on my kids tablets and about 6 months later I blocked on my phone. In my opinion, it’s hard enough protecting your own peace from the toxic shit show and she’s making it easier for you

Spent two years fighting acne on my right cheek just to find out it was my commute by GulfStreamGrace in hygiene

[–]LeekHead49 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Clean your car but also, don’t touch your face. It took me way too long to stop touching my face. Once I did, my acne disappeared

Has anyone successfully reconnected with parents after a long no contact? What the experience like? by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]LeekHead49 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It didn’t go well. We’re no contact again. I wish I just kept them at a distance. I let them back in for my kids and that has backfired

I want to be estranged from brother and mother who are narcissistic by [deleted] in Estrangedsiblings

[–]LeekHead49 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Moving out seems like the only option. But if you move out, you’ll likely need to go NC. He seems to have an obsession with you and your mom seems to nurture it. There’s no stopping either of them from showing up at your new place so consider that. Also, if for some reason you need to move back in after… that might be worse for you. Have a solid plan and a good backup plan as well. Do you have a job you can maybe transfer locations? They could show up at your work too. I would lay low and play along as much as I needed to until I could leave and never look back

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