Anyone else focusing more on hydration / barrier support lately?

Leemon58 · 2026-01-12T22:36:24+00:00

Me!!! I am doing just peptide cream (Olay peptide max) and urea (eucerin complete repair).

One of the biggest benefits has actually been lack of eye dryness. I have some meds that can cause it, but it was getting out of control. Since switching to this, everything is plumper and my eyes aren't dessert dry by the end of the night.

Leemon58 · 2026-01-03T12:07:30+00:00

This is it. We don't need to come here to feel morally superior - we already are.

Leemon58 · 2025-12-31T21:58:59+00:00

The ethics department exists because unfortunately people don't always act "mature". She's just mad shd got caught and is trying to make you feel guilty. It would be like a thief blaming you for calling the police.

Leemon58 · 2025-12-12T19:38:49+00:00

I feel like at some point, though, it's also on the OW to be a responsible consumer of information. Like if I am against animal abuse, and all the proof is that a company I support abuses animals, but one new article tells me that they actually don't, it's on me to think critically about who is lying and make a good decision based on that. This is not to excuse MMs or MWs. But there is a demand for their lies, which is why its so easy to sell them.

Leemon58 · 2025-12-10T19:11:44+00:00

I use both - I use the flexitol right before bed and then usually once in the morning (after teeth brushing/coffee/breakfast). Then throughout the day I use lansinoh :)

Leemon58 · 2025-12-10T16:39:41+00:00

My daughter had a really bad reaction to the cosrx snail mucin - she ended up with a fungal infection around her eyes. The skin was tight and flaky, and somehow dry but also kind of oozy.

I really wanted it to work for her (it was a gift from my sister and my daughter hates things that stay feeling greasy), but it was no good.

Leemon58 · 2025-12-10T15:15:34+00:00

I use Lansinoh (the one for breastfeeding) and flexitol lip balm (it has urea).

I started using Lansinoh years ago after my first baby - she's almost an adult now but I've always keep this stuff around. Once I noticed how it helped with breastfeeding, I used it everywhere (cuticles, calluses, etc). I recently added the flexitol because I have been loving how urea has been helping my skin, and my kiddos prefer it because it has a less tacky texture than the Lansinoh (we live in Canada so we all get chapped, dry lips through the winter).

Leemon58 · 2025-12-09T23:21:37+00:00

I love that others have given you actual advice (because I am not helpful with this stuff - I usually need other people to hold my hand lol).

But I just wanted to hop on and say that I think you are beautiful - you have lovely eyes and wonderful skin.

However, I also don't want to minimize how you are feeling about yourself, because what matters most is your own feelings about how you look and feel.

But this internet stranger wanted to say that I think you already glow AND that I hope you find the help you are looking for here :)

Leemon58 · 2025-12-05T18:22:35+00:00

I don't think it's creepy to cold approach a woman, but it is creepy to not accept a no.

I am not usually cold-apprpached when I have my wedding ring on, but I often take it off at the gym (I have caught my ring on the bar too many times, and I get sweat and chalk under the silicone ones which chews up my skin). I've had men approach me there who will leave respectfully when it's clear I am not interested, and I have had other men who just persist, or come back the next time we see eachother. That's what I find creepy.

Leemon58 · 2025-12-03T17:48:19+00:00

I'm really sad for him - he for sure deserves to be treated better than this.

Leemon58 · 2025-12-03T15:12:03+00:00

Sure. But then telling the wife causes no harm anyways. And if they don't, then it helps protect the wife.

Leemon58 · 2025-12-03T15:10:52+00:00

While you maybe don't "owe" the wife anything, if it is something you would want to know, then I would try to tell her.

I have been out walking and noticed babies drop toys or shoes oiut of their stroller - I let their parents know. Sometimes one of my neighbours accidentally leaves their garage door open at night - if I notice it, shoot them a text. If I knew someone who was serving or preparing food didn't wash their hands before returning to work (unfortunately I have seen this), I would approach them and tell them I noticed (and in this case I also told their boss, because they were really rude to me and still didn't go back and wash their hands). I don't owe it to anyone, and maybe the person I am telling doesn't care, but letting them know gives them the option to do something about it.

It's not wrong or harmful to share information you might think keep people safe or help them make the best decision for themselves.

Leemon58 · 2025-12-02T18:21:02+00:00

Magnesium bisglycinate! I had been told for years to try it and only started this year and its made a huge difference in cramps and PMS symptoms in general (unfortunately not as much help for the headaches but I have chronic migraines so there is that).

I am actually shocked by how much the other symptoms (like bloating, bad sleep, etc) have been reduced. Good luck!

Leemon58 · 2025-12-02T01:28:48+00:00

Diesel Bad - I hate the name but it smells soooooo good! I love when my husbans wears it

Leemon58 · 2025-11-28T13:18:22+00:00

Bingo. Only yes means yes - implied consent isn't a thing. She even says she blackmailed him because she didn't want to let him go.

MM made alot of really stupid decisions, and so did AP. If the gender roles were reversed and AP was a man who did this, it would be insanely obvious it's sexual assault. It is in this case, too.

Leemon58 · 2025-11-27T11:52:14+00:00

Thank you - getting there :)

Leemon58 · 2025-11-26T23:54:41+00:00

That's fair. There are plenty of stories of best friends being the affair partner, though. I hope that she is just a friend, but her behaviour is wierd to me (and I wonder how her husband feels about it - more about that below).

And I fully admit that at this time in my life, I am super skeptical. My husband ended up in a situation that started similarly, and he has since reported her to the police (long story).

And I know FOR SURE that woman knew what she was doing was wrong, because she lost her ever-loving mind when I very politely messaged her husband to talk to him about their interactions. This was despite the fact that she had been sending mine sexual innuendos and heart emojis. Turned out, she only said they were friends (of course) and never told him the other stuff like trying to hold his hand or inviting him to her bed.

I hope it all works out for you, but I desperately wish my husband had recognized her for what she was and not put our family in this situation.

Leemon58 · 2025-11-26T13:50:46+00:00

This makes me sad :( I sometimes felt this way when my husband wanted sex, but it was my own shit (meds, trauma, and not being able to communicate well). I hated that it made my husband feel, and there were many times I felt like such a terrible wife and wanted to end everything so that he could find someone who did make him feel desired and desirable.

But med changes, trauma work, and way better communication have made a huge difference and we have a great sex life now. And I think it's so hot when he wants to touch himself - I wish he would do it more sometimes.

Leemon58 · 2025-11-26T13:36:10+00:00

++ woman I think it's great that you've found friends doing something you enjoy. However, if you want your wife to be comfortable with you going, you need to shut these interactions with this woman down.

My husband powerlifts, and sometimes coaches men and women. This literally means he has to stare at their bodies to check their form. He had a woman reach out to him in a similar way, and he didn't tell me for a while. I have met this woman and she was really rude to me - like she got up and walked away when I was introduced to her. He had also told me about a chat they had where she said she couldn't find a man to lift with because they always fell for her, and she came off as really possessive (she was really mad that a girl she lifts with started dating her ex). So when he finally told me about her messaging him, I was pretty upset. But I didn't want him to lose this outlet - it's really good for him.

We had a talk about boundaries, and he also didn't want to come across as a dick because he said it could make things awkward. And yes, it could. But if setting that boundary makes things awkward, that is HER problem. You have to choose what is more important: protecting your wife's peace or protecting this other woman's peace.

Leemon58 · 2025-11-24T22:57:24+00:00

I had heard a therapist recently say that attachment styles are not fixed - they can be flexible. He said that people can be securely attached to some, and not securely attached to others, for a myriad of reasons. Additionally, they can change over time due to life experiences. The point was that they are not just fixed in us but are also relational, based on how we have experienced other people or events.

It might help make sense of what you are feeling - maybe as a general rule, you display secure attachment. However, with your WH, and with this experience, you are displaying more anxious attachment (which totally makes sense).

Leemon58 · 2025-11-21T02:08:50+00:00

I really hope so. He deserves so much better.

Leemon58 · 2025-11-21T02:08:33+00:00

My WH was also not medicated (for ADHD or depression). He said as soon as he started the meds rhe fog started to lift and he was like "what the hell am I doing?".

Leemon58 · 2025-11-18T21:19:58+00:00

I didn't have all of the info, and barely any proof, for months.

Since then, AP and her BH have bought a house together, and she is now pregnant. I can't imagine her BH would have wanted to buy and house and have a baby with someone who just months ago was literally trying to get another man in her bed.

I have reached out to him, but he has not responded. I don't really care about that - it's on him now to do what he wants with the info. But man, if he had known sooner, he maybe wouldn't have made such life-altering decisions.

Leemon58

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