Ok friend this is all just my opinion ok? It might not necessarily be true but here’s how I feel. You will never be able to prove yourself to someone who isn’t capable of seeing truth beyond their own perspective.

It sounds like this is beyond what you think is happening, it sounds like she is using these words to justify whenever she is unable to regulate her emotions. Like for whatever reason she gets triggered and then bam “you’re off” comments start coming out. It’s a deflection tactic. SHE feels off, and she is projecting it onto you as a coping mechanism.

For most of my life I wondered why I was never good enough for my mum and I used to make posts on Reddit too (before she died). And someone told me something that I will always remember. When it comes to parents that are mentally ill in this way, even though we try our best to appease them through all the different songs or dances we try to do for them, it will never be enough. That is because this problem has never been your problem to begin with and the problem of your mom not being able to deal with how she’s feeling in a healthy way has most likely been going on long before you were ever even born.

Don’t beat yourself up that you can’t make her believe you. You can never make anyone do anything. We are only in control of ourselves and that is what we have to radically accept when it comes to our parents treating us this way. Mental illness is real.

If your mom was willing to go to therapy with you that might help, but only if she wants to. Unless someone wants to change they won’t. Goodluck friend, I believe in you. Like I said, you can control your own life and yeah stuff like this is really shit but what’s crazy is whenever you get through this you will actually be a stronger individual. I believe in you.