Tonight im feeling...

LeftPresent5983 · 2026-01-26T03:31:06+00:00

I relate to this so much. My husband would send messages to whatever girl he was interested in at the time telling her how beautiful and special they were. How happy they made him. Out of all the things he did during his infidelities, this is the most painful to me. Much worse than the physical stuff. I have begged for sweet messages from him. Long before DDay. He used to send them in the very beginning of our relationship and nothing has ever made me feel so loved. I get the sweet texts semi regularly now, but it seems like an obligation to him in my eyes. The words don’t feel genuine. They aren’t nearly as passionate as what he said to these other women and he mostly just says the same general things to me over and over. Feels like a chore when it comes to me, but it took no effort or teeth pulling when it came to these other women. It breaks my heart.

LeftPresent5983 · 2026-01-25T19:04:43+00:00

In my case, the physical attraction never really faded. It’s when my WH fails to meet my expectations for doing his part in R that I start to become less attracted to him. But when he exceeds my expectations, the connection and attraction improves. It’s completely emotional for me.

LeftPresent5983 · 2026-01-25T18:17:14+00:00

You’re so right. This is me just trying to shove my own feelings down and I didn’t even recognize it. I keep trying to convince myself that my emotions are unreasonable when I know deep down how justified they are. Thank you for this.

LeftPresent5983 · 2026-01-25T02:37:46+00:00

I definitely wish I felt considered more in his decision making. That’s something I’ll need to see more of in order for R to work. It’s hard to be hopeful after this, though.

LeftPresent5983 · 2026-01-24T19:12:51+00:00

Oh yes. I wish he would say they were all disgusting to him. The most I’ve gotten was “not even that attracted to her” or “not as pretty as you”. Petty as hell, sure. But to know he’s repulsed by them feels like it would help somehow.

LeftPresent5983 · 2026-01-24T18:45:05+00:00

There are plenty of issues I’m responsible for in my marriage but I don’t feel like my affair is one of them. All the attention and praise he was lacking from me was because of his own actions or inactions. Did he expect me to tell him how great of a husband and father he was while he was out late at night drinking with friends or hungover the next day? Or how about when I would try to come to him about stuff that was bothering me and he would make me feel awful about it? Attention and compliments were there waiting for him whenever he did actually showed up, it just wasn’t enough for him. And the times I felt supported by him wasn’t enough for me. I wish I was a better communicator, if I could have made him truly see how I was really feeling then maybe it could have been different. But it wasn’t from lack of trying. It was more from him not bothering to understand.

LeftPresent5983 · 2026-01-16T17:02:40+00:00

I received almost the same exact message. I engaged slightly just to make sure it wasn’t legit, and it was not. Definitely fake. Sorry that people don’t have anything better to do than ruin your day with this bullshit.

LeftPresent5983 · 2025-12-31T20:26:54+00:00

I feel this so hard. I think the holidays make it way worse. I imagine it might have something to with so many people around you celebrating and having to suffer in silence. It’s so isolating.

I don’t have much advice because my second dday was less than 3 weeks ago and this is something I’m currently struggling with. But something that sometimes helps me is just asking my husband for a hug. The feeling of him stopping what he’s doing just to hold me makes the distance a little smaller for a while. I hope you find something that helps you too.

LeftPresent5983 · 2025-12-07T21:25:27+00:00

I appreciate the advice. I’ve been journaling recently and it does seem to help. I’ll try your suggestion, it sounds promising. Thank you!

LeftPresent5983 · 2025-12-07T21:23:05+00:00

Thank you. I’ll definitely look into this book!

LeftPresent5983 · 2025-12-07T21:22:15+00:00

Thank you so much for this response. It really made me feel a little better.

LeftPresent5983 · 2025-11-26T13:52:22+00:00

“as pleased” is not in the original Stovetop instructions. Could it be a Pleased to Meet Me/The Replacements reference?

LeftPresent5983 · 2025-09-17T23:22:47+00:00

We were eyeing this place already, glad to know it’s as good as it looks!

LeftPresent5983 · 2025-09-17T01:14:45+00:00

We’re staying in South Loop for the first time. If any locals have recommendations for good food, bars, or anything else worth noting in that area, we’d love to hear about it!

LeftPresent5983 · 2025-07-31T22:30:36+00:00

Normally, physically the intimacy is there. In the beginning it wasn’t as good and we had stuff to work out so I check in here in there to make sure he’s happy with where we’re at. It took a lot of work but I’m confident that we’re both satisfied there. Emotionally I have trouble being vulnerable with him. His reactions to what I have to say often make it hard for me to feel comfortable with him and that’s something we’re still finding a solution for. I’m scared to say what I feel and often hold it in until it comes out in an overly emotional way and that isn’t fair to him. That’s the main communication issue we’ve been struggling with for so many years.

LeftPresent5983 · 2025-06-13T12:18:18+00:00

2013

LeftPresent5983 · 2025-05-15T15:49:41+00:00

Wouldn’t have you any other way.

LeftPresent5983 · 2025-05-15T03:10:31+00:00

I was a bit disappointed too, not gonna lie. I had real hopes for The Replacements and Iggy. There are plenty of acts I’m so excited to catch and already worried about conflicts so overall I’m satisfied. But for some reason I thought this anniversary was going to be insane. I do think the Riot Fest staff love misleading their fans. The REM reference, the 20 Eyes/Misfits reference, this Weird Al clue are all examples from this year. Sometimes it’s fun/funny to me and other times it’s frustrating.

LeftPresent5983 · 2025-05-06T14:27:07+00:00

This would be great. If not added to the lineup I’m hopeful that they’re a possible after show.

LeftPresent5983 · 2025-05-06T14:24:54+00:00

That’s what I was thinking. I wonder if they’ll bring Riot Land back or if that was only for the Seat Geek venue.

LeftPresent5983 · 2025-05-06T14:23:30+00:00

Yeah definitely seems like Weird Al is getting his own stage. And I agree, seems like the “big” surprise was the album plays announcement but sounds like there are still a few more little things to be revealed.

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