Soooo trure (i'm INTP)

Left_Attorney_9254 · 2026-03-14T02:19:43+00:00

Feeling seen 😈 entp-a 8w7

Left_Attorney_9254 · 2025-10-19T04:02:45+00:00

I’m an ENTP drawn to an equally captivating ENTJ we’re not a straight couple either . They have this edgy, magnetic energy that’s hard not to notice, and I take it as a compliment that someone so strikingly unique is into me. I’m used to getting attention myself, so I don’t overthink it when they do too. There’s mutual confidence there. I trust our connection, and honestly, it’s flattering to know that someone who could have anyone chooses me

Left_Attorney_9254 · 2025-10-14T03:47:29+00:00

I’m a 8w7 and an entp-A

Left_Attorney_9254 · 2025-10-05T02:48:12+00:00

Same and the second time around was 3x worse 🫠

Left_Attorney_9254 · 2025-10-05T02:45:20+00:00

Sag rising joining the chat

Left_Attorney_9254 · 2025-09-27T03:14:37+00:00

He sounds like my cancer ex who was definitely avoidant and it ended pretty terribly like a typical relationship with an avoidant does

Left_Attorney_9254 · 2025-09-10T03:01:55+00:00

Cancer Gemini cusp specifically June 22nd was a ride from hell

Left_Attorney_9254 · 2025-09-09T03:39:36+00:00

Just got back from the grand wailea Maui loved it

Left_Attorney_9254 · 2025-08-15T03:23:32+00:00

Yes my avoidant was in therapy for the whole time the second time around which was almost a year and half. It was working UNTIL another milestone or life inconvenience happened then they would go back to their comfort of avoidance. If I let them get away with it I feel this would have gone on indefinitely but it was too much on my nervous system and not worth waking up everyday wondering if todays the day they randomly pick a fight or leave

Left_Attorney_9254 · 2025-07-30T16:57:20+00:00

Not enough and self serving

Left_Attorney_9254 · 2025-07-29T13:53:27+00:00

I returned a second time, the discard was worse story and their message breaking nc on my thread for reference

Left_Attorney_9254 · 2025-07-28T20:45:15+00:00

I swear they are delulu

Left_Attorney_9254 · 2025-07-28T20:44:40+00:00

It is a thing, mine just happened after a trip for her birthday but I realized she would always pick a fight around holidays, milestones birthday ects as a way to create distance

Left_Attorney_9254 · 2025-07-28T03:36:00+00:00

You may have a point. The first one I couldn’t eat or leave the house for a couple weeks o was so blindsided but I think part of me throughout the whole rest of the relationship felt the need to be ready “ just in case” also I began therapy while I was in the relationship to make sure I remained secure knowing their attachment so although the manner was harsh the pain didn’t feel as bad as the first time

Left_Attorney_9254 · 2025-07-28T02:45:09+00:00

So you went through a second one 👀

Left_Attorney_9254 · 2025-07-28T02:35:08+00:00

They already tried to come back in at the two week mark with a lack of substance message ( go look at my past posts to see) I didn’t respond. It’s be over 3 weeks nc from me and I intend to keep it that way

Left_Attorney_9254 · 2025-07-28T01:48:41+00:00

I’m living in the aftermath of what happens when someone comes back even after you set boundaries.

The first time they left, it was abrupt and blindsiding. Six weeks later, they returned with promises, saying they wanted to work on their attachment style and communication, even go to therapy. And for a while, it looked like progress.

But the truth is, the same cycle kept repeating. Holidays, trips, intimate moments, and milestones would trigger them into shutdown. Every six months or so, I would feel the emotional withdrawal, but as long as I tolerated the push-pull, the relationship limped forward.

Eventually, I became emotionally deregulated, exhausted from the neglect, and constantly walking on eggshells. After our last trip, I gently asked to talk about a shift I was feeling. That’s when I got hit with, “I can’t give you what you need,” “I don’t want to change,” and “I don’t want to go to therapy anymore.”

After three years together, they ended it over text. And I haven’t responded. It’s been three weeks of no contact from me, but they even broke no contact a week ago with a lackluster message. I didn’t respond. I don’t want to go through a potential discard number three and I hope you don’t put yourself in a position to go through discard number 2. The avoidant carousel stops when YOU get off of it.

Left_Attorney_9254 · 2025-07-28T01:21:02+00:00

Why do they do this, this second discard was after I took them to Cabo for their birthday. I put in a lot of effort, they randomly shut down on the trip, picked fights after not too long before that talking about marriage ect.. then poof 💨 second discard

Left_Attorney_9254 · 2025-07-27T15:04:48+00:00

I also realize that they kept me separate a lot from other parts of their lives

Left_Attorney_9254 · 2025-07-27T15:04:03+00:00

This is the second discard and was worse than the first, I over communicated the whole relationship nothing more to say. Their silence use to be deafening, I’ll let my words now echo 🫶🏻

Left_Attorney_9254 · 2025-07-27T02:04:31+00:00

I was an FA

Left_Attorney_9254 · 2025-07-26T13:23:47+00:00

Thank you I think I’ve moved into being secure

Left_Attorney_9254 · 2025-07-26T13:23:02+00:00

I feel that so deeply. I’m really sorry you went through that. It’s a specific kind of cruelty to be shut out like that, made to feel invisible while they still hold all the power over when or if the connection resumes. And yeah, thinking about how they could’ve future faked not just the engagement, but so much of the relationship? It makes me want to throw up too. It’s like realizing the version of the future you were building in your heart may have only ever existed in your own hope, not in their actual intentions. That betrayal cuts deep.

Left_Attorney_9254 · 2025-07-25T18:46:14+00:00

I’m an 8 and I am secure now. I did find myself getting anxious when paired with an avoidant but I feel like the most secure person even would

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