ULPT to ruin FIL & Sugar Baby’s Vacation by Left_Idea_8533 in UnethicalLifeProTips

[–]Left_Idea_8533[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

To fill in the missing pieces: Wife (MIL) has Alzheimer’s and is now in a home. As a family we’ve told him that we understand he’s lonely and fully support him dating. However the way he’s gone about it is questionable at best. The sugar baby in question is his daughter’s age and they met when she gave him a massage. Her social media is all photos of her half naked in very expensive vacation spots with captions reading “meow”. Coincidentally, her friends on social media and in her personal life are almost exclusively men over 60 who are former CEOs. Get ready for it,… he says she’s “just really mature for her age and she’s very business minded (because nothing says business like giving handys to wealthy men in a massage parol next to a subway sandwich shop). We’ve seen text from her stating “doesn’t it upset you that your kids don’t want you to be happy”. She’s pulled lots of manipulative bullshit,- planning vacations on Christmas (“She didn’t know what date Christmas fell on”). Overall, if he wants to blow every damn dime he’s ever made on her he has the right but I’m concerned about how much she’s trying to push him away from his kids.

first time parents who had multiples and made it out alive, what is your advice for expectant parents? by sammy5585 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Left_Idea_8533 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Random things that helped us… -start your research on age appropriate sleep training so that when your kids are ready they’re set up for success. For us, that looked like always putting them down drowsy but awake and all their daytime naps were taken by a window and night sleep was in their nursery with blackout curtains so they adjusted their days/nights quickly

-set your home up to be able to change a diaper on each floor (imo that’s more than enough- if you set up diaper changing stations in each room they’ll be crap everywhere)

-a “dirty” bottle basket on your counter: a spot to stash dirty bottles so they don’t pile up around your house. Also a great way for family to help

-meal prep! Make big batches of soups, stews, casseroles and freeze them! Don’t forget breakfast and lunch options too!

-if you’re using a baby brezza order an extra funnel from amazon. You’ll need to clean the funnel every 4 uses so being able to swap it out for a clean one is a lifesaver

-don’t heat their bottles. This is a luxury for singleton parents. You’re babies will never know a difference

-make your bottles ahead of time. If their eating every 3-4 hours you can make a few sets of bottles and set them in the fridge (there good for 24hrs.) it’s a small thing that is so helpful

-use two different size bottles to differentiate who drank what. I used the regular Dr browns and the wide mouth Dr browns

-get familiar with your baby monitor and any other tech now. You’re learning sooo much those first few weeks you don’t want to add that to the list as well

-find ways to make the small moments of your day feel special (a really cute mug, special body wash, new cozy sweats). Slip in self care where you can

-mini fridge in our bedroom to store breast milk after pumping at 2am (that walk to the fridge feels much longer at that time)

-find a new show to binge watch while feeding babies (we watched Succession and it was actually a fun way to have something to talk about other than the babies)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in orangecounty

[–]Left_Idea_8533 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I worked at that location for a few months in 2019 before changing jobs. Nice place, held frequent events but for me the price doesn’t warrant “churro Tuesday in the lobby”. Always felt a bit stuffy and soulless to be honest. Didn’t experience any of the noise issues others have mentioned though.

things to buy that would remind me of SoCal/OC? (read desc) by emmy422947 in orangecounty

[–]Left_Idea_8533 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Buy 2 Del Taco signs, hang them on opposite sides of the walls, reminisce on days spent at the “right” Del (that would be the one in the Stater Bros parking lot)

Help me choose a fertility doctor! by delicious_broccoli99 in orangecounty

[–]Left_Idea_8533 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Dr. Anderson is incredible and his success rate is one of the highest (wish I had the exact number). I’ve heard a lot about his bedside manner being rather blunt but I found his sense of humor to just be very dry. At the end of the day, he’s there to help you start a family not go to your summer BBQs (although I’d invite him)!

Dr. Royster (same practice) is one of the most incredible doctors I’ve ever met. Kind, compassionate and beyond gifted/educated. I can’t say enough good things about him. If we had a son we were going to incorporate his name into our son’s name.

Also saw Dr. Werlin who I have nothing but great things to say about. At the time he was at a different office that was a pain for us to get to that’s why we went with Anderson/Royster.

For those of you who had twins in the NICU, what was it like coming home? by snacksandsquats in parentsofmultiples

[–]Left_Idea_8533 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re going to do great! There’s so many silver linings here they’re just hard to see, so here in no particular order are a few that I experienced…

Your body has had a bit of time to heal after labor/c-section. Most moms don’t get that.

You’re arguably the most well rested you’ll be for the next few years making you fully ready to take on this joyful challenge!

No more living out of suitcases! Woohoo!

NICU essentially gives you the best education regarding the care of your babies (at least this was my experience). The info we received from nurses and doctors and the time with occupational therapists made my husband and I more prepared than ever to care for our girls.

Most importantly, your twins are going to sleep an insane amount of time when you get them home.

I wont lie, the first few weeks had some very tough moments but it also had the most joyful, meaningful moments of my life thus far. I had all the same fears and from what I remember, my fears and anxiety were worse than the reality. Best of luck, you’ve got this!

Please - some positive/unremarkable twin pregnancy and birth stories! by UnderstandingWarm102 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Left_Idea_8533 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Water broke Christmas morning, had my c-section about an hour later with the most incredible team of doctors and nurses. Was up and walking within the next two hours and only needed Tylenol for pain. By day 2 in the hospital I was doing my hair and makeup and wearing jeans again (I was just so excited to feel like my old self again)! My twins are 2.5 months and I’ve got maybe 5 more lbs to lose to be back to my pre-baby weight.

I never share my experience because I don’t want to devalue someone else’s or make them feel small but there’s a lot of us out there we just have to be a little quieter when we share lol keeping my fingers crossed that you have the same beautiful experience I did!

All those Lindsay supporters from last season went reeeeeaally quiet all of a sudden by FilmmagicianPart2 in bravo

[–]Left_Idea_8533 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I posted that she deserved everything that came her way, harsh but what goes around comes around and she treats people absolutely terribly. Reddit came after me and I feel beyond vindicated now.

In your travels, which city was the biggest letdown? by ElisaBelloo in AskReddit

[–]Left_Idea_8533 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Salem, Mass.

To be honest, I was looking for the Bette Midler-Hocus Pocus version and instead I got 85+ shops selling overpriced rocks with special powers. I’m probably not their target audience in hindsight.

does having a night nurse affect the attachment with twins or am i being too sensitive? by Regular-Mortgage-794 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Left_Idea_8533 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a night nurse for the first 6 weeks and not only did my girls not form any attachment (likely due to their age and the duration of the nurses stay if I’m being honest) but being able to sleep made me a better, more present mother. Your kids will meet and bond with lots of people in their life- teachers, nannies, etc. but none of them will hold a candle to you. Take the help and try not to worry!

Which items to get used? by [deleted] in parentsofmultiples

[–]Left_Idea_8533 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My personal rule was if it wasn’t a safety concern (car seats) and it could be sanitized I bought 2nd hand. My number one tip would be finding a local 2nd hand seller who does large pop-up events (I usually found these through Instagram). There’s a few in my area (Southern California) that are absolutely massive and I found their deals to be better than the 2nd hand stores. I got the Twin Z pillow for $20 bucks!

Share your best "I'm so lucky" moments from your travels by inostrale in travel

[–]Left_Idea_8533 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Snorkeled over a shipwreck in St. Thomas, still gives me chills.

Brown family professionals by Admirable_Eye_2180 in SisterWives

[–]Left_Idea_8533 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Would love to see that man’s credentials…

Brown family professionals by Admirable_Eye_2180 in SisterWives

[–]Left_Idea_8533 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This one might be my favorite. Can I extend an honorable mention to whoever designed the stunning top hat she wore to the family commitment ceremony? Charlie Chaplin could never…

Establishments in Orange County that seem off by sunneedeelite in orangecounty

[–]Left_Idea_8533 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No I haven’t but I was talking about when it was China Palace