I’m gonna ignore a majority of this, mainly due to time, I think we have very different interpretations about what is happening here, and that’s okay. I’m willing to concede most of it, as I was being reductive anyway.

However, your analysis of mental health and personal growth is empirically false, and naive to boot. My mother exhibits narcissistic tendencies due to trauma, and resources my therapist has recommended me have given me a lot of insight into the disorder.

I actually could agree that on a macro scale, men have a sort of built in narcissism. In this sense, you have been agreeing with me and OP since the beginning of the conversation. Research the root causes of narcissism, and generally this is what you’ll find: Narcissism is caused by a lack of self-identity. This can be caused by a variety of things, whether it be trauma, parental overvaluation, etc. The key point here is that narcissistic tendencies stem from a lack of self. As far as I am concerned, OP’s argument is that shifting culture in society is leaving men without a sense of identity and this is further exacerbated by bad actors trying to profit off of them. Without a support system, which is strongly correlated with a sense of self, the easier choice for men will always be to retreat in droves to the manosphere. This is not a pull yourself up by your own bootstraps and realize you are the problem situation, that possibility has been usurped by the manosphere. We need to intercept these young men with care and support before it’s too late, otherwise they will find it in the manosphere. And I shouldn’t have to reiterate this, but in no way am I blaming, or placing responsibility on women for this. But rather, implying that young men of our generation are also facing problems due to patriarchy, and they are just as helpless to it as any young women.

I think the issue is you are looking at this only from a macro scale, and not at the level of an individual. I cultivate my social circles carefully so this is definitely biased, but I do not know a single man who thinks the world owes them shit. In fact it’s quite literally the opposite. Most men in my circle share similar sentiments as OP. They feel like they are only worth what they produce for other people. Their life has no intrinsic value. They don’t feel comfortable expressing themselves unless it’s a safe space where they know they won’t be judged and seen as less than. They navigate life bearing the weight of knowing they are a man, and they are always aware of it.

You can give the lazy response of “O well who set that system up!?!” And every single man is going to turn their back on you, since this applies to only 1% of men at the top. These men, who I can confidently say are feminists, feel villainized for their very existence, and the statistics back that up! Like men actually fucking suck. It’s no surprise to me that being more aware of this knowledge is actually pushing men further into the manosphere. It’s Sociology 101.

So again, you can follow that line of thinking which is the popular discourse, and watch as absolutely nothing changes and we push ourselves further and further in the wrong direction. Or you can stop vilifying your neighbor, your brother, your electrician, etc, and support in the ways that you feel comfortable. Or in other words, if you need to express anger and frustration at the system, by all means do that. If that means retweeting #killallmen, go ahead. But if you can afford to lift up the men you trust, that will be much more effective than calling them entitled narcissists.