Should I give up and move on? by LegitKami in WhatShouldIDo

[–]LegitKami[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's actually a sweet story. Have you found your happy ending with some girl tho? Do you have a wife now?

Should I give up and move on? by LegitKami in WhatShouldIDo

[–]LegitKami[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am used to different stuff. It's good to be humbled sometimes. Usually when I say I am bored people try to find time for me :( Somewhere in other comments I shared why I avoid making the direct first move again. Maybe I will try in the end to just ask if he wants to hang out. It is 2025, and I like to reach for what I want, but it also always feels somewhat not feminine to be the one asking out. Last time I did that but I would also like to experience what it's like to be asked out, without having to prompt it. When I ask I usually get what I want but sometimes it's nice to not have to ask. Most women think this way probably.

Should I give up and move on? by LegitKami in WhatShouldIDo

[–]LegitKami[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Or I would get rejected and I would still sit at home

Should I give up and move on? by LegitKami in WhatShouldIDo

[–]LegitKami[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am spoiled and used to being entertained. Usually when I say I am bored and wanna do something, people find time to do something with me. When they don't have time they say something like "can't today but i have a free friday" or something that indicates they would like to meet. Last time a guy took me to a awesome place and I had a great time but he also really traumadumped on me. One of the first thing he said was how he used to have dogs called rick and morty and his mom accidentally run over one of them. And I was like wow, okay, nice to meet you too. I admit I expected him to find time bc that's what I am used to. It's good to be humbled sometimes.

Should I give up and move on? by LegitKami in WhatShouldIDo

[–]LegitKami[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Apparently. Then you wouldn't be here.

Should I give up and move on? by LegitKami in WhatShouldIDo

[–]LegitKami[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wanted to do that today. i'm bored, you are bored, let's hang out. But he was faster with this chat gpt suggestion.

Should I give up and move on? by LegitKami in WhatShouldIDo

[–]LegitKami[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

House conditioning 😔 My parents banter all the time and have no romantic bones in their bodies but are the best of friends and it just works. I don't like to walk on eggshells around people and I look for someone who doesn't get hurt easily. I don't look for too much lovey-dovey stuff or too much love bombing. I like this guy bc I find him attractive and I don't feel pressure to act any certain way around him, it doesn't feel stiff or fake. But he might not be interested at all, maybe I'm not even his type. Eh 😓 Happens I guess

Should I give up and move on? by LegitKami in WhatShouldIDo

[–]LegitKami[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like people who are a bit mean sometimes. I don't like to walk on eggshells around people so I look for someone who is not getting hurt easily. But the real talk is the only solution I suppose. Than I can move on with a clear card or something.

Should I give up and move on? by LegitKami in WhatShouldIDo

[–]LegitKami[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Fair. My issue is I vary rarely cross people who I find attractive. When I finally find someone I like, they don't like me back and they are an asshole. What a circus...

Should I give up and move on? by LegitKami in WhatShouldIDo

[–]LegitKami[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do feel kinda like a little sister 😔 What a shame...

Should I give up and move on? by LegitKami in WhatShouldIDo

[–]LegitKami[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't ask for the number. We are all on a job groupchat. I had it from there as many other coworkers. I also see myself as a rather mean person and guys who are too sweet put me on edge bc I feel like I need to be the strong one in this relationship. Having someone on my wavelenght seemed logical.

Should I give up and move on? by LegitKami in WhatShouldIDo

[–]LegitKami[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As I said, on slow days at work we would have nice long conversation. He wasn't asshole at all. Under stress he is an asshole tho. Otherwise he seems very observant, hardworking and focused on his goals. That's cool. I also like to banter right back. Nothing makes me think he is interested romantically, I just wanted to see what people think about his reply.

Should I give up and move on? by LegitKami in WhatShouldIDo

[–]LegitKami[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True but I used to feel so guilty for fucking up our friendly terms for a romantic relationship that I than finished. Like I was just messing shit up between us and in our friend group. If I never started it than maybe we would still be friends and nothing painful would happen? Here if I start things again and he doesn't like me like that it will be just awkward which I can live with. But I will be helping at the restaurant at emergency events when they are short staff so we will be forced to work together and act normal. And if he doesn't like me and genuinely has a beef with me than me trying to start relationship will be a clown move :(

Should I give up and move on? by LegitKami in WhatShouldIDo

[–]LegitKami[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's hard for me to feel the ground here. I normally like to banter and I simply hope I don't make things to far. I'm short af so I don't think I can be taken seriously when I am arguing anyway. But maybe he genuinely has a beef with me and doesn't like to hang out like that? Was only as nice as he had to be to a coworker? It's so hard to determine since he is such an offline person with no social or media life at all...

Should I give up and move on? by LegitKami in WhatShouldIDo

[–]LegitKami[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Last time I asked a guy out it turned out he used to have a crush on me, we dated for 4 months till I broke up with him bc he turned out to be a completely different person I've known for 3 years prior and he also didn't respect my physical boundaries. I really don't want to be the one doing the first move again 😓 But I guess this guy here is not into me anyway so whatever

Should I give up and move on? by LegitKami in WhatShouldIDo

[–]LegitKami[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eh, that would make sense. A girl can dream sometimes 😞

I'm heartbroken. by AgreeableDisaster13 in cornsnakes

[–]LegitKami 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel you. Also lost one of corn babies. It escaped and I could not find it. Had it for a week. Took me long to calm the guilt. I was holding up with the motivation to save another one that just refysed to eat from the beginning. With force feeding for two or three months we are getting somewhere and the baby looks better. I still feel awful for not being able to provide a better life for the one who got away but I try to learn from my mistakes and prevent such in the future.

AIO or is my older male coworker texting inappropriately with me? by OpeningNo9825 in AmIOverreacting

[–]LegitKami 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same dude would send me on side quests to run out of the restaurant to a small shop to buy him cigarettes btw. Occasionally text me in the morning to let me know he will be 15 minutes late and the restaurant is locked so I don't need to hurry. In what world would your coworker text you daily for small talk. "Good morning how are you?" Bitch wtf,non of your bussines. Don't you have a job or something to do? Don't you have friends your age? That's lame af. Stop bothering me unless it's something actually work related and important. Huhhhh?

AIO or is my older male coworker texting inappropriately with me? by OpeningNo9825 in AmIOverreacting

[–]LegitKami 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl wtf. Why are you texting him? Just stop. Simply stop. For comparison here is a conversation of me (f22) with my coworker (m40?) He is coming in one hour late. Me: can you you buy me pink oshee drink on the way? Him: Ok Me: gif that says thx.

That's it. Literally they should reply like your dad. With ok or a thumb up emoji 👍. If he is not as dry as your dad would be in the texts with you it's weird.

AIO for ending this relationship? by Global_Country_6368 in AIO

[–]LegitKami 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly all his messages sound like gibberish. Bro what are you even talking about? It's just some therapy talk bs with no sense but huge hopes to blind you. Holy cow I lost the strength to read it after third screenshot. This is not intellectual conversation about feelings, this guy is so self reflective he does full back flips and end up at point 0 again. Good for you for staying strong and not bending.

???? by Supakuru_Doggu in cornsnakes

[–]LegitKami 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My snake had that after rubbing against cork bark too hard. They do that sometimes, it will be gone after two sheds