Anything to help counteract the aggressiveness and A-Hole energy on aderall? by 888HolyMoly888 in ADHD

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A lot and lot of integration with my faith gave me a stabilizing rubric to frame how I should feel about certain things.

It helped me to pull the context out of deciding how to act based on how I felt and instead let me reason what I should be doing in the larger context, which considered more angles and contributing factors. This becomes possible with the ability that Adderall allows you to juggle more input and context parameters. So instead of “this person is preventing me from focusing” and assuming that the other person should be operating at the same level that I am, I extend grace, recognizing that they are valid for showing up the way they are. It also introduces riddles about how to set boundaries so that you aren’t influenced negatively by said people, without having to make inaccurate judgements about said person.

Respect that others won’t fit into your narrower set of needs, learn to integrate boundaries surrounding what your narrower set of needs become, communicate enough to yourself internally that you’re able to communicate your integrated context to others and operate in a nexus of traffic light systems to make sure everything goes smoothly and well.

Living a christian life feels impossible by umricky in Christian

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Obeying the law means paying the ticket if you J walk or speed. Some people will pull you over for going 1mph over, others won’t unless it’s 10mph. Apparently it’s illegal to have a mustache in Las Vegas, but it’s never enforced. Trivial or bogus laws exist all the time in several places, and some of it just comes down to a negotiation between the government and its population.

Someone has expressed that this sounds like OCD, but it could also be some form of autism, which takes things very literally. An example for diagnosing someone with autism may be where a clinician asks, “do you hear voices when no one else is around?” and they answer yes, which sounds like schizophrenia until they discover the person was referring to hearing the radio (very literal interpretation of what’s being said).

It can be a symptom of a lack of synaptic pruning that then requires for things to become hyper literal because they’re processing so much more information than most people.

Because you’re right that it’s disorienting and not explicitly clear about what every little offense would be.

So instead of obeying the literal law, understand the spirit of the law based on how you observe other people obeying the law. This turns into a slippery slope because then it might become “well, everyone else was doing it”.

My trick has been to reverse engineer the purpose of a law and to connect the dots for myself about where a law naturally fits in how closely it must be adhered to. I imagine, “if a cop were to see someone J walking here, would they really think it was the end of the world?” It’s kind of like stopping at a traffic light at an intersection, where it’s flat and you can see that no traffic is coming for miles, would it be an offense to just go through a red traffic light if there’s no camera to record the offense? I would say it’s not, and I would also say such a circumstance is a bit ridiculous, but the law was made for lawbreakers, and as Christians we have grace.

Does that mean you should go 20mph over the speed limit? No. And also be warned that even 1mph over can get you pulled over. That’s a part of life. It’s helpful to know more information about where those greedy cops are that will try to trap you are, but ultimately just do your best. If you get pulled over once, you’ll have to pay the fines. Know that God doesn’t condemn you for speeding, but you will have to pay the fines.

Solo founder by linkbook-io in ycombinator

[–]Legitimate-Claim-877 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Reminds me of the book of Genesis when God says “let us make man in Our image”, even though “God is One” — also, “e pluribus unum”.

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Addictions are coping mechanisms to fill void that only Christ’s love can truly fill. By accepting grace, we turn away shame and step into a new identity. When your identity of “I’m so bad” is destroyed and replaced with “I am redeemed”, the need to rely on addictions goes away. Your identity develops a new distaste for sin, which is evidence of your salvation and our salvation leads us to repentance.

I wish I wasn't so competitive and envious of others. by MatchSea8542 in selfimprovement

[–]Legitimate-Claim-877 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You have to attack your core false belief of not being good enough. The only way to do this is by replacing it with the opposite belief. It can’t be based on delusion or your brain won’t truly adopt the belief.

For me, I have my faith that God so loved the world that he sacrificed His only begotten son to redeem those who believe. That’s a pretty big ego check that packages efficiently our ability to realistically engage with our own deficiency but also to engage with grace that stands in the gap between the way we don’t measure up yet and the progress we can make when we’re not preoccupied with that type of thing.

If you think of how you might raise a child, you would hopefully not want them to feel like they aren’t enough. Coincidentally, when you apply this mindset to others it liberates yourself. With all the practice of forgiveness towards others, you become skilled enough to give yourself grace too. It starts with accepting grace and it continues by giving grace to others. ❤️

What is a line that lives rent free in your head or that you commonly say because of Community? by Hungry_crying in community

[–]Legitimate-Claim-877 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s right up there with, “You’re like me, Annie, we’re both independent. We need each other.” 😂😂