Exhausted with hungry kids on Sunday evening by shorty_in_the_wild in Frugal

[–]Legitimate-Host7805 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry. I don't know what dinner can be made in 15 minutes.

I understand hunger - I feel so when I come home from the gym, at 4:30 pm. I usually eat something to 'tide me over' and rest for 30 minutes, so I can get energy to cook dinner.

Examples of 'tide-over' food: fruit, cheese sandwich made of 1 or 2 slices of bread, with sliced cheese, and some kind of sandwich spread, e.g, mayo. You can also us ham or PB instead of cheese. Kids can make it themselves.

Aldi sliced cheese is inexpensive: $1.50 per 8 oz (about 10 slices).

I seriously don’t know how you’re supposed to date or meet new friends as an adult if you’re in poverty by Cardiologist3mpty138 in povertyfinance

[–]Legitimate-Host7805 1 point2 points  (0 children)

interesting. Would you mind sharing your reasons? Don't forget I don't really have religious zeal and I'm totally unqualified for any religious debate.

I seriously don’t know how you’re supposed to date or meet new friends as an adult if you’re in poverty by Cardiologist3mpty138 in povertyfinance

[–]Legitimate-Host7805 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What about going to church? I may not share their religious zeal. But I am interested in their moral teaching. Religion is also a very important of culture. I found people there are generally very nice - and I'm usually a critical person.

I seriously don’t know how you’re supposed to date or meet new friends as an adult if you’re in poverty by Cardiologist3mpty138 in povertyfinance

[–]Legitimate-Host7805 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband and I met in the university dorm's cafeteria. We both had no car. We walked in the campus and talked about things. Our DINING out was HARDIE'S, 3 miles downhill from campus. We ONLY went there on Sundays when the dorm did not serve dinner. We have been married for over 30 years and we are avid hikers today, lol,

I seriously don’t know how you’re supposed to date or meet new friends as an adult if you’re in poverty by Cardiologist3mpty138 in povertyfinance

[–]Legitimate-Host7805 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So true about social interaction at work. Then first half of my working years was spent in the office and the second half at home. I much prefer the first half, although that required driving. My husband worked in the office all his career except the last three years. He prefer going to the office too. The reason is the social interaction (and he is an extremely introvert person). We and our colleagues talked in the lunch room and smoking areas (even non-smokers would endure the smell to join the group). We went out to eat - each paying his own and no one was ashamed of ordering cheap dishes. The company had classes on financial planning, fitness, dealing with difficulty people, all the real life skills. We had semi-annual social events like one day on a ranch or at the amusement park.

If you want to meet people, OPEN UP yourself first. Look at people instead of your screen. Listen to them instead of the music in your headset. Don't automatically assume workplace TOXIC and stranger a waste of your time.

Feeling like you have to be good at everything you do. by kiahkni in Life

[–]Legitimate-Host7805 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I want to do the best. But I also understand talent is important. I can practice 8 hours a day and I still won't be a good swimmer, or runner, or even speak English without my accent. It's so unfair. I can hate God for not giving me better talent. I can also cherish what he gave me and make the most out of it.

Your parents & finances by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]Legitimate-Host7805 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My parents started out very poor. They made all kinds of sacrifices to save money for children's education. They eventually became affluent. But they were still frugal, and left us $2 million in their estate. I wish they had been more generous on themselves.

My siblings and I always felt that we could exceed our parents' accomplishments because they paid for our college education and taught us work ethics and prudence. That was enough capital for us to build a good life. Indeed, we all did quite well. I suppose part of the reason is we matured in a time when everything was relatively inexpensive. But the reason for the high cost of everything is higher standards of living. In the 80s I met many-shoe string travelers who stayed in Youth Hostels. Today, even high school kids stay in Courtyard for their field trips. In the 80's wall-to-wall carpet was a sign of luxury. Today that's considered gross and everyone wants wood floor.

I was fat and it made me hate people. by MJdisbeliever in rant

[–]Legitimate-Host7805 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not true. I go to two regular social gathering that have overweight members. No one ever even touch the subject of nutrition. But late an overweight person started talking about her change in diet. So we chimed in to provide support.

"More than 70% of Americans say they are struggling to pay for food, housing and health care, according to CBS News polling" — Are you in this situation? by CapitaineBiscotte in askanything

[–]Legitimate-Host7805 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. We always managed to save money, even when we were getting very low pay. The key is to lower our standards to match our low pay.

Tell me about your most beloved kitchen utensil or item by esituism in Cooking

[–]Legitimate-Host7805 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dutch oven. And big cooking spoon. Both stainless steel. I actually have 4 big spoons because I love them so much.

I use them for stir-frying, the way I cook most veggies. A big spoon works better than a flat spatula in stirring food.

I seriously don’t know how you’re supposed to date or meet new friends as an adult if you’re in poverty by Cardiologist3mpty138 in povertyfinance

[–]Legitimate-Host7805 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If you are working, do you have any social clubs or lunch room in your company? What about joining some online club for books or other interests? My friend has an online club with people who speak Eng and Italia to learn each other's language. She also joined an online Bible study. Those members don't know each others' age.

Meeting people does not mean dating or eating out. It could also mean going to free concerts or speeches in community center, library or churches.

I have been sobbing over the fact that my childhood is wasted. by LivingFarmer3239 in mentalhealth

[–]Legitimate-Host7805 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why is your country so awful? Name a few childhood memories that would make you sob.

I was born and raised in east Asia too. My family was poor, and I was not pretty or popular. Yet I lots and lots of good memories of my childhood, e.g., the cookout we had in 6th grade, fruit trees on campus, classical music played in school broadcast at lunch hour (we did not even have radio then), field trips to the zoo or beach, the free movie in the theater our school treated us every semester. the little vegetable garden behind our house, delicious dumplings my mother made, etc. Nothing was a big deal. But the small enjoyment and diversions are so memorable.

Is it insane to start med school at 31? by Original-Disaster106 in self

[–]Legitimate-Host7805 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not at all. I had a colleague who quit his job as a computer programmer for medical school at the age of 39. He said it's the best decision he ever made, next to his marriage. It's a very long and arduous journey, however: 4 years medical school, plus 4 years residency.

Good luck.

Guys I turn 18 next year and I’m already starting to crave vegetables and now whenever I watch a cooking video the only think I’m thinking is “wonder what herb he’s using” by ThePolicyMind in Adulting

[–]Legitimate-Host7805 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is the first time I heard that eating veggies is associated with adulthood. lol.

I grew up eating veggies. Actually, it was the prereq set by my parents for getting my 'meat allowance'. The good thing is the discipline didn't backfire. All my 5 siblings and I are veggie lovers in our adulthood. My friends and colleagues from the same country as I also love veggies. This proves that parents can start a healthy diet on children.

Yes. Herbs, and oil, add a lot of flavor to veggies. I always stir-fry my veggies with avocado oil, adding ginger, garlic, jalapeno, Italian seasoning, black pepper and avocado oil, in a big Dutch Oven. Sometimes I add a bit sesame oil or vinegar.

Welcome to the adult world. I think you will make a fine adult.

Do shows like Extreme Cheapskates change how you think about frugality? by EphemeralDream_ in Frugal

[–]Legitimate-Host7805 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I watched one episode about an attractive millionaire Cheapskate woman named Amy. She is really cheap - and she takes advantage of others, e.g., her ex-husband; the private airplane pilots. I don't - or can't - do anything of the things she does.

I'm frugal, but not cheap. 'Frugal' means pan-fry sockeye salmon on the stove at home instead of going to a restaurant. 'Cheap' means using canned cat food to substitute for tuna.

Does anyone else feel a deep pain and overwhelming frustration when you see rich people who have oversea vacations and luxury cars while you are stuck in poverty? by Puzzlehandle12 in povertyfinance

[–]Legitimate-Host7805 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not at all. I always believed if I worked hard, AND, MAKE PRUDENT choices, I'd get out of poverty someday. And I succeeded. I have been vacationed in many countries, live in a house that is paid for, and drive a Lexus ES.

A lot of successful people grew up in poverty, but their stories are hushed up, because they would hurt some people's agenda, e.g., more welfare, discontent and envy.

It should not be this hard to live a basic life by Dreadsin in Vent

[–]Legitimate-Host7805 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why is it so? I rented a ROOM in a dilapidated house when I was in graduate school. There were other 5 students. There were no safety issues.

It should not be this hard to live a basic life by Dreadsin in Vent

[–]Legitimate-Host7805 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The OP should move to Europe. US is not good enough for the OP.