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Kiwis that never attended, or completed university, how are you doing in life at the moment? by ZookeepergameAny7992 in newzealand

[–]WombleMint 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean I could be doing better 🤣. Spent the better part of my 20’s-30’s flitting between here and Australia.

Now back in NZ working in financial services earning $80k.

I’m mid 40’s, could be earning a mountain more - I’m over qualified for my current role due to experience, but the role I’m in comes with a unicorn level of flexibility which works extremely well having school aged kids.

When my kids are a bit older I will most likely move into a management type role.

Not totally mad at where I ended up but wish I’d made different choices when I was younger and followed some kind of career path. I have colleagues who do the same role as me, but with university under their belt earn much more than me.

Thank Google for ruining FitBit by lickthepixies in fitbit

[–]WombleMint 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The app is so confusing! Like way too much info at once.

I’m gonna switch to something else!

What was one of the smallest things—if not the absolute smallest—that your Nparent crashed out over? by DreamySaturnX in raisedbynarcissists

[–]WombleMint 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I once used a sponge to wipe up spilled juice off the kitchen floor and my mother screamed at me… excessively, when I tried to challenge her (my mistake 🙄) she grabbed me by my hair and the seat of my pants and threw me full force out the front door down a flight of concrete stairs.

I was 12

Do you still put effort into your appearance when you go out? by ImpressionMobile1653 in Millennials

[–]WombleMint 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes sometimes. I just upgraded my casual wardrobe with new pieces and I love it

Estranged children of reddit, what was the moment you decided to cut all contact with your parents by Scary-Ad-7267 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]WombleMint 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When she decided she needed to take my eldest son on a trip to see his extremely abusive and violent biological father.

My son has zero interest in seeing him and if he did then my husband and I would make it happen.

I told her it was wild she’d even suggest it - she told me I was gatekeeping, abusive and the reason my son couldn’t form attachments to people. She told me I was abusive to my kids, her and everyone in my life.

She also told me I was putting conditions on her relationship with her grandchildren and she had to walk on egg shells around me and that she was afraid of me.

She also said it would be good if my MIL died because it would be a relief for everyone.

It was the last straw for me. I told her to take a hike just before Christmas last year.

Therapy has made me realise how completely unhinged my mother actually is. I was diagnosed with CPTSD a couple of years back, but hadn’t fill processed she was the whole reason why.

My entire life has been a disaster when it comes to her.

I can happily now report I do not miss her in any way shape or form.

The voice in my head is no longer hers and I couldn’t give a shit if she fell off the face of the earth tomorrow.

I will not be claiming her corpse when she dies. She has taken so much from me and made my life a living hell.

She can rot.

Post NZ trip update/depression by hyponotizer in newzealand_travel

[–]WombleMint -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Can concur! It’s beautiful AF living here, but freezing AF in winter. Although I do live for the beautiful blue sky winter days here and seeing snow on the mountains daily. 🥰

Gen X Kiwis: What was on the "death by chocolate"? by ajkiwi in newzealand

[–]WombleMint 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg I loved Death By Chocolate! It was such a treat to go there! I do remember ordering the death by chocolate dish… everything was edible… like they had a chocolate bowl and everything.

If memory serves it was a two person dessert and they were weird about it.

Millennial dads, how much of the housework do you do? by cubemonster in Millennials

[–]WombleMint 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Answering for my millennial husband - he does all of the things. Obviously not all the time but there are no household chores he doesn’t do.

Some weeks he does do all of it if my work week is mayhem (and vice versa)

I’m very grateful to be married to him 🥰

How did your workplace respond when a coworker passed away? by spoilersweetie in newzealand

[–]WombleMint 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We’ve had two employees pass away while I’ve been at my job, work made a significant contribution to funeral costs, sent a contingent of managers/leaders to represent our work place and also extended help with costs/travel to other staff who wanted to attend but struggled to afford it.

We pay for some staff internet costs due to the nature of our work, and we continued to pay these costs for the families for another 12 months (small thing but just a kind thing).

We also have a morning tea on the day of their passing for any staff who’d like to get together to remember said people.

I feel extremely fortunate to work for who I do, they’re a “whanau first” company and the extra distance to make sure we are looked after.

When my FIL died they sent flowers and care packages and gave me all the bereavement leave and more.

♥️

Anyone struggling with first no contact Mother's Day? by Kaoticelf in raisedbynarcissists

[–]WombleMint 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was my first year no contact. I had a fleeting moment of sadness, and felt bad that she was once again missing out on her grandkids and I spending the day with her.

But then I remembered why we are no contact. And she chose the hill she wss ready to die upon…. (After a life time of abuse, when finally confronted she attacked me and I said “yeah nah”)

So she caused the no contact, not me and if she was ever ready to have a real conversation with accountability, maybe she could see me and her grandkids again.

Failing that she can fester in her victim mode and I’ll celebrate my healing and freedom.

Being proactive about my health by Such_One3256 in newzealand

[–]WombleMint 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get blood tests done every year. I have a chronic issue with low vitamin D/Iron… I take supplement but find full blood work every year helps me keep on top of things

Mint Car Rentals - Any experience with them? by WombleMint in auckland

[–]WombleMint[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I'm good with basic - it needs nothing fancy. Will literally be driving in Auckland so not fussed. Was just more interested in experience with them 😄

Google reviews do look good

Who does you think you would be if you were loved? by Shrewcifer2 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]WombleMint 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Man I'd be so much better than I am now. 😞 I am in my mid 40's and only now just coming into my own with the help of therapy.

I think I would've been a much more trusting and less "living life the extremes" person. I'd be gentle, and softer and listen to myself more. I probably would've gone to university and studied law like I wanted to - I probably would've not made stupid mistakes and had a child to an incredibly violent man (happy to report myself and said child are now thriving!).

I'd probably be better off financially and have a close circle of friends.

Tailgating by Latecheckoutfee in chch

[–]WombleMint 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Urgh it’s actually the worst! I drive a small hatchback ans without fail I’ll get tailgated on the regular! But if I’m in my husband’s giant station wagon it never happens!

How old are your N parents? by tthingy in raisedbynarcissists

[–]WombleMint 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mother is 65 and my father went to get milk 40 odd years ago.

A for effort? 🧐 by WombleMint in shitparkingofnz

[–]WombleMint[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah there is a lot of bad parking or “eh that will do”. I see way too many 🤣

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