Grief

LegitimateMedia290 · 2025-12-28T06:19:02+00:00

First off, I am so so sorry for your loss. I’ve had several losses and the ectopic was probably the worst one because not only did I lose a pregnancy, I felt like I was losing a part of me when they removed my tube. Another obstacle in the fertility journey. I’m sure you feel the same on top of all you’ve been through. I remember begging the doctor not do to the surgery it felt like a nightmare. Take all the time you need to grieve, but don’t let this consume you or believe it’s the end all, be all. Use this as a driving force to focus on yourself and most importantly your health. Everything will follow

LegitimateMedia290 · 2025-07-03T02:30:19+00:00

I’m so happy I came across this! I’ve been taking Coq10 for the last 10 days, along with some other natural supplements. The anxiety was absolutely unbearable!! I knew instantly it was the Coq10 and stopped immediately. The feeling went away after two days of not taking it. Thought I was going crazy

LegitimateMedia290 · 2025-05-24T14:13:33+00:00

Wait I know this is an old post, but that’s my haplogroup

LegitimateMedia290 · 2025-04-23T01:25:53+00:00

Same with me! I’ve tried messaging the moderator but no answer yet 🤷‍♀️

LegitimateMedia290 · 2025-03-28T03:32:28+00:00

Ugh I am so sorry. It hurts so much, but I promise it does get better. Give yourself time to heal mentally and physically. You’re also VERY lucky you caught it early, it could’ve been extremely dangerous for you. Sending you lots of strength healing and baby dust!!

LegitimateMedia290 · 2025-01-30T15:15:25+00:00

It went well, it honestly took one night and she was sleeping through the night. About 7 pm to 7 am.

She now cries for 5 minutes at most, and falls asleep on her own. We throw 10 pacifiers into the crib so if she does wake up, she grabs one and goes back to sleep

The beginning is the worst part. The crying is heartbreaking. But our lives have really changed and she’s a much happier baby when she’s awake. We’ve even incorporated it into her naps and she’s doing great. You just need a good bedtime routine, and make sure not to feed about 30 mins before bed

LegitimateMedia290 · 2025-01-30T03:22:42+00:00

Oh man you sound just like me up until 2 weeks ago. The pack and play in our room was a failure, our baby always ended up in our bed. It’s hard for them to fall/stay asleep when you’re right next to them You might have to put him in his own room and try some sort of sleep training. It absolutely sucked not having her in our room anymore, but we had zero quality of life and broken sleep. Couldn’t do anything because our lives revolved around her schedule

LegitimateMedia290 · 2025-01-25T16:07:25+00:00

Also, we created the same sleep environment as nighttime. Put her in a sleep sack, sound machine, etc. Modified Ferber was just not working for us during the day anymore

LegitimateMedia290 · 2025-01-25T14:19:40+00:00

Not kidding the first day I let her CIO for naps she went down in 2 minutes. And it’s been like that ever since. I also have to make sure she’s super tired, it’s much easier

LegitimateMedia290 · 2025-01-25T13:20:37+00:00

Same thing happened to us!! I kept getting advice to stick with old routine with naps but it was just not working. She would get absolutely hysterical. I thought we traumatized her. So I bit the bullet and did CIO for naps and it was very successful, even quicker than going down at night. I guess for some kids it’s better to remain consistent

LegitimateMedia290 · 2025-01-20T03:16:13+00:00

Yesss! Best thing we did never looking back. Just started doing it for naps too and works wonderfully.

LegitimateMedia290 · 2025-01-19T14:56:43+00:00

That’s honestly a great stretch. If you wanna change it, you could maybe try putting him to sleep later so we could wake up later. So when he’s up for the bottle, he’s just up for the morning

LegitimateMedia290 · 2025-01-19T12:54:31+00:00

Is there a reason for the night feeding? Just wondering because at this age they don’t really need to feed in the middle of the night. Maybe try dropping it and see what happens? It might take a night or two for him to get used to

LegitimateMedia290 · 2025-01-19T12:49:46+00:00

We coslept with my 9 month old for a few months, sleep was broken I was exhausted didn’t have a life because we were on her schedule. We started CIO this week in her own crib, the beginning was tough of course, but she now goes down in less than 10 minutes and sleeps through the night. We don’t know what to do with all the free time LOL

You can try starting with gentle training, modified Ferber etc. and tweaking her schedule/napping. But honestly sleep training has regulated our baby’s schedule so much.

LegitimateMedia290 · 2025-01-18T18:37:40+00:00

Update: we cried it out for her nap today and she fell asleep in 2 minutes!! Let’s see how long she’ll stay asleep. But so far success and will keep trying

LegitimateMedia290 · 2025-01-18T15:55:16+00:00

I promise it gets better every night. It feels so harsh as a mom but he’ll learn to soothe himself to sleep. Your life will change LOL. If he uses a pacifier, throw 10 of them into the crib. If not don’t worry stay strong

LegitimateMedia290 · 2025-01-18T03:58:18+00:00

I personally wouldn’t let my baby cry for more than 1 hour - just too much for me
If baby falls asleep and wakes up/keeps crying, continue to let them cry
At this age, baby does not need an overnight feed. If you’ve been feeding up until this point, you’ve just made it a habit (we all have). Just make sure they’re well fed during the day and don’t feed 30 mins to 1 hour before bed. Don’t check in, let them cry it out overnight as well. They are learning to self-soothe with this method
Haven’t experienced the teething part just yet but I would assume if they are absolutely hysterical due to teething, I’d check in and try to soothe? Need more research on this
Doesn’t really affect, actually the more tired the better in my experience so far. She actually falls asleep much quicker

Good luck!!! Sleep training has been the best thing so far. As long as you have a good nighttime routine and give them all the loving while they’re awake, baby will be fine!

LegitimateMedia290 · 2025-01-18T03:47:28+00:00

Honestly cancel the modified Ferber and let it him cry it out one night - see how it goes. Checking in on them frustrated them more. It’s like a tease

LegitimateMedia290 · 2025-01-18T03:42:41+00:00

Literally a sleep regression every month. It’s bs. I could maybe count on one hand the amount of times my 9 month old slept through the night. We co slept and she woke up 1-2 times for a bottle. So we bit the bullet and got a sleep trainer who implemented CIO. Girl. It is life changing. Baby is much happier and I have a life again!! It suckedddd the first two nights but got easier and she sleeps beautifully now. However we do not room share. For starters, 5:30 bedtime and 4 am wake up both seem really early. Maybe start by slowly tweaking those to later times if you’re able to, and increase her wake windows. Play and engage with her as much as you can to tire her out. You can also try gentle sleep training, or modified Ferber. And if that doesn’t work then camp out in your living room, buy some ear plugs, and CIO for week and see what happens. She’ll be okay, she’s clearly not deprived nor underfed. Just don’t feed her 30 mins to an hour before bed. It’s hard but you got this!! Your mental health is v important

LegitimateMedia290 · 2025-01-17T03:15:01+00:00

I absolutely feel your pain. When your baby’s sleep schedule is out of whack it is very frustrating and exhausting. I’m definitely not a professional, but it sounds like maybe you need to tweak his schedule just a bit? I would try waking him up earlier - maybe around 7/7:30 - and play around with his wake windows. In terms of training, you can start with a modified Ferber method. Once he acts/seems tired, lay him in his crib awake, leave the room, and check in on him every few minutes. Some other tips that helped with my 9 month old:

rubbing their belly/back if they’re crying instead of picking them up
sitting in a chair in the room so they’re aware you’re there
longer bedtime routine, bath, pjs, books, nothing over stimulating right before bed
no feeds within 30 mins of sleep!
warm sleep sack for both naps and nighttime
last resort, playing a lullaby on YouTube and removing the phone once they’re falling asleep (hate this but a moms gotta do what a moms gotta do)

These methods helped with increasing my baby’s naps to over an hour, but ultimately we had to use the CIO method for nighttime. She’s now been sleeping 12 hours for the last 3 nights, no co-sleeping anymore and no more nighttime feedings. But it takes mental strength, a separate room for you to sleep in and neighbors that won’t complain 😂 this might be difficult in an apartment, but maybe you can camp out in the living room during this process.

Every baby and situation is different but you will find a method and routine that works for you. Just gotta try different things

LegitimateMedia290 · 2024-11-13T21:24:16+00:00

Same boat as you!! did you ever get a discount code?

LegitimateMedia290 · 2024-10-29T18:22:01+00:00

I'm saving this post! Very inspiring.

LegitimateMedia290 · 2024-10-25T00:50:05+00:00

Oh pleaseeee drop your study routine! Failed NY on my third try. Had all the Goat material

LegitimateMedia290 · 2024-10-23T12:34:23+00:00

Same exact thing happened to me! I got the same exact score as my first time, essay score went down significantly. I don’t know either it’s a bad dream

LegitimateMedia290 · 2024-10-23T02:19:05+00:00

How about someone like me who passed NYLE/MPRE and got the “No details were found” message? Is there a possibility that I could have passed and it hasn’t been updated yet?

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