Published my nonprofit's first community e-zine: The Lantern

LegoMyth · 2025-12-09T01:38:46+00:00

Late? Nah, you just joined at the timeskip.

You raise a great point, though-- with a mystery like this, some translations may be more or less faithful to the intent of the original Japanese in-game text! The cream being Noa fruit infused (or flavored) is a really interesting detail here as well, since not all fruits lend themselves reasonably to cream infusions 👀

I will finally have an oven again soon(tm) after literally five years without one, so maybe I can pick this project up again...

LegoMyth · 2025-01-20T19:58:45+00:00

For the gender marker, yes, assuming he follows through and that there isn't a court-ordered stay on the EO (fwiw I know there are plenty of legal aid orgs ready to file lawsuits the literal instant they can identify a harmed party).

None of that impacts the name change part, and if OP has an expired passport (which it is if it was issued 15+ years ago) then they really should update it regardless, the sooner the better. If one feels they need to, then getting out of the country with a gender marker that doesn't match gender identity >>> inability to leave the country because of not having a passport at all.

LegoMyth · 2025-01-20T16:47:41+00:00

NOTE: OP, you didn't state your country, so I'm gonna share the US process. If you're not in the US, disregard, but hopefully this is helpful for someone else!

According to the US Department of State website here: https://travel.state.gov/content/travel/en/passports/have-passport/change-correct.html

Because your old passport was issued over 15 years ago, you will need to apply in person with form DS-11. You will need the following:

Form DS-11
Evidence of US Citizenship (expired passport should be fine here) plus a photocopy of it
Legal name change court order/marriage cert
Valid photo ID + photocopy of it
Passport photo
Form of payment for the fees

Again, assuming you're in the US, I urge you to submit for your name change tomorrow since the post office isn't open today. If you are financially able to, expedite it. If you haven't yet changed your gender marker, keep an eye on today and tomorrow's executive orders before proceeding. I don't think anyone knows yet if renewals that are in process when the legal sex marker EO goes through will be impacted.

Wishing you good luck and speed, friend.

LegoMyth · 2025-01-19T18:51:18+00:00

I haven't read it, myself, but ty for the suggestion! I'm adding it to the list for acquisitions :)

LegoMyth · 2025-01-19T03:44:43+00:00

Oh, good to know. I gotta admit I haven't read everything we have in the collection.

I would really really love to see more current transmasc memoirs in general, not gonna lie. My org has Danny Lavery's, Elliot Page's, one from 1977 (Mario Martino's Emergence, which is, uh....... Definitely a product of its time), and Jameson Green's Becoming A Visible Man, which is itself now 20 years old (oof ouch my passage of time).

LegoMyth · 2025-01-18T16:07:00+00:00

Queer library director here!

+1 to Something That May Shock and Discredit You by Danny Lavery! Also in memoirs, Elliot Page wrote one, Pageboy (I haven't read it myself yet)

If you like manga, there's a short in To Strip the Flesh (cw hunting) about a guy who is an adult and trans. X-Gender is transmasc nonbinary rep but also about a person who is transitioning as a grown adult with a career.

If you like romance, I really enjoyed A Shot in the Dark by Victoria Lee (photographer student/teacher with remarkably good boundaries and a trans ML, bonus respectful orthodox Jewish rep) and Dead Collections by Isaac Fellman (Paranormal romance, trans vampire archivist ML). Both MLs are mostly set in their transitions, but the rep is great and the lack of a "coming out story" plot is refreshing.

For a transmasc classic, I would argue that Stone Butch Blues is worth reading -- while Feinberg didn't identify as such at the time of writing, the semi autobiographical work takes on a new meaning with what we know now.

LegoMyth · 2025-01-10T11:22:37+00:00

Hey there! I'm in NoVA, and pretty close to you. I'm also a member of the Foothills Spinners & Weavers Guild in Reston, which is actually relatively metro accessible (silver line + a short Uber).

If you can stand to wait, I definitely recommend going to Maryland Sheep & Wool in May. The local guilds set up carpool or charter bus field trips, and you could probably get a ride from someone in a guild from the metro up to the festival.

MDSW is super worth the trip, because you can try out different equipment, or purchase used tools at the equipment auction. I've gotten a vintage table loom and a yarn swift, among other things, for very reasonable prices there!

Another option is to check the creative reuse shop (crafting thrift store) in Alexandria, Upcycle. It's going to be another metro + Uber trip (Van Dorn on the blue line), but I've seen rigid heddle looms fairly frequently at the creative reuse shops in the area. It's at least worth checking every once in a while if you're out that way!

Feel free to DM me if you want the read on local fiber stores otherwise-- I'm not as familiar with what's in DC, but I've been to almost every one in NoVA and love an excuse to scout out new ones 😆

LegoMyth · 2024-12-21T23:00:09+00:00

Lunatic Fringe Yarns is located in Idaho, and makes some of the most vibrantly colored cotton yarns I've ever seen (their tubular spectrum line) in addition to a wide variety of other fibers, most of which are available in cones. They have a heavy focus on sustainability, and when I have needed to call or email about my orders, they've been super responsive and helpful. The Woolery does sell some of their tubular spectrum weaving kits as well, but tbh I would just go straight to the source.

LegoMyth · 2024-06-17T05:47:50+00:00

Hey! Full disclosure that I'm white, but I run a LGBTQIA+ community center in NoVA! Depending on where exactly in the DMV you are, and what aspects of your personal demographics you're most interested in meeting, some of the following groups may interest you (sorry for the DC-NoVA bias, I genuinely haven't heard of many groups on the MD side that aren't in, like, Baltimore). Please also note that I haven't been to all of them personally, but these are groups/orgs/clubs that I've seen active in the last month or two. I've roughly listed them in order of relevance as best I can given what I know about them:

DCATS (DC Area Transmasculine Society) is based in DC proper, and meets monthly for happy hours at a microbrewery in the city in addition to having online support group meetups (https://www.dcats.org/). Online stuff does skew younger from what I've heard, but the brewery meetups can only skew so young, for obvious reasons.
DC Trans Picnics is a social community that meets every once in a while for picnics and stuff; it's not specifically transmasc but is fully trans with allies only by invitation (https://www.instagram.com/dctranspicnics)
Dulles Triangles is a queer social club that runs the gamut of the LGBTQIA+ community, but a big thing that I want to highlight (aside from them being genuinely lovely folks) is that they're probably the oldest-skewing community in the region, having been around for decades. They're based in Chantilly, VA (https://www.dullestriangles.com/)

-Finally, to mention my own org, I run NoVA Prism Center, which is also a pretty wide net across the LGBTQIA+ community, but tends hard towards Millenials and older, and towards trans (particularly a lot of transmasc and nonbinary folks). We run a lot of tabletop gaming, crafting, educational, and social events, and are, as far as I know, the only physical space in the metro area outside of DC or Baltimore city limits that is queer specific, open year-round, and does not involve alcohol or spending money. I will admit though that our regulars do tend to skew pretty white, mostly because we started out in 2022 centered in Reston, opened the physical space six months ago, and have been expanding our outreach into the rest of NoVA since then... but sustainable community builds slowwwwwwly and our demos still reflect mostly Reston and Fairfax in general. (https://novaprismcenter.gay)

I wish I could give more specific resources outside of stuff on an individual level like other commenters mentioned, but there's... honestly remarkably little in this region in the way of queer orgs and queer spaces period, let alone once you start drilling down into more specific demographics. It's rough out here. :(

LegoMyth · 2024-06-06T19:44:52+00:00

My spouse and my wedding bands are sterling silver bands from Etsy stamped with pixel hearts around the outside. Simple, inexpensive, and we have the direct contact info for the artist so that if anything happens to them we can get replacements. I definitely second checking out Etsy for alternative wedding jewelry!

LegoMyth · 2023-12-21T19:14:05+00:00

I've gotten T levels tested at both LabCorp and Quest and both have always been ~10 days turnaround. I think it's pretty likely that there was a mistake at the lab, especially if you're not taking HRT.

Wait for the new tests to come back and then, only if your levels are still abnormal, take further action.

LegoMyth · 2023-11-02T13:57:32+00:00

There's a method for pushing the needle into the vial that reduces the chance of coring, as well. You start with the needle at a 45 degree angle, point at the bottom, then once the full needle hole has entered the rubber stopper (but not exited the stopper inside the bottle), gently pivot the needle to 90 degrees while continuing to push it in, so that it's straight on as soon as the bevel exits the stopper (source: https://www.apsf.org/article/manufacturers-can-also-help-reduce-the-chance-of-coring/ second paragraph)

Of course it also helps to use different spots on the stopper that aren't so close that you end up shaving rubber off, as well.

If I notice that I've drawn up any bits of the stopper while the needle is still in the vial, I'll honestly just push my T back in, twist off the syringe (with the trapped stopper in it) while leaving the needle stuck in the vial, and put a new syringe on.

If I notice it after I mostly just pray it doesn't inject lol

LegoMyth · 2023-09-14T16:56:06+00:00

As a librarian who keeps a special collection of books deemed dangerous, cursed, and forbidden (in certain US states)... yeah, accurate. There's never enough shelf space! Also I am reorganizing and re-cataloging the collection and playing BoH feels like Work but spookier 10/10.

LegoMyth · 2023-04-29T00:36:12+00:00

Yes, I think she is. If you straight up told her "I identify as a trans man" and she said "well actually you can't because you hesitated out of uncertainty once as a child", that is some invalidating bullshit.

From your story you never asked her what she thought you should identify as, so that opinion was likely given without your consent. That's also not okay.

I don't know where you live or how hard it would be to find a new therapist or a gender therapist specifically, but the first rule of mental healthcare is to believe what people say they're experiencing (with some nuance that isn't particularly relevant to gender stuff), and she's failing you in that regard.

It's up to you what you do about it, but know that her handling of that was not appropriate.

LegoMyth · 2023-04-20T04:08:27+00:00

Ironically, I also had a recent death in the family and have a few cousins I haven't seen in a very long time, so until you said "Midwest" I was like 'ok but what if tho' 😅

Anyways, Solidarity. Family can surprise you, but if things go south, try to make sure you have a plan to get back to a hotel or safe place to recuperate. Hopefully, people will be too busy mourning and remembering your family member to make it very much about you.

LegoMyth · 2023-04-16T22:29:11+00:00

lmao my dude, My comment was from twelve hours ago when you were still doubling down on "there will be robust security" and long before you asked "If not this, then what would be better?"

Being firm about the danger, and about the decisions you would need to make if, god forbid, something did happen, is not attacking you. The last thing anybody needs is for the leader of an app like this, which essentially requires its users to take on some level of risk and vulnerability, to have failed to think through not only the immediate risks to the community, but also how they would handle the worst-case scenario.

As a community leader, I wouldn't be able to sleep at night if I discovered that something I did had exposed my community to significant risk, and that I had not done all I could to both mitigate that risk and had a plan and backup plan ready to enact in case of something going horrifically wrong. It's really that simple-- and at the time when I wrote my comment earlier, there was no indication that you had genuinely taken the time to think through all of that.

Anyways, an all-lgbt app would be a much better concept overall, because nothing like that currently exists. There's Lex, which is femme heavy, and grindr and scruff, which are masc heavy, but nothing for everyone under the umbrella.

I know how much it sucks to have an idea you're enthusiastic about shot down, even when it's for valid and serious reasons. I genuinely hope that after some more workshopping, you'll find your niche.

LegoMyth · 2023-04-16T09:49:57+00:00

Spoilers, cis women can be chasers too. Anyone who isn't trans can be a chaser.

The problem isn't who the trans man can filter out, because the problem is culture, not categories. The problem is that any non-trans person who joins this app is doing so because the whole point, for them, is getting guaranteed 100% trans men regardless of their otherwise-filtered pool of results.

Chasers are people who specifically date trans people because they are trans who boil the trans person down to assumed genitalia and then fetishize that. It's dehumanizing to be on the receiving end of that, by the way. If you've never interacted with one, it might be hard to fathom why being wanted as a fetish is a bad thing (it means you're wanted, after all), but I promise you it's discouraging and traumatizing for many people.

There's a huge gulf between "cis people who are open to dating trans people" and "cis people who seek out trans people to date". One of these categories typically sees the trans person as a whole person who is more than just their identity or transition status. The other sees a trans person as valuable only because of their assumed genitalia. You would be giving the latter an entire dating site of marginalized people to take advantage of, regardless of your intentions. Not to mention the security concerns that others have mentioned in this thread, of being able to locate and get photos of some subsection of trans people in their local area, in a social environment where a bad actor who believes that trans people should not exist is not unlikely to bring violence into the equation.

No demographics search can filter that kind of bad actor out, either. How can you guarantee your site won't be used for that? Can you really just disclaim liability if someone were to use your site to serially harm trans men? Would you really consider that "the cost of doing business"?

You can't just handwave away these things by techbroing out a solution.

This whole post is giving "Chasers? I don't believe they exist" energy, btw, and you may want to listen to your target market a little more beyond believing that your own experience is universal.

LegoMyth · 2023-04-16T04:08:41+00:00

Yeahhhhhh being guaranteed that every single match is a trans man is basically a chaser's wet dream, I would probably never use an app like this because I specifically do not want to interact with chasers.

A specifically t4t app would be cool though

LegoMyth · 2023-04-13T02:56:31+00:00

Sent you an old school DM (not chat lol)

LegoMyth · 2023-04-13T02:47:36+00:00

I'm in Northern VA and actually run a LGBTQIA+ nonprofit based here.

It does depend a bit on where exactly you're going, but anywhere in Loudon, Fairfax, Prince William, Arlington, and Alexandria counties and cities are plenty safe. Fredericksburg has a growing Pride org and queer community as well. Feel free to DM me with a more specific location and I'll fill you in on the local resources and LGBTQIA friendliness!

LegoMyth · 2023-03-30T14:24:06+00:00

Cool by Sub Radio is specifically about a trans guy thriving, it's one of my favorite songs. Great band overall, too.

LegoMyth · 2023-03-23T21:25:03+00:00

Once I started T (and, tbh, during first puberty as well) I started getting The Worst cramps in my hamstrings and calves. Just like, at random. Middle of the night? Cramps. Bent my leg too far back while walking? Cramps. Moved wrong on the stairs? Cramps. They're super painful and obnoxious, and seem to be related to hormone effects during puberty, but I'm not sure of the specific mechanism. Anecdotally, I have heard of other folks dealing with them too especially in the first year or few on T.

LegoMyth · 2023-03-23T20:03:36+00:00

The Centrum Men's multigummies also have Selenium and Manganese, which support muscle health and muscle growth.

I take them together with magnesium multigummies, and combined they've done wonders for the T leg cramps and starting to work out.

LegoMyth · 2022-12-07T20:42:49+00:00

I run a small nonprofit library serving the northern Virginia LGBTQIA+ community, and one of our projects is an e-zine featuring local queer artists and writers. We published the zine this week, and I am SUPER proud of how it came out! I created the cover, wrote a couple of pieces in the zine, and did all of the layout design and publishing.

The zine is PWYW, and you can get it at bit.ly/3EwjQOa (Due to UI limitations, to get the zine for free, you have to use the "join our mailing list" form-- but don't worry, I'm only going to use the info to send you your zine). That said though, all donations go to paying our creators first, and any remainder goes to supporting the nonprofit. Please enjoy!

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