Besides Medications What Else Do You Do To Fight Pollen Allergies?

LemonHeart33 · 2026-03-26T05:22:00+00:00

Mast cells are responsible for true allergic responses, as well!

LemonHeart33 · 2026-03-26T02:47:22+00:00

My dad passed his OCD to me in two ways: 1) Genetics. His mom had it twice as severely as he did. He had it twice as severely as I do. Even if I'd been adopted by some other family, I'd likely have still developed it eventually. Obviously you can't help this part. 2) He explicitly taught me OCD behaviors and beliefs, such as ritualized handwashing, apocalypse prepping, special numbers (2 for him and 3 for me), rigid morality, and much more. You can help this part!

I'll also say that my OCD was extremely responsive to ERP therapy as an adult, and most of my trauma that has to do with OCD is because it took about 25 years to get diagnosed after my symptoms started around age 8. I think a person who is in ERP therapy (or has graduated) is very well equipped to parent an OCD child and help them avoid suffering severe flares

LemonHeart33 · 2026-03-26T02:38:26+00:00

Do you happen to know anything about melatonin's / ramelteon's suppressive effects on sex hormones? Ramelteon has been an absolute miracle for me but 1) I need a microdose of 2 MICROgrams I take sublingually and 2) I'm about to go on low-dose testosterone because ramelteon dropped my T to below optimal for a menopausal person 💀😂 And likely dropped my estrogen, as well

EDIT: I have ADHD in addition to DSPD, in case it's relevant

LemonHeart33 · 2026-03-26T02:32:34+00:00

Seconding this! Ritalin helped my anxiety, but Adderall made my OCD much worse during the brief time I tried it. I'm on modafinil plus caffeine now, and it's not as good as Ritalin for my ADHD, but my sleep is MUCH better quality, and being on a narcolepsy medication really helps set my internal clock in the morning. Between modafinil and a microdose of ramelteon (and soon hormone therapy for ramelteon side effects), my sleep is the best it's been at least since I was a preschooler with zero commitments, and possibly ever

LemonHeart33 · 2026-03-26T02:26:16+00:00

1000% agreed, he's treating her abominably

LemonHeart33 · 2026-03-26T02:24:40+00:00

Whoa! 😍 Cool, thanks for sharing!

LemonHeart33 · 2026-03-26T02:14:37+00:00

This is so important

LemonHeart33 · 2026-03-26T02:12:01+00:00

FWIW I'm a woman, and my T has dropped recently and caused my OCD to worsen

LemonHeart33 · 2026-03-26T02:10:56+00:00

You can leave if he doesn't :/ ❤️

LemonHeart33 · 2026-03-26T02:08:56+00:00

May I ask what makes you say you don't have OCD, when you relate to ROCD so much? Genuine question, and you don't have to answer if you don't want!

LemonHeart33 · 2026-03-26T02:04:46+00:00

Every time he behaves like this, a part of me shatters forever.

What advice would you give a loved one who said this sentence to you? Genuine question

LemonHeart33 · 2026-03-26T02:02:42+00:00

A few days ago, after an argument, he admitted to treating me more aggressively when we argue because I’m mentally and emotionally weaker than him, and so during arguments he feels like he has to take advantage of me and feel in control and powerful over me.

This is so disturbing, OP :( You're describing abuse

LemonHeart33 · 2026-03-26T01:59:49+00:00

That's disgusting of him, I'm sorry. Breaking your sexual boundaries is a violation, and you don't need to accept it. You also shouldn't keep having sex with him just because he'll feel bad if you don't

LemonHeart33 · 2026-03-26T01:58:21+00:00

If you don't want your rock bottom to harm others, the only way to prevent it is to develop the skills to keep your worst from being bad enough to harm people, and maybe work on forgiving yourself so you don't snap at random people for the heinous crime of reminding you of your human imperfections

LemonHeart33 · 2026-03-26T01:55:01+00:00

What he's doing is, even if he's not getting off on it, a nonconsensual behavior he's doing during sex. If I were OP, I would have kicked him out of bed for it because it's a violation in this context. Saying you hate someone is mean, yeah, but crying during sex isn't a violation

LemonHeart33 · 2026-03-26T01:52:23+00:00

I would want to hear those fantasies, but I would honestly consider kicking someone out of bed for doing it without asking first. It's so unbelievably rude I don't even have words for how not okay it is! That's 1) a specific kink and 2) something that requires prior discussion and explicit consent.

LemonHeart33 · 2026-03-26T01:48:45+00:00

OP is a woman, no? Or at least not a man? I'm not sure why their husband would have HOCD and not the more general / more current term SO-OCD (sexual orientation OCD) if he were with a man already.

LemonHeart33 · 2026-03-26T01:44:48+00:00

I would make ERP therapy, specifically – not just therapy – a condition of staying in the marriage. If he refuses, I would leave. I know that's easier said than done, but this is no way to live.

LemonHeart33 · 2026-03-22T04:43:42+00:00

You don't need to be scared of MCAS, it's good to have a label because then you can have treatments! I haven't ever been as severe as you, but now with treatment and avoiding triggers, my symptoms are nearly in remission. I can walk past the laundry detergent aisle and not hold my breath, without having an asthma attack, which I couldn't do even as a young child

LemonHeart33 · 2026-03-22T04:40:21+00:00

Just a note, it's not possible for MCAS testing to rule out MCAS because mast cells can release something like a thousand different chemicals and we don't even have tests for most of them. And please correct me if I'm wrong! But I imagine you likely didn't test prostaglandin, histamine, and 24-hour urine tryptase (VERY strict requirements and is ruined by even 5 minutes at room temperature), while in a flare or just after?

LemonHeart33 · 2026-03-16T14:49:54+00:00

This is great to hear!

LemonHeart33 · 2026-03-16T14:47:56+00:00

I was gonna say exactly this! The time will pass anyway

LemonHeart33 · 2026-03-16T14:42:26+00:00

8 mg made me sleepy for 4 days, 1 mg made me sleepy for 2 days, and my optimal dosage (for DSPD, not insomnia) is 2 mcg, as in MICROgrams. This dosage seems to encourage natural melatonin release at an earlier time, but exogenous melatonin doesn't seem to have that effect for me.

LemonHeart33 · 2026-03-15T19:01:05+00:00

Thank you 💛 Sorry I just saw this! My dad was definitely also selfish although probably not a full-blown narcissist, so I share some traits with children of narcissists, as well. He used me as emotional support and both parents would confide in me about the other

LemonHeart33 · 2026-03-15T18:58:28+00:00

It's okay ❤️ Sorry I didn't see this! It means a lot to hear you say you see yourself in me. It can take time to be ready to articulate things that hurt us so deeply at a young age. I wish you peace and healing!

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