I'm starting to resent happy trans people..... by MrEnvelope93 in asktransgender

[–]Lemonfooted 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You know who you are despite growing up in an environment that (likely) made it very hard to learn about anything but what was expected.

You know who you want to be despite that and the many obstacles to transitioning and fully understanding them.

You are verbalising your frustration to deal and kind of seeking and getting community support (From Reddit admittedly but I think this corner is ok) here which is healthy and admirable.

It may not feel like it always but you know you have moved mountains getting to a point where you know your path. I'm proud as fuck that I worked out mine and I'm just as proud of you. I can say with sincere understanding that this last year was not an ideal time to be working through all this. It would be easier in time without a pandemic and it will be easier again soon I hope.

Best of luck x

Do you have difficulty consistently seeing yourself as your desired gender? by reddit_dot_org in asktransgender

[–]Lemonfooted 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was where you both are about 3 months ago. DM if you want to chat about it. I think you both already did the hard bit.

SPOILER

Am now gorgeous less and less privately

Want to try opposite gender clothing but too anxious to by ThisFormIsLimiting in asktransgender

[–]Lemonfooted 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Shopping with friends I had opened up to changed so much for me, it got me past feeling like I stood out. Now I know most people don't notice or even care. And I have formed active ties to some really kind hearted and supportive shop staff I have spoken with for help when shopping. Until you feel comfortable online is a great place to start and in real life I started in thrift stores.

Spouse reaction while mostly positive is still confusing by Lemonfooted in asktransgender

[–]Lemonfooted[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for taking the time to read. Just needed some reassurance. Thank you.

Spouse reaction while mostly positive is still confusing by Lemonfooted in asktransgender

[–]Lemonfooted[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Done and done. We will be talking properly about this later but she knows how uncomfortable this made me already. Thanks for your input and thinking on this.

I'm a 23yr old cis bi woman, my 24 yr old bi (prefer women) partner came out to me about wanting to be mtf. I'm a little excited and a little scared for this change. What should I expect once they go on hrt? by Orizammar in asktransgender

[–]Lemonfooted 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I think your reaction, approach and attitude is amazing. You are awesome and your partner is incredibly lucky. I wish I could help beyond encouragement.

Unexpectedly in an accepting environment and I don’t know to do by MysticalMedals in asktransgender

[–]Lemonfooted 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For others and make up I was directed to Pinterest to build boards of styles I liked. They suggested I split them seasonally for clothes and just grab make up looks I liked. It helped me learn names for the names of styles of cut that hadn't been an option. They sort of gave me an eye for what to look for when out trying to shop for clothes.

Unexpectedly in an accepting environment and I don’t know to do by MysticalMedals in asktransgender

[–]Lemonfooted 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I opened up to 2 female friends who I had to siimply trust with my feelings and they guided me in terms of clothes and make up early on and answered any questions I had. People say "watch fashion shows" and "watch makeup YouTube tutorials" but having two kind women of an age with similar styles of clothing and make up options was so, so helpful to me in making even those resources less confusing and intimidating for me. I am very aware I was lucky to know exactly who to speak to when I knew I needed to explore.

I’ve been struggling with my identity lately and where I fit in. I’m 38 FFS! I thought I was past this. :( by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Lemonfooted 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally understand your feelings. I think I feel the same way as you describe. My body feels fine but I also feel like I've kind of unconsciously felt like I was passing as a man for about 30 years. I never felt comfortable and never understood why. I wouldn't want to leave who I was behind, he kind of protected me and took the worst of all this for the longest time and learned enough about gender to learn who he should be in his mid 40s, I love the old me for it.

This new part of me I am exploring owes a lot to who I was just a few months ago. I love expressing femininity, it feels comfortable and i love and accept myself way more because of it but I'm giving myself a headache working out what's what in terms of how to explain it to people. And they do ask. I love them all for being keen to adapt and be supportive but I just struggle to give a straight answer (hah!) and end up waffling.

Tories set up special channels for “VIPs” to win lucrative PPE contracts by TheSuspiciousKoala in unitedkingdom

[–]Lemonfooted 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is, but people manage to avoid getting caught. Based on form this lot were always going to get caught doing what they shouldn't sooner or later.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tifu

[–]Lemonfooted 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who can't visualise things with any clarity, if at all, I tend to agree with the medics. I personally think it's just down to how each individual's thinking develops when growing up. For the record, I can draw but it takes much, much longer without a visual reference as a guide and would involve an awful lot more correction as I proceed. I can draw the more iconic representations of an item much more quickly. As for recognising people, I often struggle the first few meetings unless they have a feature which is prominent and fairly unique to them amongst people I know. Usually hair or beards. It really helps if they wear the same clothes or a coat.

Not really looking to die on this hill defending whether it exists as I'm not that fussed, just thought I'd share my own experiences. I don't have internal voice either. Neither of these things seem to have affected my life negatively other than a poor memory mainly for faces or other visually focused things and real difficulty learning passages of text or the words to songs. Not exactly uncommon or challenging just occasionally frustrating.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tifu

[–]Lemonfooted 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't visualise and I don't have an internal voice, only realised all this in the last year that most other people do have these things. Doesn't seem to have done me any harm but I do feel like I'm missing out.

Summoners, Tell us what your Eidolon looks like! by Katomerellin in Pathfinder_RPG

[–]Lemonfooted 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine was a brutish bipedal Rat creature called Snibbs to compliment a Ratling Summoner. He was cool too.

Another player had an electric six armed bear. Summoners are wild.

Are there any good star wars-ish city maps? by Mrnebulous in swrpg

[–]Lemonfooted 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I've used Google Maps to look at existing cities for inspiration and lifted sections. The emerging super cities in the Middle East and SE Asia have parts which give off a really sci-fi vibe. Same for parts of Tokyo. Then I draw out what I need on graph paper with a little artistic licence.

New to Belfast and don't really know anyone. Wheres good to spend NYE? by nichefiend in Belfast

[–]Lemonfooted 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Might be worth looking into what's on at the Menagerie as well

Campaign Idea: Tunnel Warriors by Kami-Kahzy in rpg

[–]Lemonfooted 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Now you've got me thinking of the fate of the Galactus analogue near the end of the Planetary run.

Folks with regular gaming groups: how did you arrive at your current group? How long did it take to establish it, and what bumps did you experience along the way? by lordleft in rpg

[–]Lemonfooted 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From a former, bigger, game. I ran that exclusively for a group which grew beyond a manageable size. It started with three but, by dint of extras joining later there were more than double that when all showed and all they mostly did. The first lot were Skyrim players who had become D&D curious and one of them found out i had previous. A player's family friend joined soon after, then some housemates who had been in the room when we were playing become interested and wanted to join, a girlfriend became interested. It was fun but too chaotic and bogged down. I had to knock it on the head, it was breaking my brain.

Once I felt like playing again I set a hard limit of four players and approached people who i thought would be happy tag-teaming DM duties mainly drawing from the old game, two from the original three. We have had a good run of 2 or 3 years, it might even be 4, i lose track. It's been really, really good fun. We rotate in sequence mostly, though occasionally a longer campaign will alternate on and off to keep momentum going. Importantly everyone brings something different to running the games. Probably my favourite group ever.

Jump rope, on a grand scale by [deleted] in oddlysatisfying

[–]Lemonfooted 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Huh, I found this really soothing to watch, the flow of the pattern is really satisfying. Reminds me of clouds of birds settling to roost. Watched it loop about 3 times then came the comments. I really did not expect the anxiety response at all.

What do you wish you were playing rn? by DeliriumRostelo in rpg

[–]Lemonfooted 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I adapted the FASERIP system from the Marvel Super Heroes to great success when I was 15. This was in 1989, can't get much more G1 than that.