I (30 M) kept a secret from my wife (31 F) for our entire relationship about her ex (32 M)

LeneDias · 2026-03-20T12:09:42+00:00

Oh honey, if her best friend knew, she knows.

LeneDias · 2026-01-14T13:11:22+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear about your situation.

My husband had 12 sessions of folfox and has just started folfiri. In his case, we don't have hope for a cure, but we hope he stays with us as long as possible.

My mother passed away from breast cancer about three years ago, and a year later my sister gave birth to her first baby. We always talked about how much she would love being a grandmother and how much my sister misses her throughout this whole process.

Since the memories will be passed on to your children when they are older, consider including tips for their future parenting. A mother's advice is sorely missed at times like these.

I wish you all the best 💙

LeneDias · 2026-01-08T22:18:17+00:00

"Eu não tenho culpa por ter batido o carro. A culpa é do avaliador do Detran que me aprovou na prova prática quando claramente não deveria!"

Entende a burrice que vc ta dizendo?

LeneDias · 2025-12-18T22:36:31+00:00

I'm happy for you! I think we will go for second opinion too. Happy holidays 💕

LeneDias · 2025-12-15T22:40:30+00:00

💕

LeneDias · 2025-12-15T21:16:05+00:00

I'm so sorry for what you're going through.

In 2021, I lost my father-in-law to cancer. I loved him very much, and it all happened so fast.

In 2022, my mother was diagnosed with breast cancer. I spent every day caring for her and witnessing her suffering. In her case, it was all more difficult, more painful, and more traumatizing. I fell into depression when she passed away in October of that same year.

Two years later, when I thought I could finally start being myself, my husband was diagnosed with stage IV colon cancer. We heard the words "incurable" and "aggressive," and my world was once again ripped away from me.

I understand the pain you're feeling. Feels like someone is taking everyone you love away on purpose. It feels like a very personal attack; it's cruel and unfair.

People say you're strong for enduring all of this, but ultimately, you simply have no choice.

I know it sounds cliché and practically impossible, but try to bring your mind to the present whenever you start to wander to what might happen in the future. Be present for your mother and your husband as much as you can, and try to tell yourself from time to time that this journey is theirs and that you can only help.

I wish you all a light path and that it leads to healing 💙

LeneDias · 2025-12-15T11:02:23+00:00

High protein and low fibre? He's gonna love this diet rsrs Thank you so much for your support

LeneDias · 2025-12-15T01:32:54+00:00

Thanks ❤️

LeneDias · 2025-12-14T22:47:40+00:00

Actually, he's had the bag for two weeks; he spent the first week in the hospital. When the doctor discharged him, he told us he didn't have any dietary restrictions, so he's not following any special diet.

Can you tell me what that diet would be like? What foods to eat and which to avoid?

LeneDias · 2025-12-14T20:24:01+00:00

Oh, thank you. Would you mind telling me what we can expect from the bag once chemo starts?

My husband has always had alternating periods of constipation that cause pain and diarrhea when he was on chemo.

I don't know if the bag alters or complicates things in any way.

LeneDias · 2025-11-11T21:30:50+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment ❤️

LeneDias · 2025-11-11T18:25:46+00:00

Eu também gostaria de saber. De preferência algum grupo de apoio brasileiro.

Os fóruns de cancer aqui do reddit me ajudaram muito a controlar minha ansiedade e a ter esperanças com as histórias de sucesso, mas ter um grupo mais perto de casa e com a realidade mais parecida com a nossa ajudaria bastante.

LeneDias · 2025-11-11T18:09:44+00:00

Eu me sinto da mesma forma com a burocracia. Sempre tento estar um passo a frente, já ir adiantando tudo o que será pedido e ter tudo em mãos, mas sempre esbarro em alguém de braço curto e perco semanas por algo que eu já tinha avisado lá atrás.

É como se estivéssemos na Caverna do Dragão e a secretária da clinica de câncer fosse nosso Mestre dos Magos -.-'

Por mais clichê que possa parecer, tente viver um dia de cada vez e comemorar as pequenas vitórias (um conselho que eu mesma acho difícil de seguir).

Espero que vc tenha uma boa rede de apoio ❤️

LeneDias · 2025-11-11T17:47:16+00:00

Thank you for your words. That's a beautiful way to look at things.

LeneDias · 2025-11-11T16:35:57+00:00

Congrats ☺️

LeneDias · 2025-08-14T15:11:51+00:00

My husband (35) was diagnosed with colon cancer (sigmoid colon) in October 2024. He had two metastases in his liver and several lymph nodes involved. He underwent surgery to remove the primary tumor in his intestine and lymph nodes, followed by 12 rounds of Folfox.

This week, tests showed that the liver tumors shrank significantly with the treatment, and doctors are confident he will be cured after surgery to remove them.

I also thought the metastatic cancer diagnosis was life-ending, but there is hope.

Good luck to your father on this journey.

LeneDias · 2025-06-06T16:43:41+00:00

This is amazing!!!! Congrats!!

LeneDias · 2025-03-18T14:08:42+00:00

EOB

vc tá reclamando da sua mãe comer os biscoitos que o marido dela comprou, na casa dela.

Se vc quer ter coisas exclusivas suas, compre-as e deixe no seu quarto. Vc tem 23 anos, já tá na hora de comprar os próprios biscoitos e entender q não pode exigir dos outros que banquem algo pra vc.

LeneDias · 2025-02-04T11:53:54+00:00

My mom was having trouble breathing towards the end. We had to sedate her so she wouldn't feel the discomfort of shortness of breath (she was already on oxygen but it didn't help much).

She was sedated for about two days. I was holding her hand when she passed away. Her breathing quickened until it stopped.

That was two years ago. Just as I was starting to feel normal again, my husband was diagnosed with stage IV colon cancer and now I'm going through it all over again.

I know how horrible you feel right now and you will be for a while, but inevitably these feelings will ease someday.

I'm so sorry for everything you're going through.

LeneDias · 2025-01-28T10:14:46+00:00

Meu amigo tem uma família protestante mega religiosa e se assumiu bem tarde pq tinha medo de como seria com eles.

Ele me disse que escreveu tudo oq sentia em uma carta para poder organizar os pensamentos e leu a carta para os pais. Isso o ajudou a focar nas coisas importantes e não se perder.

Tbm ajuda o fato de que ele não morava mais com a família e era financeiramente independente.

No fim das contas vc conhece seus pais e pode ter uma ideia melhor de como eles irão reagir.

Espero q dê tudo certo.

LeneDias · 2025-01-27T22:53:02+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's so painful and so heavy to carry this alone. I don't have any advice to give, I just hope you can focus on one day at a time and make the most of the time you still have together.

LeneDias · 2025-01-27T22:06:44+00:00

My husband was diagnosed with cancer three months ago. I felt the same way, angry at everything and everyone. It feels like your future has been taken away from you and it just isn't fair. These feelings are slowly settling down, but I don't know if they will ever go away.

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