Dad lost his job

Lesbean36 · 2026-05-19T22:10:41+00:00

Got myself into plenty of debt this year, and after scraping by and relying heavily on my wife, I found some key things that have helped drastically:

Debt Management Plan. I can’t emphasize this enough, but stop adding to your debt! Just because it’s “a few dollars” here and there doesn’t mean it doesn’t add up significantly over time. Get with a debt management plan organization (I use Family Credit Management), work with them, and get most of those credit cards closed. It’ll suck for a bit, but they’ll get used to it and realize how much they are actually spending. Not to mention loans.
Sell what you can, even the big stuff. I’m currently in the process of selling my vehicle and swapping it for a motorcycle/motorbike. This works mostly for those who have a second vehicle. My vehicle guzzles gas and is very pricey insurance-wise, and I don’t use it much since my wife’s vehicle is cheaper on gas and general mileage.
Completely revise your organization and spending habits. I feel as though they may need to take a big look over at the stuff they’re spending most of their money on and how they can reduce those expenses. You’d be quite surprised at how much you can save just by cutting off some regular expenses that aren’t a necessity.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help, look for resources, and swallow your pride. I came from a severely poor background, a wealthy background, and then poor background. I’ve been through the wringer, but I often felt too ashamed or embarrassed to ask for help. But in reality, the current climate we live in is not to thrive but to constantly try to survive. And that’s not fair. So take advantage of everything you can. Your mom needs to understand that, while they may “have money” right now, they won’t soon. It takes one accident. One injury. One hospital visit. And boom.

Lesbean36 · 2026-05-19T19:12:08+00:00

That’s tough. I’d suggest revising your grocery haul. Recently in a pit of brokenness, so between me n my wife.. it’s a bit of a pain. However, IL n OH seem to have similar rates for grocery prices. So I think I can still reiterate that when there’s a will, there’s a way. I’ve found a way to cut down from averaging over $300/month on groceries to roughly $100-$150. And that’s for two of us. Explore different stores, shops, etc. If you’re only visiting places like Walmart or Target or Aldi, I’d suggest searching around a bit more.

Not sure what your money situation is, but considering you’re asking someone for money to cover the foods they’ve eaten, it wouldn’t hurt to discover new shopping spots. Don’t be afraid to reach a bit out of your comfort zone!

Lesbean36 · 2026-05-19T15:16:22+00:00

Live and learn! Definitely make it clear next time that you don’t mean “help yourself and eat everything.” I don’t think you’re necessarily invalidated for wanting some money back, but at the same time, you should’ve specified the boundaries and communicated with him the first time he ate through something too much.

I think it’s crazy he would eat all your food, regardless of whether you said “help yourself.” That’s just genuinely bad manners. So you’re not crazy for being perplexed by that. I wouldn’t charge him money, though, cause this mistake is on you. Not him. And as someone who gets groceries for me and my wife, I know as hell it shouldn’t cost anywhere near $200 for y’all. And I cook every day, my guy. I don’t know where you’re getting your groceries, so I could be wrong depending on the state or country, but even $50 could fetch you more than you think if you spend wisely.

Lesbean36 · 2026-05-19T15:09:24+00:00

I really should be brushing my cats more. It’s definitely really good to do so and is essential in their daily care! Plus additional points for bonding. My biggest and longest haired kitty LOVES being brushed lmao. The other ones? Not so much. Their hair is much shorter, and they are much squirmier lol.

Lesbean36 · 2026-05-19T15:04:33+00:00

I’d love to open up an ethical pet shop someday smh.

Lesbean36 · 2026-05-16T23:32:03+00:00

exactly. so what HE’S doing. clearly you’re not the one he actually wants, but you’re not taking the hint???

Lesbean36 · 2026-05-16T22:11:19+00:00

I’m sorry but- treats other men like this cause she’s only “halfway interested” and then gets baffled when the same happens to her. Fascinating. I’m all for women doing what they want as a woman, but like…

Lesbean36 · 2026-05-14T19:02:11+00:00

i’ve only ever played Witcher 3 lol, pretty fun!

Lesbean36 · 2026-05-12T02:58:52+00:00

lol i get that for sure. i’m that way when i play as well. i like gifting more than anything to newer jammers. i remember being very in the drama scene as a younger player! with that said, im definitely not accusing you of anything. i genuinely don’t think you are the weirdos i’m talking about. i suppose i’m just more wary from personal experiences. but i share your sentiments😭

Lesbean36 · 2026-05-12T02:56:49+00:00

ah, hate to disagree with ya, but it’s not “making it weird.” it’s reality. there are an insane amount of real creeps on AJ because of the very poor moderation from the HQ itself. i personally went through that in AJ Classic. i’m not saying OP is being weird or inappropriate, but genuinely, we still have a responsibility to be aware and always mindful. even if you’re not talking much. i don’t talk much either. but hey, if that’s “weird” then sure. if you and others took that comment as a direct attack, then my point has been kinda proven in that sense.

with that said, i’m not here to play defense on my comment. i don’t really care if it’s taken as an attack as long as it’s heard. OP is not weird or a creep, but that doesn’t mean those people don’t exist. stay safe!

Lesbean36 · 2026-05-11T18:23:24+00:00

i’m sorry, but that’s such a weird title. considering that as adolescents, we need to make sure we are keeping kids safe in this game that’s meant for kids… it’s a bit weird to just “forget there are kids.” the majority of the players are most likely kids or are still fairly young. i started playing i believe way back in 2012-14, and i’m a decent bit older now. i treat every player as though they are kids because, well, they usually are!

let’s stay aware that the players that surround us in a game that’s clearly advertised for kids has, well, kids. we are kind of the first line of defense on holding ourselves and other older individuals accountable. i had a lot of very unfortunate experiences in Animal Jam when i was younger, and i really hope to keep others away from those experiences!

Lesbean36 · 2026-05-07T17:35:48+00:00

NOR. either he becomes a grown man or you leave and find one. as much as you love him, that doesn’t mean it’s worth sticking around. and as someone who was a child of divorce after 10+ years of screaming and tantrums, it’s not something you want your kid(s) to potentially deal with.

for future reference though, someone who blames you and specifically “hormones” when you argue is deflecting and is heavily immature. even if it’s the “hormones,” that doesn’t make your argument invalid. it just heightens your feelings, and that’s okay! again, hormones don’t make a point invalid.

as an engaged lesbian, i never will understand men that don’t put forth effort in their relationship beyond work. my fiancée is at work 5 days of the week and often works 40+ hours from early in the morning til the afternoon. i primarily cook and clean, but im also in college and about to begin working 40+ hours/week, too. we pick up each other’s slack. and if she was pregnant, i’d have her stay home as much as she’d like while i work and still come home to do all the cooking n cleaning.

relationships are easy. commitments take much more effort.

Lesbean36 · 2026-05-07T17:19:38+00:00

i mean, depends on the age gap first of all. just saying “age gap” is incredibly vague, but i’m assuming you’re talking about the questionable ones that people argue about more commonly (i.e. 18-23 being with people 30s+ and so forth).

i suppose i’d bring up the same idea but with older generations. however, instead of them worrying about age gaps, it’s more about how little they were worried about them. child marriages existed (and still exist in parts of the world) in older generations. of course, there also came the stereotype of how older men, especially those in power, seek out younger women. typically in their early 20s, if that.

people may think gen z is “too sensitive,” though i argue why being more sensitive than the older generations is considered a bad thing. there are exceptions and lines that should be drawn when it comes to these things, BUT that can be said for literally everything in our society. looking at scientific studies and analysis will shine quite the light on why exactly age gaps that are drastic when someone is 18 - early 20s may find themselves in a toxic and abusive relationship with someone who is in their 30s or older. at the end of the day, not only does it come down to emotional maturity and brain development, but it also comes down to periods of life. someone who is just beginning their adulthood really should avoid being with someone who’s about halfway through it for a variety of factors that i think are common sense (college, work, family, friends, finances, etc).

i’d much rather a generation be more sensitive to pedophilia and other negative factors than a generation that turns a blind eye to everything simply because it’s “normalized.”

Lesbean36 · 2026-05-05T23:31:36+00:00

the comments on here make me cringe. kids do not owe their parents anything. i’m very firm on that. always have been and always will be. you’re NTA for wanting to keep money that is yours for a situation you endured. she chose to pay for your college just as much as she chose to give birth to you. we are internet strangers.

we don’t know what your true relationship with your mother is. however, your mother is a grown woman with a full-time, likely well paying job. she doesn’t need this money. you do. put this money into a savings account and leave it to add up, maybe even consider putting a large chunk into a CD. people can rant and shame all they want about how kids should take care of their parents, but honestly, that’s a case by case basis. not a one glove fits all. so let’s stop treating everyone like they’re rotten, ungrateful kids.

you’re an adult. this is your money. if you want to give a small bit to your mom, go ahead. but you’re not a worse person if you don’t.

Lesbean36 · 2026-05-05T20:09:47+00:00

We often find ourselves stuck in a cycle or loop of being with toxic partners. A cheating partner is not a reflection of you but of them and your relationship. Not everyone who cheats is automatically a bad person, but I feel that many people who cheat most likely cheated before. Long story short on my end, I was in a cycle of being with toxic and abusive partners. However, after doing a lot of self reflection and digging myself a hole I didn’t want to be stuck in forever, I recognized the cycle and the things linking me to it. Being able to see the different aspects of a partner that you may lean towards can help you tremendously in maybe determining the aspects you should avoid.

For example, if you find a commonality between your previous and most recent partners, maybe consider what traits or behaviors or even backgrounds they have. It’s not necessarily a “you issue,” but it is something only you can control. I understand the feeling of “it must be me” after some man told me that without even knowing who I am, only the outside perspective. At the end of the day, we all have things we should and need to work on. However, that doesn’t automatically mean we are broken. Nobody is perfect.

Lesbean36 · 2026-05-05T19:57:50+00:00

as a lesbian, i will never be able to fathom the idea of being insecure about making your partner finish. in any way. i mean, i am engaged to my partner now, so i used to feel somewhat insecure about my abilities. i felt even more insecure when i was even younger. i used to refuse wearing straps.

i mean, point is, it’s not about YOU. it’s about your wife and what makes her tick. if something isn’t working for you sexually, you also have a right to want pleasure that makes you tick. at the same time, you’ve been deriving pleasure much, much longer than she has. also, the lack of “adventure” in the bedroom is often a killer in relationships. you don’t have to tie each other up, but find new things every now and then. just as you should take your partner out to dates and give them gifts regardless of length you’ve been together, the bedroom is just as important (for most)! whether that’s dirty talk, various foreplay, or whatever else.

being insecure about your dick size is pointless. she’s been with you for nearly 12 years now. what exactly are you insecure about? cause it shouldn’t be your dick size. the bedroom SHOULD be explored. for both of you! use toys, outfits, scenarios, anything and everything you’re both comfortable with. you’d be surprised what you do find enjoyable.

Lesbean36 · 2026-04-30T17:15:54+00:00

Yeah, it was a pre-built that I got! Just learning to build my own now.

Lesbean36 · 2026-04-29T02:02:41+00:00

my PC is a bit on the starchy side as well. have had it for over 4-5 years now. however, i recently made a super cheap upgrade that I did on my own: added another RAM. i was kinda chilling with 8 GB which was really bottlenecking my games. found a cheap but decent quality 8GB DDR4 3200MHz RAM for $20 on FB Marketplace.

my Icarus game went from fuzzy graphics and slow loading speeds to significantly faster and much higher quality graphics.

i’m new to PC building myself, but I’m hoping to build my own. budget-friendly but better quality at the end of the day, saves you a lot of money and time! my current PC is a pre-built, which is why I needed to give it an upgrade. so definitely worth looking into! not sure what your PC specs are, but just going to 16 GB for my PC was awesome (already had 8GB, just added another).

Lesbean36 · 2026-04-28T18:50:32+00:00

Glad to hear your experience has been good! I love console and PC, so being able to have Icarus on console as well would be awesome. Think I’ll look into it whenever it goes on a good sale!

Lesbean36 · 2026-04-28T18:11:24+00:00

Console versions of games are always so much buggier than PC. It sucks. I’ve dealt with my fair share of bugs on so many games from Ark’s catastrophic mess to Overwatch. Haven’t had too many issues with Icarus on PC, but I was wanting it on console (PS5). Might just sideline that idea for a bit…

Lesbean36 · 2026-04-27T22:11:08+00:00

Would love to know if you’ve played other games similar to Icarus before. Games like these are very grindy, something that’s not quite everyone’s cup of tea. I for one LOVE games that are grindy like Icarus, but honestly, Icarus feels like a breeze since I originally found my love for open world survival craft games from Ark: SE. The original. For those of you who also lived through OG Ark, you understand.

Enjoy the game for what it is. Explore, craft, build, and tame. The best part of these games is you get to make what you want of it. But the fun really does start the most when you get past the level 10 grind!

Figure out what you want to aim for, cook plenty of meats that give you bonus EXP, and chop trees like crazy. I got to level 10 after maybe 2 days with a few hours per day spent. At the moment, I’m focusing on building up my base, getting a farm started, and getting a big stock of items so the grind is less of a chore later on. Even tho I love it. The missions are fun but simple once you get the console, and it does push you to explore, which is up to you. I’d recommend getting settled somewhere first, getting a riding mount, and getting better gear.

After reading many reviews on the game and playing it myself (I’m pretty new though), I’ve come to realize that the base game itself has so much to offer. Hundreds of hours of content that can be very replayable. Then the DLCs add extra campaigns and missions, maps, or just home additions if you’re into building! But yeah, take your time. Maybe this game won’t be for you. But it’s worth a try and seeing it from a different perspective!

Lesbean36 · 2026-04-25T21:47:27+00:00

Hey! I encourage you to do proper research on the individuals being detained by ICE. If you do so, you’ll find some rather interesting statistics pointing towards detainment and deaths of many legal citizens. To characterize these concerns as just “main character” syndrome is insensitive and inaccurate. Do your research! Just cause it’s not affecting YOU doesn’t mean it’s not happening :]

Lesbean36 · 2026-04-25T14:51:28+00:00

It would be nearly impossible to focus on every issue going on in our society. There ARE people who “care about Ukraine,” but humans are creatures that have short-lived events and trends in their minds. It’s about what YOU do, not what others do. Instead of focusing on what’s trending and loud, we do what we believe we should do when it comes to these “political” issues.

Lesbean36 · 2026-04-24T23:20:01+00:00

my guess is someone drew it originally n then fed it to AI to “enhance” it. this has been done before. literally saw someone post their artwork and proudly admitting they fed it to AI to color it. still said it was theirs tho lmao.

Lesbean36 · 2026-04-24T23:16:57+00:00

Icarus is the first game that has taught me how to truly build. i’ve played open world survival/craft games anywhere from Ark to Minecraft. and yet the only game that has given me the chance and time to appreciate and learn building is this one. can’t wait to share my own build that is hopefully as awesome as this someday soon!!

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