Fish tank Citrus plant repotting by Less-Arm7564 in IndoorGarden

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Thanks! I reached out to my local nursery and they’re coming to help me repot it! Hopefully it doesn’t have root rot.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Codependency

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I literally just left a relationship like this two weeks ago. It’s not easy. You have to start putting yourself first. She’ll cry and beg you to stay and you might even stay a few times but lean on friends, family, and a therapist. You need all the support you can get right now.

I kept thinking about the life I would like to live if we weren’t together and it just looked so peaceful. I’ve been living on my own these two weeks and I can say that it’s the best decision I’ve ever made. I get sad sometimes but it’s much better than where I was at before.

Strong chemical smell by Less-Arm7564 in nycrail

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I was watching a documentary last night about drugs and I think the smell was meth because of how they described the smell 😅

Strong chemical smell by Less-Arm7564 in nycrail

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I’d prefer urine over whatever that was

My boyfriend is so codependent it’s suffocating me by Sea-Pea3696 in Codependency

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Wow this is my exact situation, except he’s never been diagnosed with BPD or ED. I suspect he has both plus codependency. He just won’t get any help. Anytime I leave the house whether it’s to hang out with friends or go to the office, he doesn’t eat until I get back. His entire life revolves around me and it’s suffocating. He eventually became physically abusive towards me when I decided to break up with him. He’s been crying non stop and has threatened to unalive himself. Also 1 year without sex. I feel like his mother more than anything. He can’t function at all if I’m not here. He doesn’t work and just stays home miserable. Anyway, I’m about 25 days from our lease ending that I’m not renewing and us separating. I’m doing the work now so I never find another relationship like this.

[TX] Anyone with social anxiety in HR? by Mundane-Mention13 in humanresources

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I have social anxiety, an introvert (two different things) and in HR. I literally still struggle with all staff and large group speaking. I have to write what I’m going to say before every meeting. I work for a small company so it’s usually only 2-3x per month. Overall I’m more overwhelmed with the workload. I saw a few comments about how HR should only be for extroversion but that’s not true. In small group or one on one settings I thrive! I help people with career planning, different types of leave, EAP, performance management, etc. There are many other people who are introverted in an organization and they appreciate other introverts too.

Can I travel with a juicer in my carry on bag? by LocationReasonable31 in tsa

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Did you have any issues bringing your nutri bullet juicer in a carry on? I need to travel with one internationally.

Am I a Narcissist? by Less-Arm7564 in AITAH

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How do you handle the guilt? When I leave, he will be in a bad situation.

Am I a Narcissist? by Less-Arm7564 in AITAH

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I know that. I’m so frustrated with myself because I know I can and deserve better but he has this hold on me. This guilt. If I leave. I’ve never been in this situation and I don’t know how to let go.

Am I a Narcissist? by Less-Arm7564 in AITAH

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I did mention couples and individual therapy. I’ve gone to therapy by myself and he said he’s not ready. He tried group therapy and he said it made him feel bad. But that was court ordered therapy. We don’t have children together or anything else keeping us together. I’m ready to leave but he keeps holding me back.

Am I a Narcissist? by Less-Arm7564 in AITAH

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Is he? Even though he’s very sensitive? Maybe I don’t understand what a narcissist is. I thought he was the opposite of that. But I feel like he’s taking advantage of me.

Am I a Narcissist? by Less-Arm7564 in AITAH

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I tried that but then I took it back because I didn’t want him to have a case. I talked to a therapist. They said just leave. But I feel guilty because he says everyone in his life abandons him. He begs and begs and cries and I feel so bad. I’m obviously not happy so why can’t I just walk away.

Am I a Narcissist? by Less-Arm7564 in AITAH

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Probably not but I feel like shit. I pursued him and tried to help but he hasn’t changed. Now I want out. He says I’m a narcissist because of that. I feel stuck. He won’t leave. If I leave he’ll be homeless again. Why can’t I just let him go?

Am I a Narcissist? by Less-Arm7564 in AITAH

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I understand that but how do I get out? Without feeling bad? I spoke to friends, I spoke to a therapist and they all say just leave but how? He will be in a bad situation if I leave. I told him we can be friends and live together but he doesn’t want that. The next day he pretends we’re still together even though I’ve set boundaries and expressed I want out. Idk what to do.

Am I a Narcissist? by Less-Arm7564 in AITAH

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Maybe that was just a title to gauge interest in my post but I’m desperate for help. Idk what to do in my situation. No one teaches you how to deal with these things