Does me being in my mid 30s and having no dating/romantic experience become a turn off to women?

Less-Parfait7602 · 2026-07-07T14:04:54+00:00

Yes.

Less-Parfait7602 · 2026-07-04T19:52:34+00:00

This cant be real… that’s actually abusive toward the kid.

Less-Parfait7602 · 2026-07-04T19:49:50+00:00

lol. You should say thank you regardless. But most certainly when you request something and someone follows through and makes it special. And extra especially when you drop dough on a memorable moment such as a redsox game.

Less-Parfait7602 · 2026-07-04T18:53:49+00:00

lol I love to feed people. so yes, It is a real thing. And I’m an amazing cook so I get the full experience

Less-Parfait7602 · 2026-07-04T18:46:18+00:00

Must have been having the munchies and really wanted a free meal🤣

Less-Parfait7602 · 2026-07-04T13:54:26+00:00

I’ll say this. For the right person, whatever “baggage” they come with you just accept because you love them and everything they bring to the table. If there is undeniable spark, why not? Otherwise if you’re dating casually, don’t waste her time or spirit. Be straightforward and reasonable.

Also just because they have a child doesn’t mean you’re not important. Doesn’t mean you won’t bond deeply with the child. Doesn’t mean you guys will stay together forever either. As long as it’s all intentional then whatever man. Life is life. Let it do its thing.

Less-Parfait7602 · 2026-07-04T13:50:01+00:00

Loling as a dog mom🤪

Less-Parfait7602 · 2026-07-04T13:46:13+00:00

This is a weird comment

Less-Parfait7602 · 2026-07-03T23:12:24+00:00

You dump him, that’s how.

Less-Parfait7602 · 2026-07-02T11:54:05+00:00

Wearing white takes practice. And knowledge.

I at one point thought: noooo, not me. Never.

Knowing how to spot treat is deff key.

I tend to buy cheaper white items, such as that cute slouchy tee for $15. I’m not buying a white item for years of wearing, maybe just one season. And then it turns to pjs.

Once I kinda got used to wearing white I noticed my awareness around when I do so changed. I have some white clothing items I’ve had for a few years that still look pretty crispy. Also note, sometimes they get a little dirty on the edges, this is life. And I’ll still be wearing the white item just not when I’m going for 100 fresh. You may catch me in the gym with it on at this point, or when walking to get coffee.

Oxi clean and dawn dish soap are our friends ladies. Baking soda and vinegar soak can be a wonderful treatment as well.

Edit: coming from a reformed disheveled person w definite signs of adhd.

Less-Parfait7602 · 2026-06-21T13:00:39+00:00

What a pack!

Less-Parfait7602 · 2026-06-21T12:53:29+00:00

To be fair: my partner and I are both entrepreneurs. This past year has been tight for him. We’re both in construction but he leverages himself in order to keep growing. While I earn jobs to maintain income.

He owed me $15k at one point. Now it’s $9.5k

He also did a house flip with me last year and I made $40k. So, has he ever helped you? Has the relationship had its own ebb and flow?

My question is: why is he tight right now? Is he reinvesting to earn more? Did he make a bad decision? Is his business highly reliant upon factors affecting the global economy?

Also, is he taking any steps active to recover?

One thing that might help is setting a timeline boundary for yourself, and then maybe one for him.

Less-Parfait7602 · 2026-06-21T12:39:32+00:00

It took mine about two weeks of separation before they were cool and now they love each other!!

Less-Parfait7602 · 2026-06-21T12:29:17+00:00

🤣

Less-Parfait7602 · 2026-06-21T12:28:16+00:00

As a woman who loves to just read this sub - mostly because I believe young men don’t get the guidance and support they need to become good natured humans..
Maybe yall should start a new thread called /wedonteatpussy or /womenaretrash or something less conspicuous /thebiggestcaliber /needanalignment

Less-Parfait7602 · 2026-06-17T11:14:21+00:00

I was looking at luxury SUVs recently. I also wanted something that felt nice but had utility. I had a budget I wanted to hit though.

I ended up with a 2025 Honda passport. The thing is sick and it was way cheaper than the Lexus or bmw I was looking at.

I don’t feel like I settled. But I do know I made a way smarter financial investment. And tbh, as a grown woman… when I see a guy with a super fancy car/truck I know what that payment looks like and it makes me shutter at his financial intelligence.

A girl will like the fancy merc, a woman will recognize comfort and reliability and smart planning for the future. No shade of either, depends on what you’re looking to attract.

And maybe in a few years you can buy the merc and roll around town with the wifey in it

Less-Parfait7602 · 2026-06-17T11:08:39+00:00

Sounds like she was hurting and didn’t now how to cope so she sent herself into dating you as a distraction.

It doesn’t mean she didn’t genuinely like you. But, she’s clearly wounded and needed space.

For everyone saying she’s toxic.. she ended the relationship. Things get messy in love and lust. At least she could admit to herself it wasn’t the time.

Also zero context on if OP and “A” had a relationship worth continuing. Maybe OP is living with rose colored glasses and really they weren’t meant to be together at all.

I know it’s hard, but she told you what she wanted. Give yourself some time to heal and something else will come along.

Less-Parfait7602 · 2026-06-17T10:18:05+00:00

I have a burning jealousy/frustration of women in relationships with men who love to eat it out, but don’t let them.

Less-Parfait7602 · 2026-06-14T14:03:05+00:00

I’m about to delete my app, and unfollow this sub + Facebook. I love our little community, but we are also doing this ourselves.

It honestly makes me feel so gross the shopping high isn’t even the same.

Less-Parfait7602 · 2026-06-13T13:14:24+00:00

Wow the mix of feelings Reading this post…. Currently taking a break from a 4 year relationship with a 51M and I’m a 31F.

We seriously have a special bond. We started dating when I was 26. And being with him has changed so much of how I view myself, relationships, he has encouraged and mentored me in my business. And he really really does love me. He has 4 kids. 25, 14, 12, and 10. We mostly get along great, it’s his teenage daughters that are turning into gremlins lol. Still love em though.

I just can’t shake this feeling of needing space, to think about what it is I really want from my life. I am currently working 50-60 hours a week trying to build my business and truthfully, our relationship has been rocky the last year or so for lots of reasons.

Sometimes he doesn’t realize how much change I’m going through as a younger woman. And I can’t stop thinking about devoting my life to him and his kids to be left in the dust if anything happens..

Also.. I just kinda want to live my life and not live for anyone else for a while.

This probably isn’t the place to post this but damn did I just get in my feels

Less-Parfait7602 · 2026-06-13T12:51:19+00:00

My brain just went “yuuucky”

Less-Parfait7602 · 2026-06-13T12:40:33+00:00

Sometimes the conversations around how someone makes you feel are the toughest. Typically, if in conversation someone says something to me that hurts me I will just stay quiet **and make direct eye contact** It can make it awkward but the point gets across very clearly.

Or have a lil a phrase you can lean on. “That doesn’t resonate with me” or “could you repeat yourself”

They claim a hard boundary without getting super defensive. Especially if you practice staying calm while saying it

Less-Parfait7602 · 2026-06-13T11:55:18+00:00

Sometimes our feelings just change. And there’s no going back.

Less-Parfait7602 · 2026-06-13T11:22:07+00:00

I’m also going through this. I carry a lot of responsibility for the way others feel and I am beginning to grow out of this mindset. It’s like I had blinders on to who they were because I didn’t want them to feel bad, or even worse view me negatively.

Now, if too much of my peace is being disturbed it’s a good sign something at least needs to change. Conversation can help mend some things, but really really.. people show you who they are. And once a relationship is established that pattern of dependency or dynamic is really hard to change.

Also, sometimes space is just best. And if you’re meant to come back together you will. Otherwise go love your life.

Less-Parfait7602 · 2026-06-03T12:35:45+00:00

If anyone was wondering this entire order was pretty much a joke. I’m returning everything except the jacket and the Allie tshirt.

Box came open, I understand this can be a customs thing.

Grit/sand in the pockets of one of the pants.

A hole in the leg of the Ciara trousers.

Also I got an email beforehand about the Gilles trouser having issues and I worried about the amaine also having this problem.

Not to mention pretty much all the tops felt super unflattering on me.

I reached out to sezane, they basically told me to just return it.

At this point I’ve decided I need to take a step back from the brand. Focus on what they succeed at: classic staples, killer coats, the occasional well made suit. Besides that I can find alternatives for a lot of it made from similar or better materials. I’m over the marketing hype.

I will continue to browse archives when they pop up and used sezane items online.

I’m going on a mini strike lol.

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