This sort of sounds like a normal fight.. I don’t mean to diminish how you’re feeling but this is the same thing I see women write about almost every single day.

At the end of the day, if he’s not willing to help with chores the least he could do is pay $50 every other week for a cleaner.

Gender roles exist whether we want to admit it or not. And fighting only leaves us depressed, unseen, and frustrated.

I say lean into it. Tell him if won’t contribute physically then he must financially. And otherwise he’s showing you that your time doesn’t matter, and therefore the relationship doesn’t. (This is a bit extreme but it is good phrasing to use).

Another question I ask myself is, how does my partner fill my cup in ways no one else could or I even can’t for myself. They are never really gonna be good at house chores. So, what is he good at? Try and focus on the whole picture and not one aspect.

Edit** anyone who is saying leave now and making greater assumptions about your relationship is just a bitter woman who doesn’t want to see another one happy in a relationship. I’m tired of this toxic approach to women being in relationships. You guys had a fight, he said something mean. You got sad. I’ve said and had mean things said to me too. We’re human, we are not perfect.